Mom (me) getting a little freaked

[meow]

Diilards is having their annual summer sale, so you will find just the right thing. Don't be afraid to do a pants thing---some nice lightweight, silky pants with a silky tank top  and an open, flowing, knee-length jacket would work beautifully. Don't go all stiff and formal. Go with beautiful, light, soft and summery. Put a flower in your hair, and get out the pearls. You'll be comfortable and gorgeous!

[iraisin]

ooooh, I feel pretty just imagining that!

[Meld256]

iraisin,

Sorry I'm late on all this, but finally had to know why you were freaking out.

Now I understand; lots going on!  Why is being the Mother of the Groom/Bride so stressful? Shouldn't be that way, should it?   

But, you've got house things and hurricane issues and...and doggies troubles. 
I like your battle plan.  Go for it!

And yes, meow, good idea on the outfit.  Why do all the dresses and jackets promoted as "Mother of Bride/Groom" look like something an 85-year-old woman would wear??

Take care, my dear!
Melinda

[iraisin]

Meld! That's what I was thinking too! I'm 44, lost a lot of weight this past year, and want to look good. They either look like hoochy dresses or really old.

I like the separate set Meow suggested.

I have bible study tonight, but I'll be shopping around every other night this week. My big worry is buying something that doesn't have to be altered (I'm short). I'm afraid I won't get it back in time for the wedding.

I'm really tired this morning and want to stay home - but I'm conducting a big photo shoot today, have about 8 models and three different pieces of equipment to shoot. It's gonna be an "all-dayer" on my feet. Not really looking forward to all that. I'll be away from my desk all day and will have a load of work when I get back.

I think I'm going to be in bed all weekend!

[Meld256]

Hoochy dresses-   I know!

Our daughter got married 3 years ago and I had a hard time finding something "nice" but most of what I found looked like for someone 25 or 85.  Finally found an appropriate just below the knee dress- at Penney's.

Separates are great. Our SIL's Mom wore silky, wide, black pants and a silky top and looked awesome.

Hope you can hang in there today; you really have a long day being on your feet.  Get some well-deserved rest later. 

[meow]

My 84-year-old MIL wouldn't wear some of that old-lady stuff. It all looks like it came from the 1950s--stiff, shiny, pink and blue,  makes you look hot (as in, SWEATY), FAT and OLD. Uncomfortable, and obscenely overpriced.

My rule is that if a wedding is in the daytime, I wear what I would wear if the wedding was on a beach in Hawaii. Sea glass colors. Then I add dressy sandals.
If it's at night, I wear the same thing, only darker.

[Meld256]

meow,

You're right about the old-lady outfits.  I was amazed at what the stuff looked like when I went searching.

Exactly as you say!  I didn't get the pink and blue sparkley thing (and ugly shades of them at that) until my MIL told me there was some *tradition* of the MOB or MOG wearing one or the other.  And yes, they were horribly expensive. 

Their wedding colors were royal blue and a spring green (and white) so I found a blue dress I really liked and I've worn it a few times other places since it does not scream Mother of Bride dress. I like your rule of thumb for daytime or night weddings. 

[iraisin]

Well...just got word my son lived thru the bachelor party - they flew to Beale Street or something like that. I'm sure he drank - more than his body weight.  My future daughter and her party went to 6th St. in Austin. All are well. Thank God!

I went out to Alvin today to deliver the cake topper for the cake - so that's going well.

I purchased a separate set for the wedding!! It's Ivory, silky pants that have a "sectioned skirt" overlay - beautiful. It came with a shell and jacket, but went ahead and bought a different blouse (to change the color up - so I didn't look like the bride   ).

I found some glorious shoes at Dillard's (actually two pair of glorious shoes - bought them both (he he)).

Now I've got to figure out how I'm going to get my Dad to the wedding. I'm sure it will all be okay. I guess I feel like I need to be so involved for the bride - seems her family is not very in to her life. Her sister, the maid of honor, backed out last minute due to job stuff - her mom is having some troubles of her own and not available, her step dad isn't even planning on going and her real dad is in Spain and would rather not be involved...period.

Too, for my son. I've always tried extra hard for them. They lost their dad when they were barely teens. I'm making picture jewelry broaches for both my boys with their daddy's picture in it for them so he can be part of the wedding.

Her mother helped her buy the dress - everything else is coming from our side or the kids. I was planning on the wedding being in 2013 - my budget could handle that - but they changed their mind while I was helping my sister with her dying husband (colon cancer). So, after the funeral (in May) the kids let me know they moved the wedding from Oct. 2013 to Aug. 2012.

Talk about rude awakenings. No rest for the weary!

[sass]

oh, I wish I could help you my sweet friend...if there is anything I can do as we do live fairly close and have many many friends that live in that area and actually work in your same area that I can only ask and they will run errands or do what they can for you.. I so feel for your sons as well as you...As the same emotions are brought up since my BIL passed away leaving the same feelings on that special night...May you be filled with love from my family to yours...
Also our best friends just found out that he has colon cancer as well...what close lives we seem to live... 

I will do anything at all for you at this time, you have only to let me know and I will try to make it happen...

My most sincere hope that all goes well....hugs and more hugs!!!  ~sass~

[iraisin]

that was precious, Sass. Thank you for your kindness and generosity.

It does seem quite mirrored doesn't it.

We are screeching and shrieking along! My big fear is that the family may cry on my son's big day. I really don't know how I'll deal with all that, but I will, I'm sure it will come to me.

Just one more week! AhhhhHHH!

[sass]

i am very sincere, if I can be of any help I will do what I can..as I said I have three really good friends in that area that will do anything  for me and likewise for you...I am afraid that myself I would be useless to you at the shape I have fallen into....let me know for real!   ~sass~

[artistangie]

i hope we get to see a pic of you in your beautiful new outfit!

[iraisin]

he he he...I'll send you one. You won't believe this, but I went to Walgreens and got false eyelashes too!!!!

Since I have nearly no facial hair...well...I decided to try them. I bought two pair - I'm going to practice with one of the sets tomorrow. I can't wait to see people freak out tomorrow at work! HA!

[meow]

Well?
Pictures, please

I am so glad you found a soft, dressy, beautiful outfit.

[slccom]

Your daughter-to-be is soooo lucky to have you in her life now! My heart goes out to her, with that family. Who is going to walk her down the aisle? If I were her, I would just go by myself.

Ah, well, it is their loss, and your gain!

I'm with everyone else -- pictures! Pictures! Pictures!

Hugs for a long day, Sharon