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Title: I miss my mama
Post by: season on May 29, 2012, 09:01:11 PM
Today, my sister went in to my mothers home to check on her. They live side by side.

She found my mother crouched on the floor and asked her what she was doing crouching in the floor leaning between the sofa and the coffee table. Mother didn't answer and as my sister touched her she realized she had passed on.

What an awful awful day. the pain of losing your mother is indescribable.

I can't sleep. So I'm asking for good vibes, prayers, to be sent my way.

My blood pressure hasn't been good lately and I just want to be alone so I can cry and cry and cry.
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: kimbo on May 29, 2012, 09:06:59 PM
Oh Season I am sitting here in the dark of my living room reading this.

Sad and so sorry.

I will Pray through the night for you. I feel your heart of hurt.

I pray you feel love and comfort tonight. My arms are cyber wrapped around you.

I am praying now,
Kimbo
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: lynnmarie219 on May 29, 2012, 09:19:10 PM
((((((Season))))))

I am so sorry for you while reading this and I don't have anything to say to make the hurt go away...allow yourself to feel the sadness in your heart and mourn your sweet mom. No matter what our age...it's never easy to lose a parent....I hope you can feel some of the warm thoughts being sent your way. Hugs to you....

Again...I'm so sorry for your loss today...
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: irish on May 29, 2012, 09:29:25 PM
season, I am so sorry to hear of you losing your Mom. It is hard no matter what age a person is.

Please know that I am thinking of you. I will keep you in my prayers. Take care of yourself and your blood pressure. Let the others do much of the things that need to be done. Hugs. Irish
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: Gayle on May 30, 2012, 04:02:01 AM
Season,
So sorry to hear of your loss. Sending warm gentle hugs and lots of prayers!
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: 4Kids on May 30, 2012, 06:39:18 AM
Season

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It is (at present in my life) the worst thing I can think to go through, or at least among the very top events.

Please take care of yourself and I hope you are able to focus your attention on grieving the way you should.  If I can ever help or lend an ear or anything, please let me know. It is 20 months since I lost my mother and sometimes I still can't believe it.

More than anything I miss her eyes.

Jackie
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Post by: Cheryl on May 30, 2012, 07:03:02 AM
Season,
I know the loss you are feeling, too.  I'll pray for your peace of mind, especially as you get through the next few days.
Cheryl
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: Katybarstool on May 30, 2012, 07:38:08 AM
Season

What a shock for you and your sister. I will keep you and your dear mama in my prayers.

God bless
Kathyx
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Post by: sktaylor on May 30, 2012, 08:09:22 AM
Season,
I will keep you and your family in my prayers. 'I'm sorry' for your loss seems so inadequate. "Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted." Matthew 5:4
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: harrigan on May 30, 2012, 08:20:35 AM
So sorry to read this Season.  I will be thinking of you and the rest of the family in the coming days.  Rest when you can xxx Ailsa
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Post by: Iris on May 30, 2012, 08:40:44 AM
I'm so sorry, Season.. I will keep you and your family in my prayers..
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: Scottietottie on May 30, 2012, 08:58:42 AM
Hi Season

I am really sorry for your loss. It is such a shock when it happens unexpectedly like that too. I know because both my parents went suddenly so there was no mental preparation for their passing.

You have a tough time ahead. Please know that we are always hear to listen to you.

Take care - Scottie
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: Cricket on May 30, 2012, 09:33:08 AM
Season

So very sorry for your loss.  It is one of the worse things to go through when we lose our parents.  Please take care of yourself and allow yourself to grieve.

Sending gentle hugs to you!
Cricket
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: Bucky on May 30, 2012, 11:55:58 AM
((Dear Season)) - I'm so sorry for your loss.  When things happen suddenly, without warning, it's like the rug is pulled out beneath us. 

The next few days will be full of planning and making preparations.  Please, take time for yourself in all this too.  If you are already having blood pressure issues, this added stress and grief will only increase your blood pressure.  IF you experience very rapid breathing, etc. be sure and call your doctor ASAP, and don't put it off.  In fact, contacting your doctor and telling them what you are going through with the sudden passing of your mother - they might be able to give you medicine to deal with all of this (if you need it).

I found, for myself, that when my mother passed away - I went into super-woman mode making sure all the arrangements went as planned, contacting people, etc.  AFTER the funeral and everyone went away, that's when the total exhaustion really kicked in.  Please, take care of yourself too. 

