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I need to ask all you special people to pray for my 19 year ol nephew, Ben. Ben has been serving in Afghanistan for just two weeks, and was seriously injured yesterday.

Details are still unclear, but we know he has had both legs amputated at the knees, has a broken pelvis, and injuries to his upper body. He is heavily sedated and due to be repatriated at 1 am UK time on Sunday.

As you can imagine, we are utterly devastated. He has a partner and has taken responsibility for her 9 month old his. Stacey, his mum and dad (my sister) are being taken to the military hospital to be with him later today.

So, please will you pray for him and his little family, his brother and sister, and his dear parents?

Kathyx

Oh my gosh Kathyx, you know he'll be in my thoughts and prayers!  I know that you must be beside yourself with worry, but please please please take care of yourself too, okay?

And keep us updated, okay????



Patze

I am so sorry to hear this news. War tends to damage bodies and souls.

I'm sorry, I will definitely be praying for Ben.

Carie

Kathy:

I was very saddened to learn of the extensive injuries suffered by your dear courageous nephew Ben who has given so much in the service of his country.  Prayers for his recovery and rehabilitation are being said by me right now and I've also just made a special request to have prayers incluced for him during our church service tomorrow.

Sending many positive thoughts and heartfelt prayers,

Daisy

Thank you so much. i knew I could rely on you.

My sister has now set off for the military hospital. She will keep in touch with me, and I will let you know how Ben is, when I know.

Kathyx

I hope he comes out of all this in good spirit,, war is definately heck,,

Oh Kathy - I'm so sorry.

Sending all the positive thoughts I can muster for Ben, for you and for his family.

Take care - Scottie

(((Kathyx))) - I'm so sorry to hear about your dear nephew, Ben.  I can only imagine having that happen or hearing the news that your loved one has been seriously hurt.

Ben has a long road ahead of him.  It will definitely be "one day at a time". 

Keeping Ben, his little family, his parents and siblings and you and your family in my prayers. 

Please keep us updated when you can.

Hugs,
Bucky

Thank you. It's been a horrible day. I went to take my d-i-l and the little grandchildren to an appointment and just after I dropped them off, an elderly lady stepped off the kerb and fell at the back of my car. I was the only one to pick her up. The poor girl was just recovering from a broken hip. She said she was fine, and a relative came to collect her - she didn't need an ambulance, but I think I've strained my chest muscles when lifting her up. She wasn't very big, but I'm not either so, as well as hoping she's okay, I'm hoping I can keep moving tomorrow.

My sister and her husband have been allocated accomodation at the hospital. They are on standby for 2 am, when Ben will be taken from the airbase to the ICU at the hospital. I will update you tomorrow.

Thank you for your prayers. My church is praying for him too, so if prayer can move mountains, I'm sure it will help Ben get through this.

Kathyx   

I am so so sorry to hear of your nephews injuries....sending lots of prayers up for him, his family, and all of you to have the strength and courage to get through this together. He has made such a sacrifice for our country...


Yes, please keep us updated as you can...and please take care of yourself. Maybe with some rest your muscles will feel ok on their own....and if not hopefully your doc can help you out to make you feel better and heal!

Ben and your whole family are in our thoughts and prayers. It's hard to find words that mean anything.

Genko

Oh Kathy. My heart goes out to you all. When i think of the self centred lives of so many teens, its tragic to hear that Ben has suffered like this for the safety of others.  He is still a teenage boy,for all his responsibilities.

You have always been so kind and supportive on here. Hope you feel the love and support from your family here and all those around you in the coming days.  Keep us posted when u can. Hope u r ok after lifting the poor lady up yesterday. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers  xx Ailsa

Our dear Kathy,

My heart also goes out to your entire family.  Of course, you are devastated by the news of your nephew's injuries.  What a young man to have to go through so much in his life right now.   I'm sure your presence as well as his partner, and his mum and dad will mean so very much to him.

My family is praying for him, as well as letting everyone I know to also pray for his strength and care from his doctors, and for strength for your family as you go through such a horrible time.

Please know we are all with you in spirit, dear.  Keep us posted as you can.
Blessings,
Melinda

I've just heard from my niece that Ben has come through the surgery well. I don't know the findings, but he is holding his own. He may be woken up tomorrow - depends on how things go overnight.

Kathyx

Dear Kathyx
Its very hard to know just what to say,my hopes and prayers are with Ben and and your famliy.
Smallfry

Kathy,

I am wishing you and your family and Ben much comfort and peace.  You are all in my prayers.

~deb

I send my love.

My prayer is that he will remain strong and all those around him as he will need support.

Prayers continue to go up for Ben and his/your whole family...

Thank you updating us about Ben's surgery. 

Wanted to let you know there are prayers happening for him all over.  I posted a bit of his situation on my FB and I know that there are people praying and thinking of you and your family in at least 5 states in the US and with another of my friends in London.

I pray for his strength and the strength of you and your entire family.  Please try to take care of yourself, too, during this stressful time.
Sending our positive thoughts from across the pond.  ;)

Kathy,

I am so sorry to read about your nephew and his extensive injuries.  I can't think of the right words, but I will join the others with prayers for Ben.  I have several grown nephews and I know he means the world to all of you.  Lucy

Kathy,
You and your family are in my prayers, too. 
Cheryl

Dear Kathy,

I'm so sorry to hear about Ben.  Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

I am so sorry to hear about this event. War is certainly bad--other words to describe it that are more appropriate. I will also pray for him and his recovery both physically and emotionally.

Also will pray for his child and significant other. This can be such a terrible strain on a relationship and hope and pray that the gal is up to the task. He will really need her and that baby now. Please keep us posted.

