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Title: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Bucky on January 01, 2018, 12:55:56 PM
Happy New Year!!    ;D

Today, is January 1st, 2018 . . . .  a brand new day, a brand new year, and brand new adventures that lie ahead in this new year.

For those of you who don't know me, I am Bucky, a staff member at Sjogren's World. There have been so many new members the last few years I can't keep up with all of you.  If you have been around this forum for a while, in years past, I posted about a New Leaf Club that started in December 2009.  The premise of this "club" was a support group for our members who are looking to get their affairs in order - whether it be their house, their jobs, their families, etc.  For myself, I am more focused on my home and getting it organized so my "spoon" allotment is used wisely.  We haven't had this club since 2014, so I decided we should start the club again, and with today being a brand new year, there's no time like the present to start.

Here is a link to our club from some previous years:;

Life IS all about juggling so many things - our day-to-day activities, our homes, our families, our jobs, our health, our way of living.  I know for myself, that the journey is made sweeter when you have support and encouragement along the way.  That's what this "club" is all about.

I don't want this thread to focus on our health - even though that IS a big part of juggling life.  I want this to be about projects we are working on, plans for gardens, shared ideas on organizing, filing systems that work, craft projects, recycling projects, etc.  Please, no Debbie Downers - I want to keep this thread upbeat, positive and encouraging.

My first accomplishment of this 1st day of January was to have two new smoke detectors installed in the house. I hate to admit that the smoke alarms we took down were from 1991!!  Everyone should check their smoke alarms today too to make sure they are in working order.

One of the projects I want to work on this year is organizing all the boxes and boxes of photographs we have.  I'd like to get them all sorted so there is some sort of order to them.  Most of our photos have duplicate copies, and I want to pass them on to someone else who can enjoy them, rather than me keeping both sets of prints.  I'm going to need some room to spread this all out and work on it, without having to keep putting it all away again before I am finished with the project.  Our son is home for winter break from college and will be leaving later this week - so I might "take over" his bedroom as my work space while he's back at school.

Is there anybody who wants to be a part of this Juggling Life Club with me? 

Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Carebear on January 01, 2018, 10:16:23 PM
Hi Bucky!  I guess I'll give this a try again.

I "fixed" two basement windows today.  They were not closed tight enough so they were icing up a bit from the cold air sneaking in.  I will find out soon enough, if my idea worked.

A larger project that has been in limbo since early summer is my next task.  I am turning the area under the basement stairs into a cool play area for the grandchildren.  It will have cedar shake walls, making it feel like a cabin.  The flooring is vinyl planking that looks like real wood.  And I installed battery operated motion lights that light up the space when you enter.  All their games and toys will be organized on shelving.

So I need to finish installing the drywall, then apply the shakes on top of that.  It is a slow process because I'm working under stairs and all crouched down.  But the youngsters are excited about it.  So that's my motivation.

I will start on Wednesday, and work a little each day if I am able.  My goal is to have it finished before the middle of February.  I can't wait to see their little faces when it's unveiled!

Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Carolina on January 02, 2018, 06:05:51 AM
Dearest Bucky, such a great idea!

I will tune in to see what amazing and diverse 'juggling acts' my friends are managing.

Carebear:  I am speechless over your house repairs and improvements.  My  husband does those things routinely, but I have never had any talent any that area.  Everyone's life is made better by those who 'juggle' with tools!

For myself, I am almost completely disabled now, I don't even do the cooking.  I can manage to do the laundry, however, so I don't feel completely useless.  My biggest jugging act is finding enough diversity i activities to fill up my day.  If I have one outing, that is about all I can manage (today I have my hair cut, and colored, for example).  As someone who could 'organize the world' it is frustrating to have nothing to organize.

I have been reading a book of interview highlights with performers by a writer for both The New York Times and Rolling Stone.   Since I lost 'track' of music about 30 years ago (I'm 75) I have had to go to Youtube to listen to all of the performers and it has been a revelation, and also a great way to keep my mind occupied.  For example, Cher made a big hit with Believe, and the back story is fascinating.  It took 9 years from the time the song was first written, until it was finally 'tweaked' into perfection. (if you think it is perfect?  It was number one around the world when it came out).

