Men verses womens responses

[Catilee2]

Hi,
  I agree with Puccini, I want solutions, but also need to be listened to sometimes. My husband is a fix-it and get on with life kind of person and very- if your
on time your late, but every year he gets more and more patient about the fact that I have these 2 disorders that affect how I feel and what I can do sometimes.
I love him dearly and am glad hat this a a place where other people "get it", I don't have to use him as a sounding board as much.
Catilee2

[Joe S.]

I am glad that this generated a discussion. That is what I meant to do. I hope that this helps us understand ourselves and others.

Thank you for your comments.

[season]

[size=10pt From the most simple task to the most complex, we have to be in a state of ACCEPTANCE, ENJOYMENT, or ENTHUSIASM. If not in one of these states, you will create suffering for yourself and others.][/size]

[Patze]

Interesting Season, very interesting.


Patze

[Carolina]

AMEN SEASON!

That is my belief completely.

Get with the program. 

Go with the flow.   

Relax and find the joy in everything.

Kisses

Elaine

[irish]

I am the one who wants to know the why and wherefore and I am also the gofer and the problem solver. I do the organizing and phone calls and deal with all the crap, which aptly describes a lot of the stuff that is necessary.

I seem to accept things, deal with them and go on.

Hubby doesn't like dealing with health issues such as setting up meds. He doesn't remember the medical terms and  yet, with all his health issues he accepts and goes on. He went on disability when he ws 54 and he is now 72. He took care of the outside stuff and there was a lot and still is. He is now at the point of having to ask for help a whole lot but he is still able to mow our 2 1/2 acre yard but it takes him a lot longer. We just ask each other "are we having fun yet"

Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are going to get.   Irish

[warmwaters]

I guess that makes me transgender or something.  I'm caring and am all about the hugs and sympathy and kinda wish I got more of that from my "just wanna fix-it" DH, but at the same time I want to fix it, I don't really want to just accept it, and I want to figure it out.  I'm not satisfied with the doctors oversimplified explanations, I want the the real meat.  Tell me exactly what the values mean, I have joint pain, fatigue, stomach pains etc, tell me exactly, mechanically why this occurs and tell me exactly what each of the 10 Rx drugs you've got me on does for each of these problems.  I want to understand this thing inside and out, the trouble is the Docs don't even understand it that well, so hence my frustration will have have to go unanswered.

Me too - I'm female, but I've always been the practical one, and spent most of my years in engineering, which is very fact based. I get very peeved with the "gray" that we have to deal with this disease - a lot of it feels like "witch doctor medicine"  - try this and see if it works. Oh, it didn't? then try this.

I've got to be honest, I've been cultivating my "feminine side" here on the board, and trying to express sympathy a bit more when folks need it. It's not that I'm not sympathetic, I just tended not to say it much. I grew up in a family that just "gritted out" all their problems.

I think it's a good thing to remember how bad it can feel some days.