Also, please try to get some rest so you don't go into a massive flare. Irish ;D

Hi everybody

I have just spoken to my sister. She is bearing up, although absolutely exhausted. The doctors have started to reduce Ben's sedation. He has responded to stimulus, but is still asleep. They will continue reducing the sedation gradually, and are hoping he will wake up tomorrow.

The pardre has been to see my sister and her husband, and prayed with them. She found that very comforting. She is not usually very religious, so I made her laugh when I told her my 'God-bothering friends' and I had all been praying for Ben and his family. She thanks you from the bottom of her heart. So do I.

Kathyx

Kathyx

I am so sorry to hear of Ben's ordeal.  I have sent up prayers for him and his little family.  Please keep us posted and get some rest so you don't go into a flare.

Cricket

Praying for Ben and for your whole family.  Please keep us in the loop as he progresses.

Also -- remember to take care of yourself.

My niece has been in contact. This is what she says:

Ben's sedation was reduced and he woke up briefly. He had a coughing fit and was sick, so they increased the sedation again. He is going back to theatre tomorrow, to have his wounds checked, so they will keep him sedated until after that. The nurse who was with him when he awoke said he was very calm, which is a good sign, however they don't know how much he understands of his situation.

My sister, her husband and family are bearing up. They are desperate to hold Ben, but fearful of his emotional state. His partner is with them, but the baby is with her family, which is good for him, but is mum is missing him greatly. And he won't be allowed in the hospital, as it seems lots of nasty infections come from the war zones, and of course, he is really vulnerable.

Thank you for keeping our family in your prayers.

Kathyx

Thanks for the update again. So much for this young man to go through, as well as your family. 

I apologize, but do you mean he'll be back in surgery when you say "theatre"?  Or is he going back to a war zone? Either way, I and a lot of friends are keeping him in our prayers, as well as you, too, dear.

Blessings,
Melinda

Thank you Meld. Sorry for the confusion - we British expect everyone to understand us :)Yes, theatre means surgery. It shouldn't be lengthy, but long enough to check and clean his wounds. He had an infection in one of his major wounds, so they need to be very careful. Apparently,there are lots of dirty bugs where he came from, so they have to be extremely vigilant.

Your prayers and thoughts are a cgreat omfort to myself and my family.

Kathyx

Kathy,

No problem at all; I think we here in the US expect everyone to know what we mean, too. :)   I love some of the different wordings.  My London friend told me once she was cleaning house and "hoovering" which was totally new to me, but I understood.

I'm sure they will be using every precaution while cleaning and checking Ben's wounds to assure there's no spread of infection.
Continued prayers,
Melinda

Kathy,

I was so sorry to hear the news about Ben.  I've been praying and thinking about him all week.

Dear Kathy,
   Sorry to be coming aboard the prayer train so late( haven't been visiting here too often), but will keep you, Ben and Ben's family in prayer.  Watching a loved one recover from injuries is not an easy thing.  May the love all of ;you have for him, keep his spirits up and willing to endure the long recovery he may face. An extra prayer thrown in that the infection clears up quickly.
God Bless you.
Catilee 2

Thanks Catilee, and all.

Ben woke up again yesterday. He is very confused, and can't work out why his mum and dad were visiting him in Afghanistan. Of coure, they were all in the UK, but he can't understand that. He did know that his partner was there, and took his oxygen mask off to kiss her goodbye. The nurse said he could be confused and angry for a few days yet, but slowly he will comprehend.

He doesn't know about his injuries, so prayers are needed now for his acceptance and eventual peace of mind.

God bless.
Kathyx

Yes, he has a long road of recovery both physically & emotionally.

I will continue to pray for him & your family.

Carie

Kathy,
I am following Ben's journey and keeping the prayers going that he may find acceptance and hope and eventually happiness.  Please continue to keep us updated on what transpires in his so moving story. 

Hugs,
Daisy

Quote from: Katybarstool on September 16, 2011, 12:35:20 AMBen woke up again yesterday. He is very confused, and can't work out why his mum and dad were visiting him in Afghanistan.  The nurse said he could be confused and angry for a few days yet, but slowly he will comprehend.

He doesn't know about his injuries, so prayers are needed now for his acceptance and eventual peace of mind.

When Ben is more alert and awake longer it is going to be a real shock to him to discover the extent of his injuries.  It's going to be a really tough time for him. 

I hope your sister and her husband and Ben's partner don't take anything that Ben might say or the way he might act personally.  It will take a long time for Ben to get to the acceptance part and eventual peace of mind.  This is not something you can just put a bandaid on, kiss it, and make it all better. 

Keeping the prayers coming.
Hugs,
Bucky

Thanks for keeping us updated Kathy...I continue to keep Ben and your whole family in my thoughts and prayers!

Thank you so much for your continued prayers - Ben is still in critical care but his family are just so pleased that he is awake and neurologically seems okay. He is still on lots of drugs and deeply traumatised, but his family understand that he's not responsible for his words.

Bucky, you are so wise. Ben is going to need all the strength he can muster in the future. My sister is convinced he will overcome his disabilities - he's such a determined young man. I just pray that she's right.

We are not allowed to visit him in critical care, but my son is going to drive me the two hours journey to see her and give her some moral support next Thursday.

Ben is going in  to surgery again on Monday to check and clean his wounds. I will update you if there are any changes.

God bless
Kathyx

Kathy,

My family also continues our prayers for Ben.  I can imagine he is deeply traumatized; he's been through a horrible time of it.  It seems someone in this situation goes through many stages of grief, just as we do when given a diagnosis of disease.  I pray for his strength; both physically and emotionally.

He sounds like a very determined young man.  That determination will do him well in the days and months ahead, and he may make a surprisingly good recovery.  Love of family will mean the world to him.  Continuing our prayers for all of you.  ;)

Melinda

We are continuing our prayers for Ben, and for your whole family, as well. It's great you will go to be with your sister. Just know we are all here cheering you on as best we can.

