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Title: The suffering is finally over......
Post by: BonusMom on September 10, 2010, 12:06:17 PM
and my Dad is finally resting in peace.  He was diagnosed with lung cancer last December.  I flew to Idaho to say my goodbyes in August and it pained me to see him suffer so horribly. :'(

I was crossing the Bay Bridge in San Francisco when I got the call, telling me that his suffering was over, which is very fitting.  You see, my Dad always expressed his wish to be cremated and his ashes spread in the Pacific Ocean. That way, he said, every time I thought of him, I could put a flower in any river and it would reach him.

For all of those Hospice workers that lovingly care for the dying--thank you for all that you do.
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Post by: bloodless on September 10, 2010, 12:14:10 PM
I'm truly sorry for your loss. You have my prayers and condolences.
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Post by: Bucky on September 10, 2010, 12:20:26 PM
BonusMom -  My sympathy to you and your family on the loss of your Dad.

Having to say goodbye to our parents is one of the hardest things we have to do.

May your Dad rest in peace with no more pain and suffering.

Hugs,
Bucky
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Post by: harrigan on September 10, 2010, 12:24:47 PM
My thoughts are with you and your family Bonusmum.  It is very special that you took the call there and this will be a comfort for you in the months ahead.  So glad that you were able to visit, even if it was so hard to bear.  Much love to you XX Ailsa
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Post by: sunshine on September 10, 2010, 12:30:03 PM
I am so sorry.  My prayers are with you and your family.
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Post by: Seeker on September 10, 2010, 01:03:58 PM
Sorry for your loss Bonusmom.  We lost my father in law to Cancer last January.   I agree, Hospice workers,  do a wonderful job.   I am glad they were available. 

Seeker
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Post by: Katybarstool on September 10, 2010, 01:13:53 PM
Bonusmum

What a lovely way for you to be able to remember your father. Thank God, he's at peace now. Will be thinking about you and sending up a prayer for you and your dad.

Kathyx
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Post by: ohiolady on September 10, 2010, 01:15:37 PM
So sorry for the loss of your father.  It seems you will have many opportunities to remember your dad fondly.

Anna
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Post by: shevonne on September 10, 2010, 01:27:59 PM
My heart is with you!
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Post by: navydad on September 10, 2010, 01:35:12 PM
I am glad his suffering is over and his wishes will be carried out,,, at this moment while I write this,, I send my heartfelt condolences,, Make your Dad proud,, live life
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Post by: Daisy1234 on September 10, 2010, 01:45:12 PM
Bonusmom:
My deepest and most sincere condolences on the loss of your father.  You are in my thoughts and in my prayers,

Hugs,
Daisy
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Post by: LizM on September 10, 2010, 02:22:14 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Liz
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Post by: inga on September 10, 2010, 02:48:02 PM
I am sorry for your loss.
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Post by: kwolfsheimer on September 10, 2010, 02:54:47 PM
I am so sorry. Hang on to those good memories.
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Post by: Gerty on September 10, 2010, 03:04:36 PM
so sorry to hear about your loss
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Post by: SueAnn on September 10, 2010, 03:17:36 PM
I am sorry for your loss.

Sue Ann
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Post by: lindaneall on September 10, 2010, 03:20:18 PM
BonusMom, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It is such a painful journey to see those we love suffer. My father died from cancer last November. I am saying a special prayer right now for you and your family. A great big hug, too.

Linda
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Post by: Cricket on September 10, 2010, 05:00:28 PM
I am sorry for your loss.  It is so very hard to say good-bye to our parents, keeping you and your family in our hearts and prayers.

Cricket
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Post by: newhorizons on September 10, 2010, 05:26:47 PM
Bonus Mom, Your Dad's wishes offer a sense of serene tranquillity and my trust through the coming years is you will have many good memories of him surface. My best to you and your family members.     
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Post by: genko_b on September 10, 2010, 05:34:44 PM
So sorry to hear of your loss. Your father's love will always be with you, and your memories of happy times together will comfort you as you grieve and heal.

Genko
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Post by: Cheryl on September 10, 2010, 05:47:47 PM
Bonusmom,
  God bless you and your family in the loss of your dad.   I'm so sorry.
Cheryl
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Post by: Carebear on September 10, 2010, 06:23:21 PM
Dear Bonusmom,

Please accept my heartfelt sympathy to you and your loved ones at this most difficult time.
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Post by: LeoLady on September 11, 2010, 01:11:08 AM
...wishing you and yours comfort during this difficult time.  You are in our prayers.

Hugs,

LeoLady
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Post by: LizPetillo on September 11, 2010, 02:49:19 AM
I'm happy for him ... sad for you. 
You'll be together again someday.
Something to look forward to ...
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Post by: Scottietottie on September 11, 2010, 07:09:49 AM
Bonusmum

Condolences - its a hard time for any family but can also bring them close.

Take care - Scottie
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Post by: Rhonda on September 13, 2010, 06:45:46 AM
My deepest sympathies.  I know first hand how hard it is to lose your father.  Knowing he is no longer suffering will bring you comfort.  Hugs.
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Post by: Julie on September 13, 2010, 07:37:55 AM
BonusMom -

My heartfelt sympathy goes out to you and your family.  Love the idea of throwing a flower into the ocean as a remembrance!

Hugs,
Julie
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Post by: Madderakka on September 13, 2010, 12:49:31 PM
I'm very sorry for your loss.
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Post by: Chickpea on September 13, 2010, 04:33:35 PM
Dearest BonusMom

Thank you so much for sharing this with us.  My heart goes out to you at this sad time.  It was so moving to read about your Dad's wishes and I know I'll think of him and of you next time I see flowers in a river.

Take good care of yourself - Chickpea
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Post by: irish on September 13, 2010, 08:06:39 PM
Dear BonusMom, My heartfelt sympathy. When we lose our parents we feel like orphans. It is hard but something we all know will happen. May you have fond memories in your heart always. Irish
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Post by: Elida on September 14, 2010, 05:20:16 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss.