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Once a mother always a mother
« on: May 29, 2009, 05:36:24 PM »
Hi  :)

My oldest son is 30 and lives in the US. I've seen posts from him on Facebook recently complaining of gastroenteritis. I replied and he just muttered darkly that he hoped he'd be better soon.

Today I got an email from my DIL to say that he was seeing a GI specialist. Then I got another email from her saying that he's been hospitalised, is having various tests because they can't understand why is bowel is so inflamed. They've done biopsies but have no results as yet. I think they are testing for colitis or Crohn's. Salmonella etc has been ruled out.

I just feel an awful long way away. Being nearer would just bring down sarcastic scorn from my son on my head - I know. My DIL asked me not to tell him about the emails. She'll keep me informed though. I'd like to be able to hold her hand!

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Re: Once a mother always a mother
« Reply #1 on: May 29, 2009, 05:50:20 PM »
Im sorry to hear about your son, my thoughts and prayers are with him.  Where in US does he live?  Im In Jersey.  Hugs to you from Jenna and I

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Re: Once a mother always a mother
« Reply #2 on: May 29, 2009, 05:58:57 PM »
Scottie,

Boy, when it pours comes to mind!  I sure hope that the doctors can figure out what is happening with him and puts him on the road to getting better soon.  I'm also really glad to see your DIL calls you and let's you know of his illness/progress!

Hang in there Mom, and I'll keep your son in my thoughts and prayers.

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Re: Once a mother always a mother
« Reply #3 on: May 29, 2009, 08:23:05 PM »
Scottie,

Sorry to hear your son is in the hospital and not feeling so well.  :(  I can only imagine how difficult it is for you to be so far away.  That's good that your DIL in keeping you informed.

My sister-in-law keeps the family informed on my brother's doctor visits / tests too.  (I don't think he knows that she does.)

Have you ever considered moving to the US?  We'd love to have you closer.  :)

Keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers for a speedy recovery for your son and some peace of mind and comfort for you, Scottie.

Take care . . . .

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Re: Once a mother always a mother
« Reply #4 on: May 29, 2009, 09:41:31 PM »
Oh Scottie,

I am so sorry, you are mothering long distance and also incognito via your DIL.

I hope they figure his health problem quickly, so he will get on the road to recovery and you can have peace in knowing things are in care.

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Re: Once a mother always a mother
« Reply #5 on: May 30, 2009, 02:08:08 AM »
Sorry to read this scottie

    Worrying time, maybe he didnt want you to know, to spare you this worry and inability to help much at that distance.

  Hopefully they ll get some answers soon, My friend has chrones , she has herself prettty much stable, she worked out gluten, eggs , mustard and beef set her symptoms up for a big flare up, now she has them cut out, she is quite well.


  Thoughts with you all, glad you DIL is keeping you informed, so sorry its ahppening at all for you all though

T x

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Re: Once a mother always a mother
« Reply #6 on: May 30, 2009, 06:17:25 AM »
Thanks folks  :)

Jonell
My son lives near St Louis, MO and is in the hospital there. I visited them last year and had a lovely 2 weeks. (Long flight(s) though!)

Bucky
My son asked if I'd ever consider moving to the US. I love visiting - and I could actually live anywhere. I don't feel bound by places. I do think that medical insurance could be a bit of a problem though so I maybe better stick with the NHS!

No news today yet. I also know a few people with Crohn's who afetr a rocky start - got their symptoms under control. I just feel sorry for my DIL as I can't imagine my son to be an easy patient!!

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Re: Once a mother always a mother
« Reply #7 on: May 30, 2009, 01:33:52 PM »
Hi Scottie

I'm really sorry to hear about your son. Thank goodness your daughter in law has the presence of mind to keep you up to date. I'll keep ihim (and you) in my prayers.

God bless.
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Re: Once a mother always a mother
« Reply #8 on: May 30, 2009, 04:54:46 PM »
 Aww, Scottie, sorry to hear about your boy, at least his wife has some sense, true saying that behind every good man is a better woman!

   I truly hope that you will not be in suspense for long and that you will hear some good news soon
from himself..   
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Re: Once a mother always a mother
« Reply #9 on: May 30, 2009, 06:58:57 PM »
Scottie,

Sending lots of positive thoughts to your son, his wife and of course to you and the rest of the family. I'm sure its difficult being so far away, but I'm so glad that your DIL is keeping you updated.

As far as your son not wanting to tell you things.....my brother and I are like that with my mom...we feel we are trying to save her from worrying as she has so many of her own health problems...but its worse when we don't tell her as she feels we aren't letting her know the truth and keeping her out of our lives....she wants to know the good and the bad and of course mothers will always worry...no matter how old her children are! She would rather know about things than not....Ive learned my "lesson" about this...but my brother still hasn't. ;)

Let us know if you hear any news about your son...I hope he gets some answers soon!

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Re: Once a mother always a mother
« Reply #10 on: May 30, 2009, 08:20:17 PM »
Hi - Update......................

Managed to have a video link with son and DIL tonight from his hospital room. He's not looking great but says he's all drugged up right now. They did a sigmoidoscopy because he's too ill to take the prep for a colonoscopy right now - but they did do a scan. The dx at the moment is either ulcerative colitis or Crohn's. It's a bit of wait and see I think.  It looks as though it's autoimmune anyway.

I even ended up talking to a doctor briefly about his medical history when he was a kid. He was actually pretty healthy most of the time. Isn't the internet amazing!

I hope he looks better the next time I see him but he's definitelty being well looked after.

Thanks for the thoughts and prayers.

Take care - Scottie  :)
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Re: Once a mother always a mother
« Reply #11 on: May 30, 2009, 08:55:24 PM »
Thanks for the update Scottie.  I hope he continues to improve and gets to go home soon.

Hugs, Pooh

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Re: Once a mother always a mother
« Reply #12 on: May 31, 2009, 07:03:09 AM »
Dearest Scottie

Thanks so much for the update.  Mothering long distance is just the hardest thing imaginable and my heart went out to you when I read your post.

It's amazing that you were able to speak to your son's doctor and give his health background.  These are the sorts of things that mothers know - why we're invaluable!!! 

It's good to hear that he's being well looked after.  Neither Crohn's nor ulcerative colitis are easy things to live with, but he'll have lots of support and good information.  We'll do all we can to help, as you know.

Thinking of you - Chickpea

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Re: Once a mother always a mother
« Reply #13 on: May 31, 2009, 07:15:29 AM »
Thanks for the update Scottie!


It is amazing what we can do with computers and the internet. People usually end up talking about the bad things that can happen on the internet (which I'm not saying  doesn't happen or disagreeing with by any means), but yours is a wonderful example of the good it can also bring as well. I guess as with anything.....people have to be aware and careful and children need to be monitored. 

I hope your son is feeling better soon and he gets the answers and the treatment he needs!

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Re: Once a mother always a mother
« Reply #14 on: May 31, 2009, 11:59:34 AM »
Hi Scottie, I know there isn't much you can do from so far away, but just seeing him and talking to him helps. I hope they get some definitive answers soon. It doesn't matter how old the kids get, we will always worry.

Please let us know how he is doing and know that we are thinking of him.

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