Not even tears of sympathy

[Scottietottie]

Hi

My eyes aren't as dry as many of yours are. They improved with hot compresses, massage and Plaquenil - and maybe fish oil too. Sometimes I wonder if I have Lupus rather than SjS. That's what my bloodwork used to say but my eyes felt gritty and my mouth is dry.

Well my eyes may have improved but I could have done with crying today and they just wouldn't.  I don't cry often, never have, so I don't get the opportunity very often to see whether I have real tears or not.

I went to work today to be met with the news that a friend's son had died the previous night. She's a colleague as well as a friend - but a friend first. Her son has been scizophrenic for a number of years now. He was in a secure unit at a local hospital. They've tried loads of medication but none of it has helped.

After tying up a few loose ends at work I went to see the family to see if there was anything I could do - like shopping - or giving anyone a lift. Anything. I wanted to be able to cry with them too. they don't even know what's happened yet. The police told them he'd suffocated himself with a pillow but that sounds incredibly implausible. The hospital won't speak to them. I just hope they find out soon, because it's tearing them apart.

Thanks for listening - Scottie

[Cricket]

Scottie
I am so sorry for your friend and you.  It hurts us when we have to see our friends to through such hurts.  I also had a friend of my daughters 9 weeks baby die this past week.

You are a good friend to offer to help.  I will keep you and them in my prayers

Cricket

[Pooh]

Aww Scottie, it's so terrible anytime to lose a child, but this doesn't sound good.  I hope your friend gets some answers real soon and have a resolution.  

She may not realize it right now, but she has a great friend in you.  I will keep them and you in my thoughts and prayers.

Hugs, Pooh

[Katybarstool]

Scottie

I'm so sorry to hear your news.

I can't imagine what the family are going through. When Michael was 18 he decided he was going to travel 300 miles to live with my sister  whilel he 'sorted his head out'.  He had had a lot going on his his life. Anyway, he only stayed a couple of weeks and then,much to our relief he came home. Only then did I find out that he had actually gone to end his life. Thank God, he didn't. It's so tough being young, without having mental health issues too.

I will remember you friends family, and you, in my prayers.

Kathyx

[JannaLee]

Scottie darling,

Your news is heartbreakingly tragic.  I am deeply sorry for the family and the young man who was plagued by mental health disease.

It is a real sad day.

Janna

[irish]

scottie, This is just soo sad. As much as I hate cancer I think I hate schizophrenia more as it robs us of so many intelligent people at such a young age. I can just imagine that you friend and family are really looking to answers to this situation. I hope they find the truth soon. I think that no matter what the truth is it needs to be known so they can go on with their lives.

Know that I am thinking and sending up some prayers for them in their grief. Irish

[Skylar]

I'm so sorry to hear such sad news (((HUGS)))
Skylar

[YICKelly]

What a sad situation.  It is incrediably hard to lose a child, but then not knowing the why and hows, would make it so much worse.  Prayers coming for you and that family.   Stay strong for them and know we will support you here.

[wordnerd]

Scottie,

I'm so sorry to hear such sad news.  I hope they get some answers soon because that I sure is just adding to their grief.  My thoughts are with you and your friend.  *hugs*

-Lauren

[Scottietottie]

Thanks to everybody. It is so good to be able to come here and just unload. It's much appreciated.

[quiger]

So sorry to hear such sad and tragic news Scottie. You are such a wonderful friend, regardless of the lack of tears.  So many times people unintentionally neglect friends when tragedy hits because they don't know what to say. But, you are doing exactly what they need just by being there for them. They are facing some difficult times ahead and they are fortunate to have you.

I sure hope they get some answers soon.

quig

[lynnmarie219]

I'm so sorry to hear this news Scottie...its bad enough with the loss of this young mans life, but not having answers to the questions is just added on top of it.....I hope that the answers come soon so that the healing can begin. You and your friend as well as the rest of his family are in my thoughts and prayers!

I'm very sorry.....((((((((((Scottie))))))))))

[gr8nammy]

I am so so sorry Scottie!    Words really do fail one at such a time...sorry seems so benign doesnt it?

[Sjenny]

Dear Scottie:

That is heartbreaking news.  My thoughts and deepest sympathies to you and your good friend.

Sue

[Cheryl]

Scottie,
   I'd like to add my sympathy.   What shocking news for a parent to receive!  Thank you for being there for your friend.
Cheryl