Genko

Kathy,
I just wanted to let you know that Ben is in our thoughts. You all have a long road ahead and I hope that your friendships on this board can give you strength through this difficult time.
Sending many (((((hugs))))))) from OZ.
Aussie Mum

Hello Kathy - I kept thinking of Ben today and wondering how he was after his wounds were cleaned, and how you are all managing.  Lots of love to you - let us know when you can xx Ailsa

Ailsa, thank you for remembering. The wound cleaning has been postponed until Wednesday.

Ben has had a good day today. He had some cereals first thing. For a few days he's only been allowed clear liquids, so that's a big improvement. He's also looking much better, according to my sister, although he gets very tired, which is to be expected.

If Ben continues to improve, he may be on the military ward by Thursday, which will be good, as then we will be able to see him. Otherwise, I'm just going to see my sister and her DH and give them both hugs.

Kathyx

Ben is certainly improving! I wondered about the wound cleaning, too.  Thank you for your update. 

Hopefully, he will be on the military ward by Thursday so you are able to see him.  I'm sure he will appreciate your trip to visit whether you see him or are able to support your sister and her DH.  What a courageous and strong young man.

My continued prayers and thoughts are with you all.
Melinda

Kathy,
It's so good to hear good news about Ben's progress!  He is still in my prayers, too.   May you have a safe trip, and I hope that you are allowed to visit Ben.  (I know that your being there will strengthen your sister!)
Cheryl

Kathy,

Thanks for the updates about Ben.  I can't even imagine what he and the family are going through.  I hope Ben has a good team of doctors that are tending to him - as it will be a long journey for him. 

This journey will be the toughest thing for Ben, a young man of 19 yrs. old.  But, I'm convinced he will find the courage and strength to not let this tragedy in his life define who he is.  He will rise above this challenge and be a better person for it.

Wishing you safe travels as you go to be with your sister and BIL.  I too hope you will have a chance to see and talk with Ben.  Please let your family know that friends of yours ( :D) are keeping Ben and everyone in their prayers.

Be sure and take care of yourself too, Kathy.

Hugs,
Bucky

Safe travel for tomorrow Kathy - thinking of you all.  Hope you are managing ok and can be some comfort for your sister and family.  XX Ailsa

Thanks Ailsa

The trip went well, although we weren't able to see Ben. He's still in the critical care ward, so visiting is very limited. However, we did see my sister and her hubbie and gave them both lots of much needed hugs. They both look so tired, it was heartbreaking. My mum went with us, and got a bit upset at one point. However, she composed herself. She just feels so bad that her daughter is having to go through this, and she can't make it better.

Back to Ben, he hadn't been able to eat so far, as his throat was too sore from the tubes. This morning he had a couple of mouthfuls of toast. so that's a start. He also had a cup of tea, so another first. He was expecting to go on to the military ward today, but that hasn't happened, and he's fed up about that, but it should happen soon. At that point, the baby will be able to visit him, and he's longing for that.

While we were down there, the pardre came to visit. He was such a lovely man. He talked to my sister and her hubby about taking care of themselves, and trying to get some sort of normality back in their lives. So, they have decided to go home (150 miles) for a couple of days after the weekend. Ben's partner will stay at the hospital accommodation, so he will not be without visitors. They will go back next Wednesday - hopefully more relaxed and refreshed.

So, we had a long day, but it was just so good to be there for my sister.

I will update you when there is any more news.

Kathyx

Thank you for that update. We will continue to keep all of you in our prayers for this long haul. It does sound as though things are beginning to stabilize, which is good.

Genko

So glad you were able to go.  I'm sure your visit must have been a huge comfort for your sister and brother in law.  Hope you can have an easy few days now to get over the journey and all the emotional toil as well.  Thinking of you and hoping Ben can get moved very soon to the Military ward.   XX Ailsa

Have heard from my sister today that Ben has left critical car and is now on the military ward. He seems to have picked up enormously since the baby was allowed in to see him at the weekend. Food is still a challenge. He managed to eat one day, then spent the next being sick, but it is still early days since his bowel surgery.

Ben was meant to have his wounds dressed and some surgery on his bladder today, but an emergency came up, so that will happen tomorrow instead.

Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers. As a 19 year old, Ben has a lot to face in the future, but we know your prayers will help him.

Kathyx

Kathyx

We are continuing to pray for Ben and your family.  This young man has given so much for the rest of us, God be with him.  It has to be heartbreaking for your sister, sometimes it is so much harder to watch those we love hurt.

Will keep Ben in my prayers. Cricket

Special prayers to lovely Ben and his family.  And to the rest of us too.

Kathyx,

Continuing prayers for Ben and your family.  It sounds as if seeing the baby picked up his spirits and that's wonderful to hear.  I hope he is able to begin eating a bit in the near future and is not so sick from it.

More thoughts and prayers regarding his bladder surgery and a good outcome.
My thoughts are with you all.
Blessings,
Melinda

((((((Kathy))))))

Just know that so many people here continue to think of and pray for your nephew, you, and your entire family!

Kathy,

Please continue to keep us posted on what is happening with Ben.  My heart and continued prayers go out to Ben and all of his family. 

Daisy

Kathy,  I am so sorry to hear about young Ben.  He is in our thoughts and prayers.   Another brave soul fighting for our freedom.  God bless him!

Hoping that Ben is making progress every day....I still check in here and think of him often.

Kathy,

Continued prayers for Ben.  Do you have any updates recently? Keeping him and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Melinda

Hello my lovely friends

I have been out of the country for the past week, and haven't been able to contact my sister for an update. I know that Ben was having his wounds dresssed again on Wednesday, but know nothing further - although I'm sure I would have heard if anything was amiss.

