Not even tears of sympathy

[itssue]

Scottie,

Losing someone you love, regardless of how, is the worse thing one must endure.  My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your friend.

Sue

[Rania]

(((((((((( gentle hugs )))))))))))   

Rania

[Sandra]

How sad, can't even make sense out of it. Mental illness is the crulest. I lost a cousin to suicide. He was a lovley young man he used to come play shinny/hockey or "hackey" as my hubby and his gang called it on our pond. He had  schizo as well and had started meds and tried real hard but couldn't handle the way they made him feel he struggled so til finally one day he couldn't hold on anymore. I still see his bright toothy smile, and so polite. What we all knew was only the tip of the iceburg I suppose and I think sometimes God works in mysterious ways. I bid these young fellows both the peace in death they never recieved in life and acceptance for the family. Sandra

[fatburningmachine]

Aw Scottie, I am so sorry to hear of your devastating news. It seems all the more heartbreaking that he was in a hospital to get the help he needed. I hope you all get answers  know that your are remembered in all of our prayers.

[kimbo]

Scottie.
I am so sorry for your friend and her family. I am sure your hugs and friendship will mean a lot to her at this time of confusion and sadness.
kim

[salsen]

Scottie I truly understand your heartbreak.  My good friend lost her only son through suicide.  A wonderful man in his late thirties with a daughter and two young sons left to be raised.  It is truly a sadness that rocks your soul.  I also understand the struggle of schizophrenia as my first cousin has struggled for years with this disease.  His adult life has been between his fathers home and treatment homes. 

We will probably never understand the struggle they go through.  Please be there for your friend and listen when she needs to talk.  That is the biggest help you can provide.  My friend tells me all the time how many people get really uncomfortable when she brings up her son's name.  How sad. 

I will keep you all in my prayers for peace of heart most especially for your friend's son that he is now finding peace.

[Scottietottie]

Hi

Thank you all so much for your replies. They have been very comforting.

Meanwhile the heartbreak for the family goes on. A post mortem was inconclusive but did not think that asphyxiation had been the cause of death. They are still waiting for toxicology results. Basically it was not a suicide.

They won't issue a death certificate until the cause can be better established so there can be no funeral yet.

My friend and her family are busy painting the house. It keeps them busy and keeps people out because they are not dealing too well with visitors. I felt privileged because I was allowed in although I would have left in a heartbeat if I'd been asked to.

At the moment - it looks like the hospital's screwed up on medication and the police are a bit worried about having tasered him the previous week too. His parents just want answers and a funeral and the beginning of closure. They don't want a court case or compensation or anything.

Thank you again for your thoughts and prayers.

Scottie

[genko_b]

Dear Scottie:

Sorry I'm coming so late to this - I've been away for the week, just back this morning. My heart goes out to your friend as she is going through a triple grief, losing her son to schizophrenia and then death, and now to have no closure on the reasons. Hopefully soon she will be able to bury him ("Tuck him in," as my friend says) and honor his life and memory.

You are a good friend to her.

Genko

[Katybarstool]

Scottie

That is shocking. His poor family must begoing through h**l.  I'm so glad you are there for them.  I hope they are able to 'tuck' their son in soon.

Kathyx

[LenV]

Scottie,
I'm late with this.  Had lots of problems and been missing.  I'm so sorry to hear of this.  We lost a young friend thru a needless death and it is just so hard.  I pray for closure for the family and for you.

Billye