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Sjogrens Topics => Living With Sjogren's => Topic started by: Lost163 on July 27, 2014, 12:34:50 PM

Title: Having a rough day
Post by: Lost163 on July 27, 2014, 12:34:50 PM
So my dh just got out of husband. He continue to not take care of himself which causes me extra stress which aggravates my illness. I try to keep working towards my health and he continues to not having any clue about his health. We have two small children. I'm so aggravated and sad. He had a bad flare of arthritis and bad execema.
Title: Re: Having a rough day
Post by: finallyadx on July 27, 2014, 02:51:20 PM
Lost - so very sorry to hear you and your husband are having such difficulties.  Have you sat down with your husband to tell you care about him and need him to take of his health issues for himself but also for the dear family that loves him and relies on him?  Not sure it will help or not but sometimes someone needs someone who loves them to tell them something like this...

Stress is a big no no in the AI world - my understanding anyway.  Try to find ways to relieve your stress - exercise, meditation, support groups, etc. so that you do not get overburdened.

Hoping you can find some relief and light at the end of the tunnel.

Keep us posted.  Sending positive thoughts your way.

Kim
Title: Re: Having a rough day
Post by: warmwaters on July 27, 2014, 11:40:46 PM
Sorry to hear that in addition to your health problems, your hubby has them too. And that he's having a hard time deal with it.

Not trying to be nosy, but is it something where life changes (diet, exercise, etc) might make a difference for him?

Or does he need help with managing meds.

I know a lot of people don't like to really look too hard at their medical problems, because it makes them real.  Denial is always an option!  (I can even say that about me some days).

Hope you find a way to talk with him that's useful.
Title: Re: Having a rough day
Post by: Lost163 on July 28, 2014, 08:44:40 AM
That's exactly it he needs to change eating and exercise habits and doesn't want to. I lost 165 pounds 7 years ago and he's been very supportive but won't do it for himself. So frustrating that he won't take better care of his body.
Title: Re: Having a rough day
Post by: warmwaters on July 28, 2014, 08:11:17 PM
If you lost that much weight, you probably realize how hard it can be.  I know for me there are certain foods I just can't have in the house, or I eat them.  And it takes more planning and prep.

Sorry to hear it.