Hi
I got some sad news today. One of my oldest daughter's best friends lost her fight with anorexia. She died on Thursday. She was only 31. She was a lovely person - kind to everyone except herself.
My daughter met her in 6th form. They did the Coast to Coast walk together. My daughter didn't know her friend was anorexic until they were actually doing the walk. (They hadn't known each other long) My d took things in hand and insisted she ate - refusing to move until food had been eaten. Her friend's mother was totally delighted to find, at the end of the trip, her daughter weighed the same as she had when she'd set out.
They did a lot of hill walking together and for her 18th B'day all my daughter wanted was for this friend to come round for a meal - which she ate.
They went their separate ways, going to different universities. Her friend got very ill and was hospitalised. She got through it and was a bridesmaid at my daughter's wedding. I know they kept in touch but no longer saw each other very often.
Her death is so sad. She was a straight A student, cared for other people as a supplementary job at University and was just a nice person.
Thanks for listening. Scottie.
Oh, Scottie, that is so tragic. Anorexia is hard to understand. I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter's friend, who was obviously important to you, too.
Hugs and sympathy,
Cheryl
Oh Scottie, I am so sad for this girl who died and for your daughter who must be suffering a lot too.
You daughter was such a good friend to this girl and I am sure that the other gal appreciated the help and the friendship. Such a sad disease that steals our young people from us. Plus, such a strange disease. Every time I hear someone criticize a young person's weight it drives me nutx. I had a couple of relatives who were always talking about how thin or "cubby" my sister and I were and it is a miracle that we both didn't end up anorexic.
The self esteem of a young person is so fragile. Thanks for taking the time to tell us about this gal, Scottie. In her short life it sounds like she did well in spite of her struggle. Irish ;D
Oh Scottie, what a sad time for this girl's family and friends, especially the wonderful friend she had in your daughter. You must be very proud of her for all the years she was a strength and support to the girl.
I'm glad to read (in your Christmas post) that your daughter is happy and bringing her boyfriend and his little one at New Year - she deserves to be happy and I hope you will have a lovely quiet Christmas and a not-too-lively New Year!
Take care, Ailsa
Scottie,
This is such sad news. As harrigan said, she had a wonderful friend in your daughter, and it must be so tough for her to hear this. This is a frustrating and misunderstood disease.
She obviously was a part of your life, too, and must be so tough for you to hear of her death at such an early age.
I can only send my sympathy and hugs to you.
Melinda
Dear Scottie,
A tragic loss.
Anorexia is a disease, and like so many diseases it isn't fully understood.
And you are so right that we never know 'what's round the corner'.
Every year at this time I prepare our "Christmas Letter" with photos, to send out in the weeks before the 25th. It has to be done early because our family and friends are very widespread and I have to assemble the photos and it takes time to print the envelopes and 100 letters.
BUT I don't put the letters in the envelopes and seal them. Because you never know what's around the corner that might change what would go in the letter.
It is part of the mystery of life.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Hugs
Elaine
Scottie-I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter's friend. Such a useless reason, I am sure. We never know what tortures the souls of the person suffering from these terrible things. Lucy
Hi
My daughter's weekend didn't get any better. Another of her bridesmaids phoned to tell her they'd been admitted to hospital awaiting tests urgently. She's been getting headaches and her vision is blurry. She went to her optician thinking she needed new glasses. She got some but the headaches continued. She went to a GP who referred her to a neurologist for whom she had an appointment sometime in January. She went back to her optician to see if her glasses prescription was wrong. He checked her eyes again and sent her to hospital because of a marked increase in pressure at the back of her eye.
She had a CT scan which showed up nothing. The hosptal are stumped. She is now waiting for an MRI. They need to find out what is causing the pressure. Last year her father died of a brain tumour. Obviously it is impossible not to think along those lines.
My daughter is beginning to think she's jinxed her bridesmaids. Of course she hasn't. She was on the phone for a long time tonight talking about the one who died last week. She's devastated.
Thanks for listening - Scottie
Dear Scottie,
What a week you and your family have had...my thoughts and prayers are sent to you and your daughter.
My sister-in-law once said that as mothers we can only be as happy as our saddest child. I think she may be right. It's so difficult to see our children in pain, no matter their age.
I'm sure your daughter appreciates all the loving support you give to her. We can only try our best to give support to YOU.
Hugs...:)
Melinda
Oh Scottie, I am so sorry to hear about your daughters' friends. Please give your daughter my best will you?
I'll keep your daughter and your family in my thoughts and prayers and my fingers crossed that the doctors figure out what is wrong with the other friend.
Take care my friend -
Patze
You are all wonderfully supportive. Thank you! :)
Scottie - I'm sorry to hear about your daughter's friends. It must be very hard for your daughter to lose one friend and have another with unexplained medical problems. I hope they can find a cause for her headaches and blurry vision.
As a mom, I'm sure it tugs on your heart to see your daughter so upset. Plus, I imagine you know these two gals too.
Feel free to talk to us here . . . we'll listen and offer a hug.
Hugs,
Bucky
My thoughts are with you and your daughter while dealing with the loss of one friend and the fear of the unknown with another.
You know the younger you are...the more death and illness seem so far away...and when something like this happens....it is devastating to family and friends.
Hugs to you and your daughter Scottie....