Do you ever feel worthless?

[Katybarstool]

Tracy

Thank you for caring about my son too. Genko and T are absolutely right, we all need each other. Where would we be, if we were still in the wilderness of thinking no-one would understand how we are feeling.

Thank God for the people who provide this safe, comfortable and loving place to come, not only at our times of need, but when we just want 'to be' with others.

Chana, sending you my best.

Kathyx

[kimbo]

Wow!  Tracy bless you.
The thing about these words we (you all) place here, is that they speak not only to the heart of one, but all who set at our table of comfort.

Tracy you need to find the right time to tell your husband that the investment of your relationship is priority. Just gently and in a small amount of chosen words.
Our church building consumed a lot of time of many people for about a year, I was thankful for the service of many. And glad when it was over with.
My husband as pastor leads by example. If he gets a wedding date request that falls on a birthday or anniversary its a no deal or they reschedule to another date and thats their 1st premarital lesson on relationship priorities.
Your husband needs to know that his support is the most important support in your health issues. Thats the right thing, for him, to serve you in love, understanding your needs.
When you come out of your slump you will be inspired by his giving, to support l him like wise.  OKAY  ...I've said enough in that regard. 

When you were reflecting on occupations and accomplishment on face book. I had to laugh once again because.....
On our own sjoggie forum where every one tells their works. Many, Many Many impressive occupations and successes. I was so proud and was reading them off to my husband. I came to the one-  (One of our funny boys we love and laugh at) By the way I told my husband the men in this forum really lighten us up.

He said he lived down by the River in his car and he was a motivational speaker. 
This is Chris Farley's of Saturday nite live classical skit of great comedy.  I laughed and laughed.  Kudos to you men of our forum. I luv ya everyone.

Tracy I am so glad you are doing better.  You are a part of us. SJOGGIES thats really big. You are you, uniquely created.
Your son and all sons and daughters who were lovingly raised and serve our country are in my prayers.
Peace and love kimbo

[AshleyFaye]

maybe im a little late but i just joined today and this post just screamed right in my face. since i found out i had rheumatoid arthritis and sjogrens syndrome, ive felt like a worthless human being. i never knew how much i needed my knees, elbows, wrists, etc. there are so many things daily that ive done in my life that i can hardly do right now and though they are simple, they are important. im leaning on close ones right now which makes me feel guilty though i shouldnt..ive got 3 kids and my youngest is 7 mth old..and im not able to hold him much, pick him up as hes laying down, etc. its rough. there must be a light somewhere though...im doing everything i can to stay above water and take things slow and accept the way things are going. worthless is a good word for what i feel deep inside though ~

[wednesday mc haggis]

truly give yourself a break, i can truly understand the guilt your feeling , but you didnt ask for all this, infact who would ?  you werent to know and you didnt have time to get your head in anyways round it all, worthless?? no just different .worthless mean of no value or no use, i doubt your kids would view you that way, if you dont like yourself in your eyes, try looking through theirs for a while what you are is in the grieving process , and its a scary mind bending time that would truly mess up your head, you dont have family near and your got 3 little uns and so far your all still muddling through, its hard enough dealing with symptoms without the guilt, give yourself a break seems to me youve found this place so you were doing something about it all, that was practical , your looking into ways to modify your household chores, your doing alot of mature well thought out things at 21 , id have tipped my hat to you when i was 21 and still would, take a deep breath and decide to accept this int your doing, blessings to you

T x

[irish]

Tracy, Boy, you have certainly had some wonderful posts from your great friends on this site. First of all, we all do feel worthless at times. I know that I have not done even a little bit of the stuff I had dreamed of doing when I was young. The important thing for all of us to remember is that we have accomplished a heck of a lot in spite of having to drag our health issues around with us. As far as the old friends from the past---boy, what they say and what they do are certainly 2 different things. I hate class reunions---they don't get good until people get old and have lived through trouble.

I know that you worry about your son and with good reason but he is resilient and will have made friends in the different places he goes. He has had a lot of change in his life also and I would bet that things will change for him again. Just keep him in your heart and prayers and be a positive force in his lifee. I know he will enjoy the cookies that you sent him. I think a lot of moms send cookies and they all share. I will keep him in my prayers also. It is hard to let kids go but they must "fly" to mature. Harder on parents than on the kids though.

It was good that you got to spend some time with your hubby. I think a lot of men have a hard time accepting a wife's illness. They act tough etc, but in reality they are mad at how their life is impacted by our illness plus they are scared they will lose us.

Hope to hear that life gets better for you---so many good thoughts shared here today that you must feel warm and fuzzy. Hang in there cause you have been through a lot and yet you continue to keep on keeping on. Hugs IRish