I play Words with Friends (a kind of Scrabble) and Bridge Baron, do the NYT Crossword puzzles, and have an assortment of on-line activities.  I do go out for one bridge group and one book group each month.  And of course family live nearby so there are activities with them, as well.

But the Juggling Acts of my Sjogren's Angels will be my best reading from now on.

Hugs, Elaine
Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Scottietottie on January 02, 2018, 09:05:59 AM
HAPPY NEW YEAR Bucky!    :)
Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Carebear on January 02, 2018, 07:27:42 PM
Well...I may have been overly optimistic with the big project planned.  Perhaps I need to "recalculate".

But I did visit with old friends today to have lunch, share laughs and tears, and to love each other for who we are.  A beautiful afternoon!

So right now I am resting, reflective and feeling much gratitude.

Tomorrow is my "taking down the Christmas tree" day. 
Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Bucky on January 03, 2018, 12:26:07 PM
Happy Wednesday!

Carebear - your little play area for the grandchildren sounds awesome!  I want to come hang out there too!!  You'll have to show us a picture when it's all done.

I hope your little "fix" helps your windows too - it's waaaay too cold right now to let the outdoor cold inside the house.

As someone who could 'organize the world' it is frustrating to have nothing to organize.

Elaine - oh how I wish you could come to IL and organize my house!  You could just sit there and dole out your advice.   :D

Scottie - Happy New Year to you too!

Carebear - you mentioned taking your tree down today.  This year, I put up our "green" tree (versus my favorite retro silver pom-pom tree that I've put up for the last 10 years) - I'm really liking the green tree this year, and am not ready to take it down yet.  My husband said I could leave it up all year and he wouldn't care.  Since our son was home on winter break from college, I wanted to make Christmas special this year and put a lot of the ornaments on the tree he had when he was younger - including some he had made in pre-school and grade school.  I'm not so sure he was as impressed as I was . . . he's our only child, and I loved the chapter in our lives when he was younger.  So, I think I'll leave my tree up a bit longer and enjoy reminiscing of years gone by.

Here in Central IL we are having a heat wave today - a whopping 15 degrees which is so much nicer than the -10 and -15 we've been having.  The sun is shining, there's white puffy clouds in the sky . . . all is good!  Have a good day y'all and good luck on any projects you are working on.

Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Bucky on January 12, 2018, 02:00:41 PM
Happy Friday!!   ;D

It's no wonder so many people are sick right now - yesterday, at 2 p.m. it was 61 degrees, by 3:30 p.m. it had dropped to 33 degrees and dropping rapidly.  Right now it's 24 degrees with a feel like of 3!  Brrrrrrrr

Is anybody working on any projects right now?

This past week on my days off work (I work part-time), I gathered up a bunch of older Tupperware (the vintage items from the 70's & 80's) from my cupboards and decided to sell them on a local site to where I live.  I haven't used a bunch of these items in a very long time and decided to free up some cupboard space and make a little money at the same time.  Well . . . . I do have some free space now, however, no action on the "making money" part yet.   :(  I thought for sure I would get at least one inquiry.  Nothing so far. 

My dining room table looks like a Tupperware warehouse!  Okay, maybe not quite, but close!  For those of you old enough, remember back in the 70's and 80's when the Tupperware Home Parties were the rage?  Gosh, I went to sooo many of them.  I have quite a few pieces of the "pastel" Tupperware that I do use daily (cereal bowls) and the gold 6 oz juice cups.  Those I'm keeping!  I have three of the double spoon rests too that I use all the time - those are keepers too!  :)

For the fun of it, I've gone to eBay and checked out the Vintage Tupperware and say out loud as I look at the items for sale . . . got it, got it, got it, got it!  (What can I say, I'm easily amused!!)

I'm going to try listing my items on another local web site to see if I have any luck selling them this weekend.  I'm going to box up the items I plan on selling and put them on a shelf in the basement for now if they don't sell, I don't want to donate them just yet. 

