Greetings to all
My name is Richard, I am Jonnells husband to be. She has told me a great deal about this site and some of her friends here, so I had to sign up and try it. First off thank you for being so supportive of her. I love her and little Jenna with all my heart. Thank you to the creator of this comunity
richard
very big welcome to you !!
i think its ture that partners, and relatives need as much support and information as anyone else. Glad you joined us, the more the merrier, not easy having a child with sjogrens , affects everyone in the household, you included, and we all need the support!
I think by joining there is no need to tell us how much you love your family, i know jonnell speaks so highly of you ,so very glad to meet you
T x
Ditto from me too Richard!
We love Jonnell and little Jenna with all our hearts too!
So glad to meet you!
Janna
Hi Richard :)
Welcome to Sjogren's world. Sjoggies, relatives, relatives to be and friends all welcome! ;D
Take care - Scottie :)
Hi Richard, welcome from me, too...you, Jonnell and Jenna now qualify for the family membership!
It's always truly wonderful to meet a partner (and we have some others who will no doubt introduce themselves) who is concerned and willing to learn all that they can in order to support their spouse or child (to-be in this case).
Hi Richard,
I haven't posted much in recent weeks, so I'm catching up on Jonell and Jenna. How wonderful that you want to join our group and see what's going on. It's so important that a partner/parent have as much information as they can to understand what their loved one(s) are going through and to understand the changes in their own lives.
Welcome and Great Job! ;D
Tracy
Hi Richard!
Welcome to Sjogrens World! (http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-signs046.gif) (http://www.freesmileys.org)
Its so important that people have a good support system when they have sjogrens or any of many other medical diagnosis. It's wonderful that you joined in here to meet us and show your support for Jonnell and Jenna!
They are lucky to have you...and we are lucky to have all 3 of you join in our family here!
Thank you all for the warm welcome. Jenna is my lil girl too even if only in spirit and i need to know best how to help and support both her and Jonnell.
Thanks again
Richard
Hi Richard,
Let me also welcome you to the SJS World! As usual, bringing up the rear! ;) ;D I'm glad to see that you've joined us to help Jonnell and Jenna! It's nice to see that they have you in their corner!
Again, welcome and take care -
Patze
Hi Richard
Good to meet you. Jonnell's told us lots about you - all good! Sounds like you're doing a great job loving and supporting both Jonnell and little Jenna. We've got to know them and love them too.
One of the best ways of supporting Jonnell is one of the easiest in many ways, and I know you're already doing it: just listen. There will be days when she's overwhelmed with worry about Jenna, or exhausted by taking care of her, and will just need to offload. Even if the house is a mess and dinner's not ready, the most important things are simply a hug and a chat.
Let us know how things are with you all. And take good care of yourself too because it's exhausting being a carer, and a carer of a carer!
Thinking of you all - Chickpea
Thanks guys for your warm welcome for Rick. He is such a gentle and caring man. The support Jenna and I get from him is amazing. I call him my angel because I believe that God sent him to me to love me and get me thru these trying times. Hugs and Kisses Jonnell and Jenna
Welcome Richard. Jonnell has spoken well of you. So impressed to hear how supportive you are, sometimes not an easy task!
Lotus1
Thank you all again. Support and caring are absolutely necessary and who I am.
Richard, Welcome to this site. It is great that you are willing and able to join us and see what we are all about. Also, lots of info to read if you ever get bored. ::)
You have joined the band of men who are behind us (also the band of women behind the men with sjogrens) and most of them choose to remain off the computer. It is really great that you are willing and able to support Jonnell and Jenna---a lot of the men in our lives got to live through the whole darn ordeal from the beginning of our illnesses to the present. Love, support and understanding are really necessary.
I also advise (I'm old!!!) talking less when things get a little heavy and stressful. My hubby and I are married 44+ years and both have health issues (both of us have autoimmune diseases) and we have learned that sometimes it is better for the marriage to just not talk or talk less. Talk is great but when feeling ill and short tempered and sick of the whole shooting match ones brain and soul need some down time. Good luck to you three. Irish ;D
"Jenna is my lil girl too even if only in spirit"
being a dad just isnt genetics, its about being there, supporting, caring and giving stable love, anyone can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a dad, too much emphasis placed on genetics, and not enough on the actual role itself, there are fathers out these how walk off and to nothing, id say jenna got a "dad" in you, and i for one think thats bottom line what counts.
ive not spoken to my father in 22 years, but i have a stepdad, who puts time in to my kids, he IS their grandad, and no one in my house cares about the genetics in the least, youve have two very angry boys if anyone suggested he wasnt their grandad, for the man has given more to them than most genetic grandfathers ever do, once a year he takes them away for a week, they do boys stuff, walking, hiking, fishing, and my two sons adore him, now thats IS a grandad, and you ARE jenna`s dad, simple as that!
T x
Hi Richard and Welcome!You have such a wonderful attitude and Jonnell and Jenna are blessed to have you in their lives.
On a side note...I thought your screen name was Jonells Hubby Tobe..like your name was Toby?hahaha!Gotta love brainfog!
Richard, Welcome. Jonnell and Jenna are lucky to have found someone.
A dad is someone who is there for the child. Tuck her in at night, makes the monsters go away, kisses the booboos and makes her feel safe.
When my husband and I me my son was two and my husband adopted him several years later. We had two more sons than added two sons and two daughters through adoption. They are all our children.
Good luck to you and your family to be.
Roxanne