Funeral

[Scottietottie]

Hi

Today, finally, my friend, who I wrote about before, got to bury her son. (He died nearly 3 weeks ago now) Usually a funeral is an end od a chapter, the beginning of closure. Unfortunately not so in this case. He still has no death certificate, no definitive cause of death and no time of death. They got an interim cert. to enable burial.
An inquest is still to come.

It was a good service today though. Lots of his school friends were there and there was no 'sermon' as such. instead the family had written stuff down - a kind of celebration of life. There was a lot of laughter amidst tears. (No tears on my part - just a tight throat)

After the service everyone went to a local hotel for food and drinks. There were a lot of people and I hope the family found it comforting. They coped incredibly well.

I've answered a few posts today but forgive me if I've been even shorter than usual. I guess my mind is elsewhere.

Take care - Scottie

[Pooh]

Thanks Scottie for update.  I have kept the family in my thoughts and prayers.  I can't imagine what this family is going through.  It must have been such a comfort to have all his friends and family there to celebrate his life.

Hugs, Pooh

[Linda196]

I think the celebration of life is so much more meaningful than the old "dust to dust funeral" often conducted by a clergy person who either never met the deceased, or didn't know them all that well.

That seems to be the way things have gone around here for several years...I was very honoured and grateful to be able to speak at the funerals of my parents and my sister, just sharing the parts they played in my life. Sometimes, usually at the deceased's request, there isn't even a funeral-type gathering, just a burial and a little later, a party where they are honoured by their friends and family with food, music, stories and laughter.

I think it helps start the healing process to be able to smile at memories, and review the high points of a life, and I hope this is true for your friends, Scottie.

[navydad]

A service for a deceased should be a celebration of there life,,I have a friend that gathers up pictures of the deceased and puts them on a CD and plays it at the funeral home,, its reallly touching,, seeing pictures of a friend or relative enjoying lifes moments

[Katybarstool]

Hi Scottie

It will never be the end of the process until the inquest has finished, but I hope your friends get some comfort from the sevice today.  I hope you are ok.

Kathyx

[LenV]

Scottie,
I'm so sorry about this.  But I am also so glad he isn't suffering anymore.

We are thinking about you.

Billye

[genko_b]

Hopefully they will get some answers soon. This has to be one of the toughest situations a parent could go through in life. The one thing is, after this nothing would ever throw you for a loop again because you would have been to the edge and back. Our thoughts and prayer stay with the family until the situation is resolved.

Genko

[lynnmarie219]

Hi Scottie....I hope this service brings a start to healing for the family and friends of this young man even though there are still unanswered questions that need answers. I too believe celebrating someone's life with pictures, stories, favorite music and fond memories is very comforting and healing....thats what I would want. Take care Scottie.....you are in my thoughts. 

[Shari]

Scottie~~My thoughts are with you~~Shari

[salsen]

Scottie my thoughts and prayers are with you and your friends.  Hopefully answers will come soon to help complete the closure process.  Here in south Louisiana the custom has always been to honor someone with songs, pictures and sharing of memories.  There is always a gathering following the services for everyone to continue to meet and help each other share the loss.  I have only been to one funeral where it was done much more formally  -  the feeling was not the same.  Being able to laugh as well as to grieve gives honor to someone's life.  I hope all of you will be able to continue to laugh and remember the joy this young man gave to everyone and the sorrowful moments will fade.