Would love to hear about any projects or plans you're working on.

Have a good weekend.

Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Carolina on January 14, 2018, 06:57:41 PM
The bathroom remodel has been in progress since Mid-October,
and I think I can almost see the day I can move my vanity contents off the kitchen table!   
The new vanities are ordered and 'due' on January 26.  And my husband has to prep the walls for painting.

I have ordered the new light fixtures, and identified the faucets we want from Home Depot. 
The mirrors are simple and I can't tell quality exactly on the internet. 
My husband will probably get them from Home Depot, too.

My job is to manage this sort of decision making and purchase. 
It took a crew of 3 men one and a half days to take out the vanities, 
finish taking up old tile, fix the support under the toilet, take out the mirror,
lay all the new tile.  It would have taken my husband two weeks.   
And he really can't do it because of his back, now.

He will put in the new vanities, lights and mirrors,
and build a linen closet to fit between the two vanities.

He had designed and constructed an accessible shower. 
The shower glass people have to put in one long wall.   
I'm not holding my breath on that.   But it will happen.

So that is what is happening at our house, for projects. 

I started physical therapy, which will be Tuesday and Thursday for 5 weeks.
Two of the sessions will be water therapy.   That will be my new hobby for the month.
I can spend a great deal of time procrastinating doing the PT each day, and then some time doing it.
So a full time hobby.

That's about it.  Bathroom remodel and PT.


Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Carebear on January 14, 2018, 09:36:54 PM
Elaine, that bathroom remodel sounds so exciting.  Especially because you can make out the finished product now.  It is in sight!

And getting your physiotherapy planned out too, Elaine.  I so admire your tenacity.

The windows I had repaired, well one was frost free when the temperature dropped back down to -40.  The other one remains a work in process, once it warms up again, that is.

I have been ordering some badly needed home decor items to finish the "dressing up" of the new bungalow condo we had moved into back in March.  It just needs some fine tuning to make things more personal around here.

Bucky, I hadn't considered leaving the Christmas tree up year round.  Until now!  But my tree is rather spindly so maybe I need a new one.  Perhaps next year.

My next project is to self publish a book for each of my children.  I have their old and not so old photos ready to scan.  And I have letters and cards and artwork they made for me ready to be duplicated.   These will crack everyone up!  My goal is to have the books designed by April, and ready to give them for Mother's Day.  A kind of "This Is Your Life" for each child (for those old enough to remember the tv show). 

This is something I can work on in short bursts, and will enable me to use the creative part of my brain.  Exercise for my "heart" as it were.
Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: susanep on January 18, 2018, 12:38:46 AM
I just read this, so I am late. It is a wonderful new year for all of us.

I am working on a queen size patch work quilt for me and hubby. I am sewing the blocks together on my machine, but sitting to cut out the blocks at the table is hard on my back so I have been tracing around the template I made that is 8 inches, and then use my scissors which is working great for me. I can do that part while watching tv. I am using up fabric that is really pretty prints of various kinds. I want to have this quilt for me and hubby, but especially him that I made.

I had planned a year ago to make one for my son and daughter in law, but didn't finish that one due to my son changing his mind on colors, etc. So, I will be working on one for them too this year. It will be simple, and a queen size for a camper he is making. They have a big one bought, but he is very crafty and is making one of those new small ones.

I started the year writing in a journal. My son got it for me as a gift at Christmas. I write about what I did that day, then find a scripture I especially like, and end it with something I am thankful for.

Me and hubby are both planning to get rid of more things we don't need in the house.

All of you have very interesting things going on, etc.

susanep :)
Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Bucky on January 24, 2018, 10:25:02 AM
Wow, you ladies have a bunch of projects in the works.

Elaine - the bathroom remodel sounds great.  It's a good thing you hubby is so handy around the house to be able to tackle projects like that (along with some outside help too).  The vanities come in a few days!  Yay!

Carebear - it's always fun to change the home d?cor.  I need to get some new pictures or something for the walls - the same things have been hanging there for 15 some years! 

