I am having an out patient biopsy tomorrow and my parents want to watch my son and make dinner while my hubby and I are at the hospital. Very generous but they are a bit judgy about our housekeeping.
I straighten everyday but 4 year old tosses the place daily. And my husband is a mild hoarder. I keep hubby's habits in check (just barely) but I never get to pristine if you know what I mean. I'm fine with toy cars on the floor and clutter on a decorative bench. I'd love to have the house like my apartment when I was single gal but I live with two slobs and get no help. Of course blame naturally falls on the woman.
Oh my gosh, you and I are kindred spirits! My life is just like that! That's why I hate for people to come over.
Blame always does fall on the woman. It's not fair but there you go.
I would say that they won't judge you, but my family is the exact same way. I'd rather not have to deal with them at all, let alone if I was having some kind of medical procedure done.
I wish there were some way you could say something like: thanks so much for offering to watch the kiddo -- can he just stay with you guys overnight tonight? I'm just so nervous! It would be great not to have to deal with little Jack before I go, I know he'll be able to tell how scared mommy is. And I'm afraid of how I'll feel or act after the procedure, I'd hate for him to see me (insert one: crying, acting drunk, walking crooked).
Then you can send hubby to their place to pick up the little guy as well as some plates of food.
Hand 'em a mop and the vacuum as they walk through the door, and say "Thanks so much!"... ;-P
I think that Sleepless has the right idea. I used to worry much more about my house. I still apologize about it being a mess but I tell them that the next time it comes it will still look the same way.
When we are ill---and especially when you have a young family---there are more important things that need to be attended to. Nobody every died from a dirty house---did they?????
Good luck with your biopsy and hope that all goes well. Sometimes our parents just can't help themselves. I know, because I am a parent who goes to my kids homes and I know I have said and done some stupid things. Goes with the territory. Love conquers all!! Irish ;D
I used to worry about my house and people coming over way too much! Now I try to keep it comfortable for me and hubby. If you come over don't wear black and if you get hit in the face with a golden retriever ball of fluff ...... oh well! >:(
I have the same problem, only one slobby hubby and a 2 year old! I say if they are not happy with it pick up a broom, lol!
My parents came down when my daughter was born and they were....um.....not exactly happy with my housekeeping (mind you I have never been a neat freak) I just asked my mom to do dishes and run the vac around while my hubby was at work and my dad was all happy with the kiddo. (my mother never helped with the baby, another long story).
Now We are getting ready to have the second baby and I need help with the 2 year old. my mother "cant seem to get any time away to help with this one" so I guess we will just wing it.
maybe it's for the best.
I cant live in a museum lke my mother likes too and I never will, Im ok with that.
dont stress and good luck with that biopsy!-hootyhu