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Title: Ark mom
Post by: Piebird on July 30, 2013, 01:35:57 PM
Hey, I was just thinking about you.

How are things going at your place?
Title: Re: Ark mom
Post by: jpd54 on July 31, 2013, 08:57:35 AM
 ArkMom,   Had you on my mind.   Hope you are having a better day. 

  I will be thinking good thoughts for you!

                              Jennifer

  PS  I think you are from NW Ark.  I'm from NE Ark.  Maybe we can meet sometime.
Title: Re: Ark mom
Post by: Ark mom on August 02, 2013, 08:53:18 PM
Hey guys.  Thanks for your concern and support.  I have been having a flare up the past few days--pain and fatigue.  Ugh. 

I made an appointment with an attorney for Monday morning for a divorce consultation. 

I tried all week, telling him that we need to have a talk.  He has just ignored me and avoided me.  I hope and pray that the attorney can give me some guidance and hope for the future.   
Title: Re: Ark mom
Post by: Ark mom on August 02, 2013, 08:55:39 PM
Jpd54, yes, we should meet up sometime!  I am in the NW part of the state. 
Title: Re: Ark mom
Post by: Piebird on August 03, 2013, 12:32:46 PM
We are here to listen when ever you need us.

Title: Re: Ark mom
Post by: CMNK12 on August 04, 2013, 09:23:02 AM
   Good luck with your appt. Glad you checked in..been worried about you. Take care of yourself, get some rest and take care of those precious children. CK
Title: Re: Ark mom
Post by: daisymae on August 04, 2013, 10:43:19 AM
Hi Arkmom. I've read some of the trials and tribulations you've been having. I'm very sorry you're going thru this.

I'm a family law (divorce) lawyer and have done this for over 18 yrs. I just wanted to let you know that you have options when it comes to how you want your divorce to go. I did the traditional litigation (court) practice up until I got sick 3 yrs ago. I had lots of time to reflect.

I'm trained as a mediator and collaborative lawyer. I only do these now. I always knew that it is better for families to not have a big fight that polarizes parents leaving long standing resentment and bitterness. Mediation and collaboration try to minimize those outcomes and focus on coming to an amicable agreement trying to keep intact the parents' relationship.

I know there are collaborative lawyers world wide and mediation has been around for decades. I'd be leery if your attorney does not even talk about these alternative dispute resolution options or makes you ANY promises about outcome. You can google collaborative law and mediation to find out more.

I hope you find a lawyer you can trust and who truly listens to your and your children's needs.
Title: Re: Ark mom
Post by: jpd54 on August 05, 2013, 08:32:18 AM
  Thinking of you today.  It must be hard.  But hang in there.  We are all here for you.

         Hugs!!!!!!

                 Jennifer
Title: Re: Ark mom
Post by: slccom on August 05, 2013, 07:49:53 PM
I'm hoping you learned your options, and are moving forward out of a nightmare situation.

Hugs, Sharon
Title: Re: Ark mom
Post by: CMNK12 on August 06, 2013, 05:08:15 AM
  Hey Ark Mom,
   Hoping all went well yesterday. Thinking about you. I know you have many very hard decisions to make. Take care. CK
Title: Re: Ark mom
Post by: slccom on August 10, 2013, 09:57:35 AM
I was wondering how things were going? I hope you are able to make decisions and move forward.

Hugs, Sharon
Title: Re: Ark mom
Post by: CMNK12 on August 11, 2013, 12:29:36 PM
   Just wondering how you are and hoping things are okay for you. Thoughts and prayers are being sent your way. CK
Title: Re: Ark mom
Post by: ellenkerr on August 11, 2013, 08:21:13 PM
Thinking of you and hope things are going well.  Keep us posted.
Title: Re: Ark mom
Post by: Aquarius on August 13, 2013, 10:40:05 PM
Ark Mom, So glad that you are exploring options with an atty.  Sometimes it takes just one step forward, or the words from an objective third party, or someone you admire and trust, to make a path clear.

Whether you decide to stay or leave, your Sjogrens pals are here to support you. 

To be faced with a life changing choice is stressful on the body and soul.  Please take extra good care of yourself.  Hope you can find a little something each day that is a treat for you.  I firmly believe that chocolate is good medicine. ;D
Title: Re: Ark mom
Post by: slccom on August 22, 2013, 11:17:28 AM
You must be swamped, but we are all thinking of you!
Hugs, Sharon
Title: Re: Ark mom
Post by: Velcro on August 22, 2013, 12:44:04 PM
Yes, I know you are probably very busy, but I sure would like to know you are ok.
Title: Re: Ark mom
Post by: jpd54 on August 26, 2013, 08:39:07 AM
 Hey, ArkMom!!!

  We haven't heard from you.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.  Hope everything is better.  When you get time, please let us know.

              (((hugs)))

                    Jennifer