I love the book idea!  I'm sure your children will love looking through them and treasure the book you made for them.  Our sons kindergarten teacher made a bound book of artwork our son made in class, and sent it home with him at the end of the school year.  I love it!  (this was 17 yrs. ago, and I still treasure it)

Susanep - quilt making is a labor of love.  I'm sure your family will enjoy them.  To me, it's the handmade gifts that mean the most.  A neighbor lady made me a afghan when I graduated from high school as a gift.  Forty three years later, I'm still using that same afghan.

Journals are a great gift.  It's good to look back and read what was going on at a particular time in your life. 

OK - what do you all do with shoes at your house?  Do you take them off and leave them by the door when you come in the house?  Do you have a shoe storage unit you put them in?  Do you hide them under the bed?  Do you leave them "wherever" and come looking for them when you need them?  Leave them in a heap on the bedroom floor?  Stack them on shelves in your clothes closet?  All of the above?

Here's my dilemma - I have a hanging shoes organizer in my bedroom closet - it holds 10 prs. of shoes (with some slots holding 2 prs. of sandals each)  - it's FULL.  I have an under-the-bed shoe organizer that holds 12 prs. of shoes - it's FULL.  I have seven pairs of shoes laying on the bedroom floor.  I have six pairs of shoes I am waiting to donate once spring gets here.  I know 30 pairs of shoes sounds like a lot and I should downsize more . . but . . you know how it is, you have to have different shoes for different occasions, different colors, dressy shoes, everyday shoes, tennis shoes, sandals, etc., etc.  I don't have any more room under my bed for any more storage containers.  I don't have any more room in the closet for another shoe organizer.   What to do with the shoes on the floor?? 

I do have an old bookcase in the "mud room" that has boots, and misc. outdoor shoes in it - no room there either.

Any suggestions?


P.S.  If you are just now reading this thread - feel free to jump and join anywhere along the way - the more the merrier!   :)
Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Bucky on March 24, 2018, 12:45:57 PM
Hi everyone - wow, the months are just flying by - only one more week of March left! 

Well, I finally took my Christmas tree down in early March!!  We figured it was time for it to come down, although hubby said I could leave it up all year if I wanted to.

As far as other projects, I'm no farther along than I was months ago.   :(  I did list the vintage Tupperware and some of my hubby's new-with tags shirts that are too small for him (it's been too long to return them to store - they were gifts) - and didn't get one inquiry on any of it!   :(  We were hoping to make some extra $$$ on the items.  I "might" have a garage sale this summer just to generate some extra money - I'll have to think on that.  Me, the garage sale queen of yesteryear, who used to have two sales a year and found some great bargains through the years hitting the garage sale trail.  All that changed in late 2013 after my dad died unexpectedly and we had to sell the house.  Cleaning out the home my parents shared for 60+ years in a matter of weeks was overwhelming and exhausting.  I haven't had a sale since then.

I've also been holding on to some household items waiting to see if our son wants them for his apartment he'll be moving into soon.  Once he makes up his mind, then I can get rid of them and free up some space at our house.

Since our son will not be coming back "home" after he graduates from college I don't have to move all the things I've stored in his bedroom since he's been gone to school!   ;D  Yay, his closet is now MINE!!!  A girl can never have too much closet space!

Does anybody have any updates to projects they are working on or plans for any upcoming projects - home improvements, garden, flower beds, vacations, etc.?

Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Carebear on March 24, 2018, 05:57:08 PM
Hi Bucky,

I did have a set back this winter, or rather the whole family did.  So I am just getting back into project mode.  My granddaughter had spinal fusion surgery in January and my spouse sustained a concussion right after Christmas.  Both are on the mend, thankfully.  Brain injuries for someone in their late 50s can take a very long time to heal though.

