Any Moms out there feel guilty???

[Katybarstool]

Wednesday -you are an inspiration. My heart goes out to you for having such a horrible time, but you are such a strong lady, and you've come through this. Jannia is right, you have a welath of wisdom. Thank you for sharing.

Victoria, well done you. Thank goodness you will have some 'Victoria' time, if you want to. Be kind to yourself and give those tinies a hug from me

Kathyx

[SassieCat]

Wednesday,

I don't know to tell you how beautiful a mother you are.  Tears rolled down my cheeks as I was reading and I can't help but admire the courage and strength it took to post this.  In my heart, you are anything but a failure and God blessed your children with a wonderful mother like you.

SassieCat

[wednesday mc haggis]

janna   i love the fact your so honest about your anxiety, i think its something ppl hid, and you always being so upfront about it i know ha shelped more ppl than you ll ever know, and im one of them, i dont count myself as wise, just been to the university of life and have learned when ive been open in past with ppl about my PND, so many ppl have said i had it and i didnt get help was too ashamed, likley i was first person they admitted it it, that makes me so sad, if everyone was honest about depression and anixiety it would lose its stigma so fast and ppl would get help quicker,  your one of those open ppl who maybe unknowingly to you, help so many ppl who dont post up about it xxxxx

kathy   thnakyou for your post, as i posted it i thought, god what will ppol think of me, i share things here, i wouldnt likley not tell to ppl who know me well x

sassie   you know it took me so many years to realise i was a good mum, but my kids healed me, i think because i dont judge ppl, and am openminded, even my sons friends come to talk to me about things, im apparently the COOl mum lol, one came 3 months ago and asked me about contraception, i didnt bat an eyelid, i smiled sat him down and said all about what types there were and how effective they were, then i told him about all the emotions that would bring, and how life wasnt a race, that sex was a great thing, but it took alot of maturity to cope with it, and if you cant handle what might come from it, namley babies, then you just werent ready to cope with the emotions it would bring up, after half an hour he said, im not ready am i ?

i smiled and said Alan, thats for you and your girlfriend to decide, but if you want my opinion at 14 ? no your not, and something sin life are worth the wait, he smiled back and said, dont tell my mum i asked you about it, euans said youd be honest and not tell her, made me feel happy to be the one they can talk to, and sad that more parents arent approachable to their kids, my son asks me all sorts of questions, i know that i couldnt have asked my mum about,i never want to think my son couldnt ask me about life, drugs, sex , relationships, id have thought a mum was someone you get guidance from , makes me feel very glad my son trusts me enough to even say to friends, talk to my mum

T x 

[KYMOM]

Victoria, Did this past weekend go any better.  Thinking of you and hope you found a way to slow down and get some rest.  Roxanne

[Victoria05202000]

Roxanne,

Yes, I delegated and asked for some help from  my friends and family....didn't know I could be so bossy!    I am having a better week as far as having a bit more energy. I got a procrit injection and that seems to help a bunch for about 5 or so days.  I received a few answers from MUSC on if I should get medicare to help with medical bills for the transplant.  I will qualify for medicare from the day of transplant and up to 36 months after transplant.  This has caused me stress with all the medical bills piling on. (I know much of you feel the same).

Thanks!
Vicky

[wednesday mc haggis]

victoria

so glad you you going to get financial help!! must be a right weight off your mind, cannt imaginme how much that must have been preying on you.Glad also to hear your giving yourself a break and feeling the benefit of it, wonderful news

T x

[KYMOM]

Vicky, That is great news on the insurance.  Know that is a great weight off your mind.  It's tough when you don't have insurance or have a high deductible.  I was able to get all of the tests that my docs recommended last year because I met the $5000.00 deductible on my insurance with my biopsy and other med procedures. 
Good to hear that you got some help this weekend.  Not bossy just smart.
Roxanne

[SassieCat]

Yes, I think we all can relate to the stress from worry.  Especially when comes to financial and our future.  That was really great news to hear that you will have the insurance and support that you need. 

I won't say not to worry because I know we do.  But I will say this,  think of how much better you will be after the surgery, have confidence that it will take and that you will have behind you soon.   

It is wonderful that you took some time to stop and smell the roses.  Children grow up too soon, but great memories will last a lifetime.

[lelole]

Hi Victoria,

Thanks for posting about this - because though I am new to Sjogren's world, I am not new to feeling poorly, and the guilt that comes from it.  I have a 2 year old and a part time job, and I am constantly feeling guilty and torn between trying to well at these things.  As a result I end up doing far too much, but still not doing well at any of them.

I don't really have any advice, and in fact have taken great comfort form the wise advice being left for you by others, I just wanted to say - ME TOO! It helped me to know others feel the same...

Leah xx

[Victoria05202000]

Well....I have insurance, but the medicare will supplement. Having just one insurance just isn't enough at times.   

Leah, I am glad I am not alone with the guilt thing.  I have good days and bad days. I tend to not have much patience with them at times and try not to "yell" at them....which I KNOW is the wrong thing to do. It is not their fault I feel bad at times. They are my angels and I love them soooooo much!