Happy New Year to you all!!!
So, I just got back from a vacation in Florida with a friend who knows about my sjogrens. After inviting me to her timeshare, and I paid for my flight, etc - - she invited her college roommate!!!! I have never met her roommate so now, as you can all guess, I'm the third - I should have backed out then but I didn't. Anyway, the two of them walked and talked together and left me out of most everything. However, the worst part was that the water in Cocoa Beach isn't great so we bought jugs of water and just kept filling our bottles from that. One morning, my friend/satan was filling her bottle and I said "Oh, good, I need to do that too - I'm out." She filled her bottle and finished the water and said, "we're out, we'll have to get some more later." I was pisssed!!!! Even if I didn't NEED that water, I would have shared whatever was left rather than taking it all. How RUDE!!!!!!!!!! She did that with other things too, but the water is the one that ired me.
She and I had discussed a relaxing vacation - laying around, reading, having some wine and a nice dinner. Once the roommate came - they wanted to run, run, run - - well, as you can guess, that was hard for me. So I pulled out the spoon theory for them to read -- -they read half and then put it down!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm supposed to go pick up Satan from the airport on Sunday - 2 1/2 hours away (I had always planned to come home a few days earlier -) I will go pick her up because I said I would - I thought we were good enough friends that she'd do that for me as well - wel, now I'm rethinking that about her.
OK, - Just had to gripe - - thanks and happy new year.
Voiceteacher
OK sorry - I just read the new rules - this probably should have been on the other board - - I'll be more careful next time -
Voiceteacher
Oh sweetheart :-*
Im sorry andi'm sending you a hug!
I had a similar experience before I was dx. It was when I was 16 and I had my license and was told we would have a car in reno also, but her mom lied and I was with them and had to do whatever they did the whole tiime and she was a BBtch the whole time....I finally called my dad and boyfriend after 3 days and told them I couldn't spend one more minute with her and if they didn't come get me, I'd be walking...trust me when I say I would!! I actually never talked to her again except to get my things I left on accident.
Sometimes you find out what someone is truly llike when ya go on VACATION with em!
Have a great New Year!
Sha
Leave her at the airport,, or call TSA and tell them you think shes a terroist
Navydad! I canNOT believe you would even SUGGEST such a thing! ...I'm WITH YOU... ;D ;D ;D
Do what you said you would do.
I know that there are so many things to do in Florida. We had a timeshare and my wife and kids wanted to run all the time. I would take busy days off and stay in the timeshare to relax while they ran. We were about 1 mile from Disney. I took the gentle tours while they did the rides. One time I stayed home and my wife her twin and the three daughters went with one grandson. They came home totally exhausted while I tried to have extra spoons at the end of each day they were gone.
Although I would be more than tempted to leave her at the airport, I couldn't do it. I would suggest you call her now and tell her you are too ill and she should make other plans to get home. That does not sound like a fun 2 1/2 hour ride home!
Voiceteacher, that must have been a terrible time for you. I have to agree with Autoimmunity, and would let your friend know that you are too unwell to pick her up. She might be hacked off, but she deserves it.
Hugs
Kathyx
Voiceteacher,
I agree with Katy and Autoimmunity. You don't need the extra stress.
Navydad - you have a wicked sense of humor. what a scene that might have caused. We don't need Voiceteacher getting into hot water for a false report. though.....
Happy New Year to all of you. May 2011 be a year of less flares and and less pain.
Catilee 2
Navydad - - you're funny!! That's exactly what I'd like to do - - but, of course, I won't. Actually, the only COSTCO near me is in that town - 2 1/1 hours away - so I don't go often. I think that after I pick her up, I'll go there - - whether or not it's on her schedule. That way it won't be a totally wasted trip.
As for her turning into SATAN - - when I talked w/my mother, she said she didn't TURN into Satan, it was already there but I hadn't seen it yet - - that's probably true. But still, I'm incredibly disappointed that someone I considered a friend, is so inconsiderate, unkind and uncaring. Oh well - - now I know.
Hope you all had a wonderful New Years - - I was in bed with the flu - - I think the stress of this trip really made my resistance low and then I got the flu from the plane. Doing better today - - still staying home, in bed but no more fever.
Here's to as much health and happiness as we can all find this year!!!! Thank you to all for being here - I know I don't post much but I always feel better when I do - - -
Voiceteacher
OK, I'm off to the airport today - with strep throat!!!! I got it the morning after I got home from the hellish trip. It's sunday but I'll call the dr anyway to get an antibiotic - - I haven't had strep since 1988!!! I wish I didn't have to go today - I know if the tables were turned, she'd leave me on a lurch if she were sick but I just can't do it.
Where is Navydad when you need him??
Voiceteacher
Voiceteacher, I hope you find some goodness in taking this task on for your non-friend. Perhaps it will make you feel better for doing the (right?) thing?