Anyway, I can see the medical rated stresses in the rear view mirror now, and started back at the extra chores this week.  I am getting the play/toy storage area under the stairs done and the plan is to have it completed by Easter.  The walls will be covered in cedar shakes then finished to appear "weathered".  I've never done anything like this before.  I hope it turns out nicely for the grandkids.  I plan to have a mini version of those home renovation shows with the big "reveal" on Easter Sunday.

I also organized all the little things like screws, bolts, and nails.  The storage room is 50 percent done now.  It will be finished before the end of April for sure...provided the family stays healthy that is!

I moved into a bungalow condominium a year ago.  This is the first real summer I'll be here because last year  was more about recovering from the move.  So I will be doing container gardening this year because I desperately need to get my hands dirty!  Gardening is a soulful experience for me.  Now I've never done container vegetable gardening before so we will see what we can learn this year.  I have my favourite chair and an umbrella on the deck,  which means I will be comfortable and able to enjoy my handiwork whenever the sun is up.

Big plans, for sure.  But I'm up for it.  Wait.  I'm going to have a nap now!
Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Bucky on March 30, 2018, 10:08:54 AM
Carebear - sorry to hear about the medical issues with family - hopefully your granddaughter and husband have a smooth recovery.

That's the thing with "life" . . . just when you think you have things all figured out, something comes along and causes a bend in the road.  We have to deal with the issues at hand and continue the journey even if it takes longer than we planned.

I've seen some container gardens and they look like they are more manageable than a larger garden.  Being able to sit on the deck and admire your handiwork is icing on the cake!   ;)

I've started spring cleaning around the house here this week on my days off work.  I washed the curtains in the living room and washed all the windows too - inside and out.  Whew, that was a job!  I'm glad that's done.  I also did the curtains and windows in the laundry room.  Slowly but surely I will get the rest of the house done too.

I went through the hall coat closet and pulled out five jackets that aren't being worn, washed them up and have them ready to take to the thrift store for someone else to enjoy.  I've got shoes (some new, never worn) to take to the thrift store too.

Does "thinking" about the projects I want to work on count as actually doing them??  I wish!!

Have a good weekend . . . I'm heading off to do some more shuffling of papers and cleaning up.
Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Carebear on April 09, 2018, 08:54:49 AM
As usual I overestimated my energy level, and "forgot" how life and Sjogren's can get in the way of our best intentions.  The storage/play area continues to evolve though.  The grandkids were impressed with how much I had done since their last visit, so that's a bonus.  On my way downstairs soon, to work a little more on one wall.  This one is tough because I have to work under the stairs, all scrunched up.  Ouch!  Can't stop now!
Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Carolina on April 09, 2018, 09:45:47 AM
Bucky, of course 'thinking about projects' is part of juggling projects.

Today my big project is hosting my bridge club.   I've fretted over managing it all before they get here.  But I'm ready with some time to spare.

HOWEVER, it exhausts me to do this.   I've had to sit down to rest twice.   Moving things around while using a walker is very tricky!  Not juggling but a cousin of 'juggling', I think.

Carebear I hope your husband and your granddaughter are recovering.  I'm impressed by your project with the playroom.  And know the joy of growing things in pots.  Cherry tomatoes are so rewarding!

Our bathroom remodel is done, except for some baseboards and paint touchups.  I 'see' everything that needs to be done, but since I don't 'do it' I have to bite my tongue so I don't 'remind' my husband about the little things that aren't finished.  He doesn't like my reminders.   I have to let go, but that's so hard when I keep SEEING the unfinished things.

That is harder than juggling, I think!

I once took an online test, one of those 'find the things that are different' or 'match the things that belong together'.  I scored so high the test indicated that I might be OCD.  Now I always admired OCD People that organized their closets by color, etc.  But never counted myself among them.  I guess I'm borderline.

I have been known to get up in the middle of a Board Meeting to straighten the pictures on the wall across from me.  Yeah, OCD I guess.

