Can't be roses every day I suppose

[wen.uk]

Hi everyone

Thankfully it's my day off work today after a very hectic one yesterday.  Woke up this morning with that old friend, fatigue, who's about as welcome as a fart in a space suit to us all.  I should have been going out for the day to see my daughter and granddaughter but after having my shower and washing my hair, and wiping the kitchen down, all as I now feel fit for is an afternoon on the sofa with the TV.

I'm only a couple of weeks over my last bad flare and have been doing OK, think I got it in my head that I would be fine until the next one - but ooops forgot about the pesky little bad ones inbetween too!!  Felt really miserable and down, but have given myself a good talking too,to look forward to the good days ahead instead of dreading and hating the bad ones.  I'm so determined to turn things round in my head as to how I view this illness, trying to look for the positive.

So today ladies, I have weeds in my garden - but guess what - tomorrow may bring a whole field of roses instead.  I hope they come your way too.

Any little tricks you use to keep positive on your bad days?, we should set up a little 'how to feel up on a bad day book' with a few words of encouragement from each other.

Bouquets to you all

Wen x x

[Linda196]

Weeds and thorns, we all have our share, don't we. The trick is to learn to appreciate the thorns as signs of the beauty they accompany, and to see the strength and tenacity in the weeds...I know, easier said than done!

I find this site to one my biggest aids in staying positive...reading others joys and successes is a given, it's got to make me feel better; but reading of others problems makes me realize just how lucky I am; and reading the responses and possibly being able to offer some support or help myself, really goes a long way to making me positive about my altered lifestyle.

[Scottietottie]

Hi Wen 

Sorry you're feeling knackered right now but I totally agree that a positive attitude helps us get by!

Enjoys the sofa and the TV.

Take care - Scottie - and may the future bring you Roses. (Maybe the chocolate variety!)

[irish]

wen, No one has to tell us to appreciate the good days, but it is hard to learn to appreciate the bad ones. I have learned not to plan too far ahead because then if I can't do something I will not be disappointed.

I also tell myself that feeling bad means that I am alive which is one up on a lot of people. It takes a lot of self talk and the ability to learn small ways to entertain yourself when you aren't feeling all that good. T.V. is lousy but the noise is nice. Talk radio is a great friend to me as is reading. When I feel lousy I have learned to just take the warm rice bag, my beloved afghan and hunker down for a rest. I set an alarm clock so that I at least feel like I am in control of my day. I have to make meals so that does give some semblance of normalcy.

The minute I start to have negative thoughts and feel sorry for myself I have learned to replace them with good thoughts. Looking out at the sky, trees, flowers usually fills my soul with joy no matter how yukky I feel. Also, remember that there ia always tomorrow!!!! We never know---it could be a good day. Good luck Irish

P.S. Just so you all don't think I am always able to control my feelings, etc. There are days when I just tell my hubby not to talk to me as I am not fit to be around for a few hours. We have a "no talk" clause at our house since we have gotten older and in ill health. If we feel yukky and ornery we tell each other and we just shut up. I think this has saved us a lot of grief. Irisih

[ruby52]

I'm learning to live in the moment.I give myself pep talks too.I even praise myself when I don't go off on a guilt trip.I might mention I do all this silently.Whatever it takes these days and I try very hard to enjoy and appreciate the heck out of every little thing I never would have noticed when I was well.

[Pooh]

Good morning Wen,

Thanks for your upbeat words.  Enjoy the sofa today and the TV.  Just be thankful also that you are in the UK and not here in the states.  I will be so glad when this election is over.  It just seems to go on forever.  Lies, Lies and more Lies. 

Anyway, what I wanted to tell you is this.  My daughter was to take me to lunch yesterday for my birthday.  When I woke up I said to my hubby, "I hope Penn calls and asks if we can go another day, I feel like heck".  My daughter has fibro and quite a bit more going on in her young body and these calls are not uncommon.  Well, much to my dismay (because she was hurting) and much to my delight (because I was hurting) she called and begged off.  (We are trying again today, but it's miserable out so maybe next week.)

With both us fighting AI's and a little more, we understand one another and it's a great support and comfort to know that each of us understands. 

So enjoy that rest and don't feel guilty.  Tomorrow is another day, and the roses will still be blooming. 

Hugs, Pooh