I'm sure to speak with my sister tomorrow, so I will give you an update as soon as I have one.

Thank you again for keeping Ben in your prayers. He certainly needs them, and will do for some time to come.

God bless.
Kathyx

Thanks for the note.  I realize you have other things to do other than update us here! 

I hope you have had a good week out of the country, and will look forward to your update whenever it's possible.
Blessings,
Melinda

Hi Melinda and all

I've spoken with my sister today; Ben had to have some more surgery on one of his leg wounds on Thursday, and it went well. Hopefully, it will start to heal now. He also needs a procedure to catheterise his kidney(?) as his bladder isn't healing. The pelvic frame is still in place, which means that Ben has spent the last four weeks on his back. His right hand is very seriously injured, but he does have his thumb, which is a blessing. He is in good spirit, and knows that you lovely people are praying for him, which he greatly appreciates.

My sister and her dh have gone home for the weekend, as they have to see their GP tomorrow about notes for work. On the surface they are coping, but scratch that surface even slightly and they are in bits. They will be going back to the hospital to stay with Ben on Wednesday. In the meantime, his partner and baby are with him.

We are so grateful that Ben has got this far and know that he has the strength to make the most of his life when he leaves the hospital/rehab unit. We know that his parents will get through this, but they still need your prayers and positive vibes.

God bless
Kathyx   

Thanks for the update.

Sending all positive vibes I can.

Ben has a hard road ahead but he's not on his own. Hopefully he will get the support from the organisations that are out there to help in his situation and also from young men who are also going through the same thing.
Some of those organisations may well offer support to his parents as well.

Take care - Scottie  :)

Thanks for letting us know Kathy.  Thinking of you all and sending love, Ailsa xx

Thanks for letting us know.  Sending all the vibes I have and prayers.

Quote from: Katybarstool on October 09, 2011, 12:37:52 PMIn the meantime, his partner and baby are with him.

Kathyx - thanks for the update on Ben.

I'm sure the baby is good medicine for Ben right now.

Continued prayers for Ben and family still coming.

Hugs,
Bucky

Thanks for the update, Kathy.

I hope his leg wound begins to heal better, and all goes well with his procedure on his bladder. Four weeks on his back; we can hardly imagine how hard all this has been on him, his partner and his dear parents.

That is good that he still has his thumb on his hand. It can be amazing what people can do with just that.

Our nephew had a best friend seriously injured in the war 2 years ago; he was 21. Doctors were unsure if he would survive the first 2 months after. He also had a long haul to recovery but has done remarkably well with the support of his family, wife and little boy.

These are strong and determined young men.  I feel Ben will be as determined as he goes through this long process of recovery and living his new life. My continued prayers go out to him, his parents and your family.
Take care of yourself, dear.
Melinda

Thank you my lovely friends

Ben has had a good week. HIs bladder/kidney surgery went well, and his wounds are healing. We are all so relieved.

My sister and her husband have asked me to thank you all for your prayers - they appreciate them more than they can say.

GOd bless.

Kathyx

I am so glad Ben has had a good week, that his bladder/kidney surgery went well, and his wounds are healing.  I'm sure you're so relieved!  This is good news.

Please tell your sister and husband we all have times in our lives that we need prayers from others. Just my personal opinion, but I think supporting one another is a way to show God's love.  One of the reasons we are put here-to help one another.

Continued prayers and positive thoughts,
Melinda

Wondering how Ben is this week Kathy?  And how you and the rest of the family are too? Sending love  xx Ailsa

Hi Folks

Not been around much this week, but just popping in to let you know that Ben has reached a landmark this week: six weeks on and he has been given an electric wheelchair! He still has the frame supporting his pelvis, so he can't physically get in or out of the chair himself, but it has given him a new lease of life - he's been as far as the Costa Coffee inthe hospital, which is a good start.

My youngest son and his wife have been down to Birmingham today to visit Ben. They were full of trepidition and, although they were shocked at how frail Ben is, they are very happy to have seen him. They said Ben's determination is showing through, and although  has a lot of anger to come to terms with, they have no doubt he will overcome that, and get on with his life.

BTW the hospital padre said mass with Ben and his immediate family today. I wish I could have been there. Anyway, the more prayers the better.

Thank you so much for caring about Ben - it really does mean a lot.

Kathyx

Yay for Ben!!  He's in my thoughts and meditations!  I'm a military brat - my dad was injured in Vietnam but not seriously.  I hope he gets the emotional treatment he needs.

I am so glad that Ben is slowly improving and is finding the strenght and determation to get better,Ben and family remains in my constant thoughts and prays.
Cheryl

Quote from: Katybarstool on October 23, 2011, 01:32:45 PMsix weeks on and he has been given an electric wheelchair! He still has the frame supporting his pelvis, so he can't physically get in or out of the chair himself, but it has given him a new lease of life - he's been as far as the Costa Coffee in the hospital, which is a good start.

That's wonderful that he has an electric wheelchair.  Even though he's not able to get in and out of the chair on his own right now - with time, he will.

Probably the hardest part for him is all the little baby steps it requires for him to be on the road to recovery.  His injuries are not a quick fix . . . it will take time for his injuries to heal. 

I'm glad your son and his wife were able to spend time with Ben.  I can only imagine all the images that run through your head when you hear the stories of Ben's accident, and then to actually see him in person.  I'm sure it was good medicine for all of them.

I know six weeks sounds like an eternity to Ben and your family - but, really, it hasn't been that long.  He's come a long way since he first arrived there.  Serving in a military position is not for sissies  . . . I'm sure Ben has the stamina to go the long haul.  We're right here supporting him in the journey.  Our continued best wishes to Ben and your family.

Thanks for the update.

Hugs,
Bucky

So glad to hear that Ben has reached yet another milestone! It's wonderful news that he has received and can use the electric wheelchair! He has already made so much progress that I have no doubt that he will continue to reach new milestone markers each day! Even small achievements for others are huge ones for him since he has been through so much already.


Still keeping Ben and the rest of the family in my thoughts and prayers....thanks for the update!

So glad Ben is making good progress.  He will continue to reach deep inside to overcome everything, after all he is strong to be in the service to begin with.

I am so glad you are keeping us updated, thank you.

My prayers continue for Ben and his family, for you and your family also.
Cricket

What a brave young man!  I am still keeping him and his family in my daily prayers and thoughts.

Hoping that the electric wheelchair can help open up his world for him again.   

Daisy

THank you for your continued prayers and good thoughts I understand from my sister that Ben is gradually spending more time in his wheelchair, and has been making friends with some of the other young soliders down the hall way. I'm sure their camaradery is helping them all deal with their horrific injuries.

Ben is still struggling to eat enough - he just doesn't have an appetite. His naso-gastric tube has been removed, and he is being given protein shakes, but it would be wonderful if he could get some pleasure from eating again. Oh, as a smoker, the first opportunity he got to go outside in the chair, he lit a cigarette, and found that he didn't want to smoke it, and it had no appeal for him whatoseever. So, one good result.

God willing, dh and I are going to Birmingham next week to see Ben. I will let you know more then.

Kathyx
 

Thanks for the update! Ben and your family remain in my thoughts and prayers.

Hi Folks

I thought you might see the interview my brother in law gave for our local paper yesterday. It is slightly sensationalised, but then, that's what the media does. My family had resisted the press up to now, as they were too upset, but there had been local speculation about Ben's injuries, so at least they could put the record straight. The press contacted the family after a well-intentioned fundraiser had asked for some publicity - they didn't realize they were giving out information that the family might not be ready to give. However, the article could have been much worse. Just two errors, Ben had only been there two weeks, and the fundraising is for two local military charities, not for Ben.

http://www.thetelegraphandargus.co.uk/news/9349458.Odsal_dad_appeals_for_help_in_looking_after_son_injured

On a brighter note, my hubby and I spent a weekend in Birmingham and saw Ben. He was very chirpy and cheeky, despite his injuries. God willing, he will be transferred to a rehab unit at the end of the month, once his pelvic brace has been removed. My sister and brother in law will feel that they can finally come back home for good, and get their lives going again.

Thank you again for your support.

Kathyx

Thanks so much for the update. It's great to hear that Ben is making such a good recovery! Will keep him in my thoughts and prayers.

To all my friends who have been thinking and sending prayers for Ben, I'm very happy to tell you that he left hospital yesterday and has gone to the military rehab unit. He will have intensive physio and some psych help, and will enjoy the camaradarie of the military colleagues. It has been a heartbreaking few months for him and our family, but we know that Ben wil do whatever he can to get on and have a fulfilling life with his little family.

I just wanted to let you know how important your support has been for us.

God bless
Kathyx

Yeah hurrah!!!  Prayer will continue of course.

Quote from: Katybarstool on November 30, 2011, 01:11:30 PM
To all my friends who have been thinking and sending prayers for Ben, I'm very happy to tell you that he left hospital yesterday and has gone to the military rehab unit. He will have intensive physio and some psych help, and will enjoy the camaradarie of the military colleagues. It has been a heartbreaking few months for him and our family, but we know that Ben wil do whatever he can to get on and have a fulfilling life with his little family.

I just wanted to let you know how important your support has been for us.

God bless
Kathyx

Thank you for the update. It is good news that he is able to move on to rehab. I hope he continues to get all the support he needs to heal however he can.

Prayers and healing thoughts to Ben and all his family.

Take care,

Genko

Dear Kathy:

Such a blessing that today we have so many advances in technology for people with serious injuries, like Ben's.

And a blessing that he has a strong spirit and loving support.

He will be able to do so much with patience and hard work.

Keep us posted.

Hugs

Elaine

Kathyx - thanks for the update on Ben.  He's been through so much already, may he continue to improve and get stronger with each passing day.

Bucky

Kathy, I just read through much of this thread and I must say that there have been a lot of miracles taking place in Ben's life. I know he won't feel that way at this point, but just to think how severely he was injured, how dirty his wounds were, etc;, all the surgery he has had, the fact that he is out of the hospital without more complications is really a miracle.

I will continue to hold him and his little family up in prayer as there is still a lot of healing to take place. His life is not over as his maturity level is going to have changed dramatically by this event. This has got to be about as life changing as any experience can get. Thankfully, he still has the ability to love and be loved. Tell him I appreciate what he has sacrificed and can't even express the gratitude I have for men like him who volunteer to serve our country. Irish

So happy to hear good news about Ben! He continues to be in my thoughts and prayers.

Kathy,

Thank you so much for the update.  With all Ben has been through, it seems he is such a determined young man and that will continue to help him immensely.

I think Irish put it so well, and thoughts I would write if I weren't "brain foggy" today. I also will continue to pray for him and his family as he goes on.  It truely does sounds as if his recovery so far has been miraculous.  It sounds as if he will not only receive excellent care in the rehab area but I'll bet he will be a support to other patients while there.
Again, he has given so much in service to our Allied forces.

Take care, dear.  ;)
Melinda

Thanks so much for the update! Wonderful news! Continued thoughts and prayers going his way...

Great news!!!  positive thoughts headed his way.

Thank you for all your kind messages.

My sister and her husband are back home now and trying to arrange to make their house accessible for Ben's wheelchair when he comes home for Christmas. They both work at the same place and their co-workers have collected a significant amount to help them with the work that needs doing. Just shows how many kind, caring people thre are when you need them.

I heard that Ben is being taken to a ball game tomorrow with some of his colleagues at the rehab. He will have a whale of a time. I'm so pleased that he can now be a young man, and enjoy a social life, rather than just a patient.

God bless.
Kathyx

just read this. of course.. i will keep Ben in my prayers.. God Bless

Dear Kathy, I have continued to quietly follow Ben's progress with much interest and compassion.  I was so very glad to hear of the kindness of the people who work with his parents in helping to raise money to make some much needed changes in their home.  They must be truly special people to have garnered so much support of those around them and Ben's bravery is also reflected in their raising of him. 

Still keeping Ben in my prayers daily. 

Sending gentle hugs,
Daisy

Hi Kathy - just catching up.. I'm so pleased that Ben has made such fantastic progress.   It must have been the hardest few months ever for your family and the prospect of getting Ben home will be wonderful.  Thinking of you all and hoping that Ben can get home for Christmas.   Much love to you all XX Ailsa

Ben returned to the hospital on Tuesday, to have the pelvic frame removed. According to my sister, all went well, and he is going to return home in the next day or two, to rest and recover over the holiday period.

I can't believe how far this wonderful young man has come - he's amazing.

Kathyx

Thank you so much for updating us, Kathy.  Each time I hear the news about Afghanistan I think of your dear Ben. 

I hope the family has a wonderful Christmas together.  They'll certainly be counting their blessings!

Love to all - Chickpea

Thanks for the update...I continue to follow your story about Ben and hold him and the rest of your family  close in my heart and as well as in my thoughts and prayers!

So glad to hear of his improvements...your so right...he is amazing...a true inspiration!

Great news Katy!!!  Ain't nothin' going to keep that man down!!   ;D

Continued prayers for Ben and the family. I hope they all have a wonderful Christmas together.

susanep  :)

I've meant to post again before now, but I've been following along.

Yes, Ben is making amazing progress! I'm sure he's glad to have that pelvic frame off. And isn't that wonderful that so many people have come together to help make the house wheelchair accessible?  Sometimes the kindness in others can pleasantly surprise us.

So great that he's able to come home for the holidays.  I'll continue to keep him and your family in my thoughts and prayers.  May he continue to gain strength each day.

Melinda

Ben and Stacey have announced their engagement today!!!! I know nothing more, but am hoping to see them both tomorrow.

This is a very brave move for them both, and I'm sure you will join me in congratulating them.

Kathyx

Fantastic!!!

Woohoo . . . congratulations to Ben and Stacey!!  If they start out their marriage having already tasted "for better or for worse, in sickness or in health" . . . . may they both weather whatever the future holds for them both.

Please pass along our congratulations to them both!   :D

Bucky

Oh Kathy - what lovely news!  Delighted for them.  Hope you have had a lovely Christmas and well done you for getting your waist back!!!!  xx Ailsa

Thanks Ailsa

Sorry to hear you've not been well. Senging you some healing hugs.

Kathyx

Well done to both of them. Wishing them all the luck in the world.  :)

Kathy,
I just now signed on and saw your post. Wow, what an emotional rollercoaster. I am glad everything is working out good for Ben.
I will be praying for him and your family for a wonderful new year.

I haven't been on for awhile and haven't seen all the posts yet. Hopefully things will settle down and I will be on more now.
Love and prayers to all, harlin

Thanks Scottie and Harlin.

Harlin, I wondered where you were, and hoped you were away because you were feeling well. However, I know sometimes,  we just don't have the energy to come online, or if we do, don't have the energy to reply.

Good to see you back.

Kathyx

Congratulations to Ben and Stacy!!

So glad he is doing better, continued prayers.

Just caught up with this and wanted to send my congratulations to both Stacey and Ben.  xx

What wonderful all the best for Ben & Stacey
Cheryl

Congratulations to Ben and Stacey! What an inspiration to us all, to say yes to life and yes to each other in this way.

So glad he is getting better all the time.

Take care,

Genko

Congrats to Ben and  Stacey!!

:)

Congratulations to them both; what wonderful news!  :D ;D

They sound like an amazing couple, and it seems Stacey is just as determined about love and living their lives to the fullest as much as Ben. So happy for them.

Melinda

Thank you for keeping us posted, Kathy.   It's wonderful to know that Ben's story has a happy ending!

May the truest love and trust in each other follow them thru their life journey together!

?Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.?

Wishing Ben and Stacey a most sincere congratulations on their engagement!

Daisy

Daisy

Wow! That is so powerful. Thank you for your thoughts and good wishes.

KAthyx

That's wonderful news, Kathy!  Send them love, congratulations and mazal tov!!

Thinking of you all - Chickpea

Kathyx - how's Ben? 

Bucky

Hi Bucky

Thanks for asking. To be honest, he seems pretty depressed at the moment. He's been at home for over a month with the holidays, and then there was a delay due to heating problems at the rehab place, so he is only just going back today.

I know depression is to be expected after such a life-changing event, and we are all hoping the camaraderie with his colleagues and some psychoogical input will help him. I guess it just takes time. Stacey and the baby are fine.

His mum, my sister is also struggling just now. We talk, but she is not the kind of person to seek medical help, which she needs. I'm hoping the fact that she isnow back at work and mixing with other people will help her. We have invited her and her hubby to come away with us for a week next month, which I think will give her boost. We don't know her decision yet.

So, your prayers are still needed.

Hugs
Kathyx

The middle stretch is sometimes the hardest. My son was in the initial 2003 invasion of Iraq - wounded (not nearly as badly as Ben) and also diagnosed with PTSD, like so many. He has been home for more than six years now and it has only been in the last six months that he is beginning to relax a bit and just live his life.

I will continue to hold you, Ben, your sister, and all the family in my prayers, as I do my own son, every day.

