Hi everyone,
I have a heavy heart today. My oldest Neice 39 shot herself last night. I am so devistated. Her mom my sister doesn't want to talk to anyone. I just wish I could talk to her and do something. I understand she is in shock. I really worry about her. She lost her husband a couple of years ago and is very withdrawn. She has another daughter who I spoke with this morning. She was going to the funeral home at noon with her mom to make arrangements.
You never know when something like this will strike us all. So sad that she chose to end her life at such a young age. I just wish I could have helped her. She left 3 children ages 17, 15 and 13. Also twin grandsons age 1. I don't understand what could have been so bad to end her life. I feel so bad.
Thanks for listening. Just needed to tell someone.
Please pray for their family, harlin
How horribly shocking and sad. I am so very sorry to hear of your loss.
My thoughts are with you and your entire family at this time.
Peace and strength to you, harlin.
Rayven
Harlin,
I'm so sorry for all of you. I hope your sister opens up to you soon. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Cheryl
Dearest Harlin,
I am so very sorry for your loss. I experienced this myself, having lost my brother twenty-seven years ago to suicide. He was only 30 years old.
You and your family are in my thoughts.
Thoughts with you and your family Harlin.
That is sad indeed.
My husband's youngest brother took his own life. He drove a car over a cliff. He also left a young family.
There is no understanding it. It's so sad. They have no idea what they leave behind. They honestly think that those who love them will be better off without them.
You can always talk to us. Your sister will appreciate you being there for her even if she feels she can't talk to you right now.
Take care - Scottie
(((Harlin))) - I'm so sorry your family is going through this really sad, difficult time.
It's hard to understand why things like this happen.
I'm sure your sister is still in shock. Just let her know that you're available if she wants to talk. It's going to be a difficult time for your nieces children and grandchildren too.
Remembering you and your family at this time of loss.
Hugs,
Bucky
Harlin my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as you try to deal with this tragedy. Praying your sister will soon open up to you and her daughter. Bless you all.
Oh Harlin - what a dreadful thing to happen. There is no way to make sense of it. Just wanted to send love and to let you know you are all in my thoughts. Hope you have someone to comfort and support you as you try to be strong for your sister and the teenagers. Post and let us know how you are getting on when you have time. xx Ailsa
Harlin, I'm so sorry.
What a cruel thing for everyone to deal with.
Your niece must have been in unbearable pain, emotional or physical.
But the lasting pain of her suicide will hurt forever those around her.
I wish there were easy answers and easy consolations. There just aren't.
You will do what you can, but no one can make this better, only time and grieving and loving support may make it almost bearable.
My heart goes out to you and your family.
Please seek professional support, and group support for families who have experienced this.
It is a major life blow, for all of you. And you who are left will have to bear this pain together.
It is.
It happened.
It should never have happened.
Share with us, if you can, when you can.
Hugs and kisses.
Elaine
What a tragedy! Sometimes you just never know what overwhelmed the person. May she rest in peace. So sorry for your loss.
For the second time on the forum today, I have to recommend the book "The Year of Magical Thinking" by Joan Didion about the year after her husband died unexpectedly.
Harlin, I'm so very sorry about your niece. Prayers for her and you and your family.
I'm so sorry to hear that, harlin!! :'(
I wish i could hug ya through this screen!
Just be there for her when she is ready! The kids will need ya at this time if you are close with any of them, as it sounds like your sis is taking it really hard and may have to take care of her first before her grandkids.
Hugs and :-* :-* :-*
Sha
Oh my Harlin, please accept my condolences of the lose of your niece too.
Patze
Oh Harlin,
So sorry for you and your family. take care
Suicide effects everyone. I will pray for all of you that have to live through this horrible thing.
Oh, Harlin. I will surely keep you and the family in my prayers. Just hug everyone for me. Let us know how things are going....
XOXOXOXOXOX
CAT
Harlin, this is such a sad time for you. Let your sister know that you are there for her whenever she needs you. All unexpected deaths are such a shock but to take your own life brings an extra sadness.
My heart goes out to you, your sister and the children as I have experienced suicide in my family as well.
harlin, What a hard thing for a family to go through. I extend my sympathy to you and your family. The family left behind suffers so much at times like these. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Irish
Harlin,
I'm so sorry to hear of this tragedy in your family. Our family endured this; my oldest sister took her own life when she was 32. She was a wife and mother to 3 young children. I was 13 at the time and I adored her.
