My Daddy died

[kathylee]

Not sure what to say. I havent been able to have my feelings about this cause it happened 5 days before my daughter was scheduled for major surgery ( wrote about this elsewhere) and the second day I was in the hospital for the myasthenic crisis......It is kinda a blur. Then because my myasthenia got worse again I was readmited to the hospital so i was in the hospital for Daddy's funeral. My dad was was the closest thing to a Dad my youngest daughter had..the one that was due for the surgery. She was soooooooooo mad that I couldnt come...and I hate that I wasnt there for her. I was harder on her than anyone....I should have been there. For my Dad it was a blessing that he went. He was 87 and had addtional strokes that lleft him unalbleto swallow. He hadnt talked inteligably for some time. I miss talking to or just hearing  Dad talk. But that hadnt happened for years like it did when Daddy and would go to grammas and grandpas for coffe just him and me.
My sister and mom decided that to put him into the hospitalf or invasive tests and ultimately a feeding tube would not be what he would want or the loving thing to do.
Thats all I can say for now.
Kathylee

[eyeamdry]

Kathylee, I'm so sorry about the loss of your Father.  Please accept my condolences.  Lucy

[lynnmarie219]

((((((((Kathylee))))))) I am so sorry for the loss of your dear dad and for all that you have gone through. I don't know the words to say....but do know that I am saying a prayer for you and hoping you can find some peace for yourself soon.

Sending lots of hugs your way....please come back here if you need someone...we are here for you!   

[Scottietottie]

I'm so sorry Kathylee. It must have been so hard not to have been there as well. Your daughter will get over her anger. She's just grieving and hitting out at the world and unfortunately, those closest seem to get it first.

Take care - Scottie

[irish]

kathylee, My deepest sympathy goes out to you and thank you for sharing this with us. This was really a very hard time for you and as the time passes I hope that you can remember more of what went on so that you can talk more with your daughter.

It was unfortunate that you were not able to attend the funeral but sometimes things happen that we don't understand. Please know that I am thinking of you and please rest and de-stress so you don't have any more crises. Hugs Irish

[kimbo]

Kathylee,

So sorry for the loss and for your daughter also. Huggs for both of you and prayers of great comfort to you and your whole family.
Maybe when the time is right you may have a remembering party. It is so pleasant to remember good times and fun times and share great memories.

I will pray for a good recovery for your daughter. And also for your health.   May you feel love and comfort and peace in due time.

kim

[Pooh]

So sorry about your Dad and daughter.  I hope with time the pain will go and the healing will begin.  It's never easy to lose a parent or grandparent. 

Hugs and God Bless,
Pooh

[susanep]

KathyLee, I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your precious father, and I am sorry for all you and your daughter are going through. I have said a prayer for both of you, and your family.

susanep

[Katybarstool]

Kathylee

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter.

God bless.

Kathyx

[Linda196]

Kathylee, please accept my condolences, too.

What a terrible time for all of you, facing loss, illness and surgery, and unable to be together. Kim's thought of a "remembering party" sounds wonderful, and what an opportunity to celebrate your Dad's life. Your Mom and Sister made a loving and brave decision.

[Skylar]

I'm sorry, what a sad and stressful time for your whole family - please accept my condolences for your loss.

Skylar

[modistee]

I am sooooo sorry Kathylee.  *big hugs*

Modistee

[Sjenny]

Kathylee:

I am so sorry for your loss.  Please accept my deepest sympathies for you and your family.

Sue

[Cheryl]

Kathylee,
   I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your dad.   It must have been torment for you to be unable to attend his funeral.  I get the feeling that you are carrying a lot of guilt about it.   It's not your fault.   You don't deserve to carry this extra burden, when you already have so much to deal with.   
  He sounds like a wonderful dad and grandfather.   I hope you and your daughter can find a mutual peace of mind in remembering and loving him together.
   God bless you.
Cheryl

[LenV]

I'm so very sorry about all that has happened to you.  I was unable to be at the funeral for my Mom so I can understand the feelings you are having.  Your Dad would know and understand why you weren't there.  I'm sure he's looking down and saying don't fret about this, just take care of you.

My sincerest condolences to you and your family,
Billye