Perhaps best of all, she'll catch the flu from you and it will have been worth it. You'll never have to speak to her again. Lucy
Quote from: eyeamdry on January 02, 2011, 10:37:00 PM
Voiceteacher, I hope you find some goodness in taking this task on for your non-friend. Perhaps it will make you feel better for doing the (right?) thing?
Perhaps best of all, she'll catch the flu from you and it will have been worth it. You'll never have to speak to her again. Lucy
That's a tad evil ;D
yes, the thought is evil - however - it's only a thought and since she can't actually catch the flu from thoughts, I'll enjoy that one!!!!! Thank you all for your support - - - that was a very upsetting situation - and being sick didn't help. I am now on antibiotics - called the dr sunday afternoon - - the strep is already responding - so - - hopefully this won't drag on like most of our colds do!!!
Voiceteacher
Quote from: voiceteacher on January 03, 2011, 01:04:02 PM
yes, the thought is evil - however - it's only a thought and since she can't actually catch the flu from thoughts, I'll enjoy that one!!!!! Thank you all for your support - - - that was a very upsetting situation - and being sick didn't help. I am now on antibiotics - called the dr sunday afternoon - - the strep is already responding - so - - hopefully this won't drag on like most of our colds do!!!
Voiceteacher
So, it didn't get any better when you picked her up? She wasn't overly grateful or appreciative or anything?
I'm so sorry for your unfortunate experience with your so-called friend, voiceteacher. It always hurts when people we care about turn out to not care so much for us. And I live about 30 minutes from Cocoa Beach so you were pretty close to me.
Voiceteacher,
I'm sorry your vacation didn't turn out like planned. That was very rude of your "friend" to invite someone else along without at least mentioning it ahead of time to you. Then to leave you out of most stuff . . . again, very rude!
I hope she knows you weren't feeling well when you made a special trip to come pick her up from the airport. Since she was a captive audience in your vehicle, I hope you let her know how you felt. (I know having strep throat you probably didn't feel like talking a lot - but, I would have had my say!).
My sister and I always had this saying, "rugs are to be walked on, not people!".
I'm glad you are feeling better with the antibiotics - hopefully, it will clear up quickly.
Take care,
Bucky
Well, voiceteacher, you're a better person than I am. I'd have dropped her like a hot brick and told her to make other arrangements for getting home from the airport - and why.
You were SICK, and didn't need the stress of that length drive.
Take care,
Lily
Voiceteacher, just curious as to how the actual ride home was. Did you chat. Did you try to tell her what was bugging you or was it a terrible drive home?
I was in a similar situation a few years back. I tried to be a really good friend to a person that I worked with but she was suspicious of me because of something that my relative did to her family. Anyway, she became very nasty and hostile towards me and I took all I could stand. We had to go on a 2 hour business trip along with two other people in the same vehicle. I knew this was my chance to try once again to make peace with her or give her a piece of my mind.
Well, I ended up giving her a piece of my mind and I left nothing out. The two people in the back were silent and I kept blasting away until I had my say. The bad thing was, I was a passenger in her car and she could have let me out at any time.
I tried so hard, but it just wasn't meant to be. She is now in a different part of the state and I say good riddance.
The two people in the back seat came up to me later and told me that they never realized this person could be so viscious until I pointed out just how she was doing things to hurt me and others and the place that we worked at.
Hi all,
So you want to know about the ride home - - it was nothing special. I told her how sick I was and she never said well thank you for getting me anyway. Then she never said I hope you feel better. I dropped her off and haven't called her nor heard from her since. I was actually much sicker than I knew - I tend to just go on when I don't feel well if at all possible - - we all do here - - today is my last z-pak pill. My throat feels much better but I'm still quite wiped out and still sound sick when speaking. Even though it's unprofessional, I told all of my friends about her. As it turns out, many of them were not surprised - just disgusted.
Thanks for being here - -
Voiceteacher
BluKat - -
You're near Cocoa Beach?? It was FREEZING there :). I go to Boynton most years to visit my parents. I will say that my dry mouth wasn't as severe there I think due to the humidity. I have the same experience when I visit the Jersey shore every summer. But now back to Nebraska and the reality of dryness :)
Voiceteacher
Thank you for letting people know that Florida DOES get cold sometimes. A lot of people don't seem to believe that. :D
Florida is generally cold during the Christmas season - - while you CAN go to the beach, it's not warm!!! This year there was a cold spell - it was FREEZING - - -actually wore my winter coat!!! Another year I was at Epcot in Orlando and had to wear sweatshirts and jackets the entire time.
Voiceteacher
With friends like her, voiceteacher, who needs enemies?
You did the right thing by pick her up from the airport and your conscious is clear.
I, too, hate being a doormat, but there's no way you could have predicted your former friend's behavior.
I understand why your feelings are hurt. Shame on her!!!