Take care,

Genko

Kathy,

I, too, hope that Ben getting back with his colleagues will help him. It certainly seems normal for him to be depressed sometimes for all he's gone through and continues to endure.  Please let him know I feel he's been a real inspiration for so many.  He's been such a strong young man, but I'm sure good psycological help is needed for him and his parents.

War certainly changes people, and there are so many coming back with so many physical and emotional needs.
genko,
I'll continue to pray for your son as I do Ben and his family...and all the others.
Blessings to you both,
Melinda

Genko

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I find that reassurring, but I'm so sorry that your family have had to go through this. I will also pray for your son, and for you. It must have been a hard six years for you all.

Meld,

Thank you for your continued prayers and empathy. We feel that Ben has been an inspiration too, but I think he's finding the 'hero' part difficult to live up to. I think the next few months will be tough for him, but he will get there with all the prayers and positive vibes being sent his way.

There's one thing our family is looking forward to this week: Ben's older sister is due to have her first baby tomorrow. That will give everyone a boost - new year, new life :)

Kathyx
Kathyx

Thanks for the update Kathy - I wondered how Ben was getting on.  The depression is inevitable I would think, but I hope it is eased by his move back to rehab and the strength he can give and receive with others in the same situation.

Hope your good news baby arrives soon and safely!  Let us know.Thinking of you all xx Ailsa

Genko - will be keeping your son in my thoughts too  xx Ailsa

Kathyx - thanks for the update on Ben.  Considering the scope of events that have happened to Ben in recent months, it's only natural that he would be feeling depressed.  I hope once he gets back to the rehab place that things will improve.

If Ben is like most people, if you keep yourself busy, you have less idle time to think about his physical condition, limitations, etc.

Ben has been through such a traumatic event in his life - it will take time for him to come to grips with his new way of life.  As his physical strength improves, I'm hoping his mental strength will improve too.  Although, I've got to say, I think he's doing a fantastic job where he's at right now - he's come a long way.  He should be proud of that.

Please convey our best wishes to him and his little family.  Tell him he has friends of his Aunt from around the world who are praying for him.

Would there be any way you would be able to go with your sister to see a doctor?  As you said, now that she is back to work and around other people, perhaps that will help her too.

Genko - I'm sorry to hear about your son.  However, I am glad that he has recently been able to start to relax a bit and live his life.  That has got to be such a hard, long struggle for the whole family.  Prayers for all of you too.

Bucky

Dearest Kathy - thank you for the update on Ben and the whole family.

Genko - I can't even begin to imagine the pain for you and your son, and all the families affected by war. 

I'm so grateful to you both for telling us about these precious young men in your families.  We read news stories of conflicts across the world and see news footage but rarely do we face the lifetime impact.  Thank you for opening our eyes.

Love to you all - Chickpea

Kathy,

Wondering if that new little baby has arrived?  Is Ben an uncle by now?  ;)

Chickpea,
You are exactly right in that we see and hear of these precious military people in the news and that there has been an injury, but rarely do we know what happens after the fact.  We often don't hear of the struggles and challenges they face, often for many years.

I think once we see how many challenges there are, I feel even more respect and admiration for them all.

Melinda

Chickpea and Meld

Thank you for remembering Ben. He is indeed an uncle - his nephew arrived on the 1 February, weighing in at 7 lbs 14 oz - so far he is nameless. My niece is well and absolutely besotted with her new arrival. Sadly, Ben has MRSA, so he won't be able to see the baby just yet. My sister is over the moon at becoming a 'proper Nanna'.

Kathyx

Kathy,

Thanks for the update on Ben. I hope that he is able to find the strength that he needs to continue his journey to getting better while back at the rehab center surrounded by friends that truly understand some of what he has been through and seen.

My love, prayers, and thanks continue for Ben as well as for your son Genko and to all of the young men and women currently serving or who have already served in the past. Most of us will never understand the sacrifices they have made...but they are appreciated.

Congratulations also on that new little baby Kathy...maybe he bring some much needed happiness to your family. Keep us posted...

Kathy,

Congratulations to your niece and her new arrival!  ;) He's a good size for a little man.

I'm so glad he can bring so much joy to your sister; it seems sometimes this sort of thing happens at just the right time, doesn't it?  I'm thrilled she's so happy to be "Nana." 

I don't think I could say anything better than lynnmarie.  Well said! I'm sorry to hear Ben is battling MRSA, but hopefully this will be resolved soon.
My prayers and blessings continue for your family, dear.

Melinda

Kathy
Congratulations on the new baby!!! Baby's are such a blessing. I hope everyone is doing well. I can only imagine how your sister is doing being a Nana. I love being Mamaw.

I hope Ben is doing better now. Our prayers are always with you and your family.

Love and prayers, harlin

Thanks Harlin

Ben is well. The new baby has finally been given a name! He's Daniel Benjamin! We are very pleased that my niece is honouring her younger brother in this way.

Hope you are feeling better.

Kathyx

Congratulations!

What a beautiful name.  Glad mom and baby are doing good.  I also second Lynnmarie's note on our service men and women.

Continued prayers for Ben and your family.  :)

Kathy,

How is Ben doing these days?  And that little great-nephew of yours-Daniel Benjamin?  ;)

My continued thoughts are with Ben and your family.
Melinda

Hi Meld

Thank you for thinking of Ben and the baby.

I saw Ben this weekend at my sister's house. He seemed very low when we first arrived, but cheered up some after he had been chatting about rugby with my husband and son. That is a tricky subject, as Ben had played rugby for his country in the early days in the army - he had been to Canada and New Zealand. Having his injuries means that will not happen again. However, he does like to talk rugby tactics, and gets enthusiastic about the local team.

