A Huge Announcement

[Nathan]

Mainly because in the morning, you won't remember what it was you were unhappy about anyway.  Things always look better in the morning. 

That's for sure. We both have fog/memory issues, so that's actually really good advice

We're still working on the details, dates and such. We're probably not going to have a huge wedding. The ring is a bit... humble, but it will do for now! (We're probably going to update them in a few years)

But thank you all for your kind words, advice and support. It means a great deal to me.

[Chana M]

Congratulations, Nathan!

Memory/fog issues could be positive in a relationship, as long as you've both got them!  And as long as you always remember why you love and chose each other.

And 'humble' is good.  We got the cheapest of cheap wedding rings - 30 years ago this July - and never changed them.  It's the memories, not the financial value, that give rings their meaning.

Wishing you both a lifetime of loving support - and fun!

[Pooh]

Nathan, my husband and I eloped with rings for both of us, that cost about $40 altogether.  Then on our 5th Annv. and our 2 sons looking on, he gave me a set of diamonds.  I wear the wedding set and my original wedding band together. 

We wanted to see if the marriage would work before we spent all that money.    I guess it did, here we are still together.

Good luck and God Bless you both,

Pooh

[ktfabian]

CONGRATULATIONS NATHAN-

My engagement ring cost $126 and it came out of the joint account we set up for wedding expenses.  My bridesmaids, just 3, made their own dresses from fabric we found on sale, and our reception was in the church hall catered at $6.59 per person (this was 25 years ago, but even then that was cheap).

Like Pooh, my marriage has not been all wine and roses, we've had some pretty darn tough patches.  But you and your fiance have the advantage of knowing about your medical issues going into the marriage.  So many of us got hit with it sometime after the I do's when "for sickness and in health" gets stretched a bit.

Best of luck to you and I hope you have along, happy marriage,
Tracy

[ohiolady]

BEST WISHES FOR A GREAT FUTURE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Katybarstool]

Nathan

We were broke when we were planning our wedding in 1975. My ring cost 12 pounds in sterling money - cheap even then. It was so thin, we thought we would have to replace it within a year or two. Guess what, in our 34th year, the pattern is still there and it looks as good as new.

Who needs expensive jewellerhy anyway - it's what it signifies that's important.

Kathyx

[Dolly Dimples]

    Nathan,  What lovely news among all the doom and gloom....    Love carries us through all..  My warmest congratulations to you both..
     
                              Hip Hip Hooray!!!

   Cheers Dolly x

[Sjenny]

CONGRATULATIONS Nathan!  You are one lucky fellow and she will always be happy if you never forget that!

One of my twin daughters is getting married this summer.  Whew, it is quite a production getting ready for the wedding!

Happiness to you both!

Sue

[djean87]

congradulations !! wish you the best.me and my new husband since may 25th 2008 I thank god for him everyday because right after getting married in july was when I got my diagnosis and he got it right along with  me so to speak.he is what gets me through everyday. like others have said never go to bed mad.and say I love you once everyday.wish you many years of happiness. Best wishes!!!

[Bucky]

PARTY???  CAKE???  I'll be there!!   

CONGRATULATIONS NATHAN!!! 

My free advice for you . . . communication, communication, communication.  Don't assume the other knows how you feel - even after dropping all the hints you can think of to let them know . . . talk about it, plain and simple.  Talk, talk, talk . . . . a couple hugs and I love you's in there don't hurt either.   

Have fun planning for the wedding (although, as a guy, you probably just have to show up on THE day) - just remember, as much excitement that there is on the wedding day, it's the FROM THIS DAY FORWARD that matters the most.

May you and your bride-to-be have a lifetime of love and happiness together.

Bucky

[Gerri]

Congratulation on your engagement to both of you.

Hugs

Gerri

[Epson]

Nathan,

That's fantastic, we married people are always jealous of swinging singles.  That's all about to change my man

[kimbo]

There it is great advice, Epson just said it, read between the lines..........Do not quit swinging when you get married. Don't let the intensities of life suck the joy  and sense of humor out of your marriage. Never quit dating always take time to nurture your relationship by continuing to date and spend time together.

Good job Epson 

[Nathan]

My free advice for you . . . communication, communication, communication.  Don't assume the other knows how you feel - even after dropping all the hints you can think of to let them know . . . talk about it, plain and simple.  Talk, talk, talk . . . . a couple hugs and I love you's in there don't hurt either.   

Oh, definitely. We both talk all day, every day. Even if we aren't together, we're furiously texting back and forth just to keep in touch.
We both have our medical issues, but as it was said above, it's good we both know what we're getting into. There aren't any surprises here.

A pair of family rings for her appeared last minute, so we ended up using those. We tied the knot last night, rather ironically at a local hospital's chapel (So my dad could come. He has Sarcoidosis, and has been in the hospital since November following various bowel/pancreas issues.) We sort of threw it together last minute, but we still had quite the showing. My grandfather presided over the wedding as the minister, and it was overall, a huge blast.
We're actually going to have another much bigger ceremony/reception later, when everyone is healthy again (both sides have a number of sick people right now), which is going to be the big performance. I really look forward to it.

kimbo: That isn't a worry. She is the source of my joy and humor. So long as I am with her, I can't be unhappy. We still date regularly, and plan to continue!

Thank you all so much again. Your love and support means the world. If you could keep us in your prayers for health, and a happy marriage, I would greatly appreciate it.

[wednesday mc haggis]

Nathan

you just made me cry , i know there are health issues and right now your putting the big bash on hold, but there is something wildly romantic and your story and i truly wish you both every happiness possible, she sounds like your best friend and your everything, your rich and blessed both of you , cherish it

T x