Suicide is something that is so hard for us to understand and to come to grips with. We are left asking ourselves "why?" I hope your sister will open up to you in the future. Maybe it's just too soon for her right now. So many people have dealt with this crisis, unfortunately. I think it's still just not talked about enough and not enough about how to heal.
Right now, take care of yourself. As someone mentioned, if you can, please try to reach out to her children in a special way. Many times adults in the family are so overwhelmed they tend to forget how the children are grieving in their own way. Counseling for them is imperative, and most likely your sister and others in your famly.
My heart goes out to you and I send prayers for peace, dear. Your friends are here for you...
Melinda
Harlin,
This is so sad.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
Harlin-
I'm very sad, reading your post about your beloved niece. My thoughts are with your family during this difficult time.
Harlin - I am so sorry to hear about this tragedy. My heart goes out to you and all your family. I'm sure your sister knows that you are there for her when she's ready to ask for support. Right now she's probably trying to do everything for everyone else.
Thinking about you - Chickpea
oh sweet harlin~ i'm so uber sorry 4 u & urs!!! i will just re~ennerate what others have said...
be there...& KEEP bein' there...she is sure ta needcha...but in 'er own time!
when my mama passed away (she was my bestie ) it was truly hard ta let ANY1 be there 4 me
('cept my sha bebe) every1 else was an outsider in my eyes!!! but after awhile...i started openin' up ta other peeps!!! :)
i know u'll worry...just make sure ur available when she's ready!!!
much luv & healin' thoughts ta u & urs sweets!!!
~*flutterfly...reachin' hand out ta say ta harlin...i'm alaways in p.m. land if u ever need a friend sweets!!!*~ :-* :-*
I am sitting here reading all the wonderful and thoughtful posts thru all the tears. It has really effected our family. I still can't believe this has happened. I can't seem to quit crying. I have a therapist appt tomorrow. My heart aches for their family. I cannot immagine what my sister is feeling.
I did finally speak to her on Monday. She is of course devistated. She said she has to get all the paper work filed for coustidy of her grandson. He is only 13 and his father is not in the picture. The girls have their dad and will be staying with him. I wish I knew how to help them all. I let her know that I am here for all of them if they need anything. You just feel so helpless.
My neice will be cremated and there will be no visitation or funeral. This is so hard, there is no closure.
Thank all of you for your thoughts and prayers,
Love harlin
Harlin, I'm very glad to hear that you will be going to the therapist. I really think it is so important given the situation. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts. We are all here for you. (((hugs)))
Dear Harlin,
I am glad to hear from you. And I applaud your decision to visit a therapist. It's important for you to talk about your flood of emotions.
I'm still thinking about you and your family each day.
HARLIN~ i also am sooo very happy u decided ta go ta therapy!!!
may it bring u a lil' peace ta ur soul!!! :)
is there any way u could suggest the same ta ur sissy??? or maybe have 'er cum ta ur doc w/ya???
she really needs it!!! i know how helpless u must feel...just know that what u are doin'...
as far as makin' urself available is what she needs right now...when she is ready...
i'm sure u'll KNOW!!!
may u & ur family find peace very soon!!!
much luv & uber good thoughts ta u & urs sweets!!!
~*FLUTTERFLY...wrappin' lil' pixie wings 'round devasted & mournin' friend!!!*~ :-* :-*
harlin,
Want you to know I'm keeping you and your entire family in my thoughts and prayers through this tragedy. I also applaud you for visiting your therapist. There is certainly a feeling of helplessness in situations like this. I know you want to help your sister and her grandchildren. I'm sure you will have that opportunity in the future.
Please know my prayers are continuing for you daily, and for your sister and rest of the family.
Take care, dear
Melinda
So sorry for you loss...
Oh Harlin...That is so very very tragic for you and your family, I cannot imagine but the pain must be hard to verbalise.
I will truly keep you and your sister & extended family in my prayers, I am just so sorry for you all, bless you all!! xxx
Paula
How very sad Harlin.
give the family all our deepest sympathies, you will comfort each other .
Who knows what goes on in peoples minds to do such a thing.God be with you all, Hugs Dolly x