Ben was sitting very proudly in his new (orange) titanium wheelchair. It was imported for him from he States and is very lightweight. Apparently, using this will mean that, when he gets his mobility car, he won't need to drive in in the wheelchair. He'll be able to slide his bottom into the car seat from the wheelchair, and then the fab new chair comes apart, to store in the footwell. Ben is a very determined young man and has decided that he wants as few adaptations as possible, which is a wonderful attitude, and he will go far.

Daniel-Benjamin is doing very well. He's gaining weight, and beginning to look quite plump - like a little peach! I love babies, and it's a while since we had a new one in the family. His mum is doing very well. She's a practical young woman, and not much fazes her, which is a good thing, as with Ben and the new baby in the last few months, as well as a more than full time job before the baby arrived, she has had very little time to herself.

So, life is going on for our Ben. He is still in rehabilitation, and will be for some time to come, but he will get there. He doesn't like being at the rehab centre, but knows he has no choice, if he wants to get as well and strong as possible. He is to be given two medals next month - one is for serving in Afghanistan, and the other for our Queen's Diamond Jubilee. He makes us very proud.

Hugs
Kathyx

Meld, thanks for reminding Kathyx to post about Ben and the family. I think of these things but never follow through. You're a good girl!  :)

Kathyx, I'm so pleased yet saddened to hear about Ben. It's so awful that he's having to go through rehab and changing his life so drastically. Yet he's got such a spirit that I'm inspired to also do my best.

Life is hard, but life is good.

Thanks for the update! I'm glad to hear that Ben is still so determined for the most part...he inspires me that's for sure!

Kathy

What a remarkable man Ben is!!!

I do not know that I would have the courage to fight the good fight if it happened to me.  Lord everytime another thing is heaped on my shoulders I want to give up, but the as if my daughters can tell they bring on the heavy duty medicine, my grandchildren and now I learn I am going to be a nana for the 6th time, I am blessed!!
So onward I press to get things done, get ready for more babysitting etc.  kind og=f got off the subject though.

Back to Ben and his lovely little family.  I will pray all goes smoothly for then and they will receive the best life has to offer them.  :) ;D
Cricket

Kathy,

Thanks for the update on Ben and your family. I think of all of you often.  ;)

So glad to hear Daniel-Benjamin is doing so well. Like a plump little peach; what a cute description. Sounds like his Mom is a very practical young woman.  I'm happy to hear the baby is growing and healthy.

Ben certainly has had his challenges, and appears he will for quite some time.  He is a determined and strong man, that is for sure.  That's exciting news about his wheelchair and how it will help when he gets his mobility car.  I worked with a young man who drove that type; he just parked, pulled out the chair from the front of the car, popped over into it and rolled into the building.  Quite impressive!

I'm sure his rehab may seem frustrating to him some days, but he seems so determined to do his very best, it must spur him on.  He's quite a remarkable guy.  I'm sure you are all very proud of him, as well you should be! 
Please update us more about his service medals later if you like. Will there be a ceremony you can all attend or a very small event?
Send him our thoughts and wishes, please, and take care of yourself.  ;)

Melinda

So glad to hear of Ben's progress. What a blessing that he has the support of all his family.

Take care,

Genko

Hi Kathy - just wanted to wish you all a lovely, peaceful Easter and hope that all the healing Ben needs will keep coming.  I think of him often and every time it is mentioned on the news.  Love to you all, Ailsa

Ailsa

Thank you for remembering Ben. I haven't seen him for a couple of weeks, so I'm assuming he's okay. I know he is thinking about a Motability car, but don't know when that will happen. His little family seem fine too.

I hope you have a happy, joyful Easter too.

God bless
Kathyx

Kathy,

Thanks again for your news.  We keep Ben and your family in our prayers always. 

I'm also wishing you a joyful and happy Easter.  ;) 

Take care,
Melinda

As you can imagine, this is a very proud day for our family. I wasn't able to be there, but this is a short video clip from the local television news. Ben is right at the end. He is the one in the wheelchair with the little boy in his lap.

http://www.itv.com/news/anglia/2012-04-19/soldiers-receive-campaign-medals/

Kathyx

Oh thank you so very much Kathy for sharing this news clip with us and enabling us to see Ben and little Daniel-Benjamin. 

My goodness what a sweet little cherub Daniel-Benjamin is and to see him sitting happily on his daddy's lap was very very touching.

May God bless them both and all of the family.

Daisy

Thanks Daisy. I'm sorry, I should have made it clear, the little one on Ben's knee is Kaden. He is 18 months old now. Daniel-Benjamin is 2 1/2 months - he's Ben's nephew. Both are so cute though - I just want to squeeze them tight!

Kathyx

Kathy, well little Kaden (the nephew) is a really cutie too.  So nice to see Kaden on Ben's knee, he looks quite comfortable there and very fond of his uncle.

Daisy

Yes, thank you for sharing - glad he was able to celebrate with his fellow servicemen as well as family.

All the best to all of you,

Take care,

Genko

Hi

I saw Ben and his partner yesterday, and they have been to see a house. They have put in an offer, and if they are successful, will have some adaptations done, and then move in. Ben is still undergoing physical rehabilitation, but will spend four weeks away and four weeks at home for the forseeable future, so they will have sometime together to organise things before he is medically discharged. He is also looking to buy an adapted car, so will have some independence soon.

He was pretty chirpy yesterday, although the medal day was very tiring for him.

Kathyx

That's great news Kathy. You must all be so proud of him. He seems to be moving forward in leaps and bounds.

Take care - Scottie  :)

Kathy,

As I watched the video from the news station and Ben's medal ceremony, I was so touched by the sight of all the brave young soldiers and little Kaden on Ben's knee. Thank you for sharing that with us.

That's wonderful news about he and his partner buying a home!  I so hope it all works out successfully for them.  ;) You must be so proud of him and his progress. 

I wish him and his little family so many blessings!

Melinda