There will be times you just don't feel like eating or can't even remember when you ate last.  If you are taking medicines and need to take them with food, don't forget them.

If friends, family, neighbors offer help . . . let them help.  Even if it is just to answer a constant ringing phone so you can go into the bedroom and take a nap . . . it would help.  Or someone to remind you about your pills, etc.

Wishing you comfort and peace in your time of sorrow.  My sympathy and prayers for you and your sister and families.

Hugs,
Bucky
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Post by: MissyLouWho? on May 30, 2012, 02:33:03 PM
Oh Season, I am so sorry.  There's nothing I can say to make you feel any better but you are sincerely in my thoughts and prayers.  My heart goes out to you.  ((((hugs))))
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: Daisy1234 on May 30, 2012, 02:48:54 PM
Season,

I'm sending you many heartfelt prayers and much sympathy.  You have suffered a terrible shock and your mind and body must be reeling to lose your very special Mother so unexpectedly. 

Do know however, that a mother's love never diminishes and that neither time nor distance, nor eternity will ever keep it from you.  Go ahead and talk to your Mama, even now she will hear you. 

Hugs,
Daisy
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: eye2dry on May 30, 2012, 02:51:27 PM
Season....I am sorry you have lost your mother.....but how
fortunate you are to have a sister.

please take care...thinking of you


eye2dry
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: quietdynamics on May 30, 2012, 06:45:17 PM
I am sorry for the lose to you and your sister, but, so happy that your Mom had your sister living next her.

I pray, pray, pray that next year we will have my Mom living with us (find a home we can convert into a mother/daughter) ....we are working on it.  In the meantime I am trying to spend some nights at Moms and go out with her a bit....she wears me out. She can do more than me and she is 82....lol

I will tell you in honesty, I am happy that your Mother was able to pass in her own home.

Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: JakeL on May 31, 2012, 02:59:27 PM
I am sorry for your loss. Stay Strong. I am sure you will get through this tough time.
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: Joe S. on May 31, 2012, 09:37:59 PM
I know what I went through when mom died. She is still on my mind. Please allow yourself time to grieve.
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: susanep on May 31, 2012, 11:52:08 PM
Season, I am so so sorry to hear that your sweet dear mother passed on. I am still struggling with this since mom passed away March 13, 2012.

You said it correctly honey, that there are no words for what one feels. No words at all.

I have prayed for you, and The Lord to give you his comfort, and the peace that only he can give you.

Pm me anytime if you just need to talk. At night sometimes I talk to mom by typing my feelings of the events of the day or week to her. It's not my only way, but one way.

God Bless You and Your Family
susanep :'(
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Post by: Meld256 on June 02, 2012, 12:52:13 AM
Oh, season.  I'm sorry I'm just now reading about your dear mother's passing.

My heart goes out to you. When someone passes unexpectedly, it's so very difficult.  Thank you for letting us know...I pray for your strength in the next days ahead.

As said, when we lose our mother, there are no words for what one feels. As Daisy put so well, remember that a mother's love knows no bounds. She must be watching over you still.

Please know that we care for you and you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: season on June 02, 2012, 10:00:57 PM
I want to thank everyone for your kindness. It has been so difficult. I feel so numb.

About a week ago, I was washing dishes and it just popped into my mind that I should call my mother and tell her that I loved her. When she answered the phone, I started to cry and told her that I loved her. We had the most wonderful conversation. I am so thankful for that. It was surely meant to be. We should follow our intuition.

I could tell my mother anything when I was troubled. Sometimes she would give me an answer that I didn't like but that is what mom's should do. "Just be honest and ready to listen."
Title: Re: I miss my mama
Post by: Cricket on June 05, 2012, 02:12:32 PM
It is a very difficult time, greving is a long process!

After my parents passed (their birthdays a day apart) my kids and grand kids were all missing them so much that the day between the birthdays we all wrote notes to them and got balloons attached our notes, went to cemetery and let them go to heaven.  It helped the little ones a lot, we still do this several times a year.  I often wonder if they came down in someone's yard what they thought!

I often write my mom and dad and put the letters in a special box, it seems to help to put it on paper and is a release of grief for the moment.

Keeping you in my thoughts.
Cricket