So having most everything managed by someone else (my husband) is very stressful for me.  He loves: lots of furniture in one place (small tables, useless chairs, etc), piles of papers and books.  He doesn't see: dirt (the areas around all the door handles are almost black!), crumbs, sticky stuff, coffee stains running down the counters....eeek, the list is endless.   He doesn't mind: cooking odors, a full cat box, etc.   I often think I'd be happier in a retirement apartment, cleaned weekly, with only my own stuff to manage, meals cooked in a kitchen far away from me.  BUT, that isn't the answer.  So I 'juggle' my feelings, the things I notice and 'struggle' not to harp on what I see that needs 'fixing'. 

The project that I'm contemplating AGAIN is transferring all the VHS tapes to DVD.   We have about 50 VHS cassettes.  I did transfer about 5 of them, making fancy labels and everything, but they went missing and I think my ex DIL either has them or had them and threw them away.  So I have to start over.  I have weddings, and proms, tree trimming parties, birthdays, and vacations to Spain and France.  I only made VHS recordings from 1989 to 1999, and then I just stopped making recordings and taking pictures.  Just lost interest.   Now I rely on my children to record history.

This is a perfect task for me, and I have the VSH/DVD machine for making the transfers.  OR I could take the VHS tapes to one of the large chain drug stores that will put all the VHS tapes on a website for me to edit!  That sounds really great, and then they put the edited version on a DVD.  Of course, they should really be on a flash drive and in the Cloud.  But I think they do that too.

I just have to GET OUT the VHS tapes, which are upstairs in a box.  I also have a box of blank DVD-RWs.  As a perfectionist (who knew?) I want the tapes edited very carefully, since there are even long places where I forgot to turn off the camera and recorded the seat back.  You know.

The key is to get started.

And I love reading about the things that other people are doing.

Regards, Elaine

Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Bucky on April 10, 2018, 08:27:15 AM
Some of the best things in life - weddings and babies.  This past weekend we enjoyed both!  One niece got married, and another niece had a baby!

Life can have so many ups and downs . . . I hope you have more UP days than down and look for something good in each day!

Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Bucky on April 25, 2018, 09:44:29 AM
I'm happy to report that I got one of my "projects" 95% completed.  A couple of years ago I had asked our son to put some weed barrier material down in the flower beds and then we put pea gravel on top of it.  I'm not sure what he did, but we had all kinds of weeds in that flower bed . . it was awful!  Sooooo, I took all the pea gravel out, took up the old weed barrier, pulled a lot of vines that were under the weed barrier, laid down a layer of newspaper, new weed barrier material (with 20 yr. guarantee), and put the pea gravel back in.  Whew, what a job!!  I still need to get a few more bags of pea gravel to fill in the sparse areas and put the flower bed border back in to complete the job. 

I have moderate degeneration in my spine, so doing all that shoveling, bending, etc., probably wasn't the smartest thing to do - but, I wanted it done, so I did it.  Hopefully, there were be NO weeds there this year (and hopefully, for years to come).

This week, I hope to take a strand of Christmas lights off the front porch (need a ladder for this) and put the extension cord away that's running the length of the front porch.  (I'm leaving the Christmas lights up on the front of the house so they will be ready for next winter.   :D )  Again, the lights was a project I wanted done, and hubby doesn't do ladders, so I did it myself (in 40 mph winds!).

Anybody have any news to share of what they are currently "juggling" in their life?

Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: irish on April 25, 2018, 07:14:39 PM
I am still juggling emptying the junk out of my house and trying to unpack the odds and ends in my coop. It is getting better but is greatly hampered by my carpal/ulnar nerve compression in both wrists and recent surgery on one wrist. However, since I came up to the son by the cities the son and DIL down home have spray painted the basement and basement stairway walls and painted the upstairs bathroom. She also put my dining room set on line someplace and sold it some days ago and also got rid of my newer loveseat and older bed frame. I told her she could sell furniture on the curb. I gave her a commission.

I managed to paint 8 registers in the house and i took me 2 different days. Got that much done before surgery cause I knew it needed to be done. I love to paint and I enoyed doing it but could hardly get off the floor and wrists were killing me. I have done a ton of painting and staining over the years and would get a big glass of ice with Pepsi and turn on talk radio and just paint away and enjoyed the moment.

I had a really big bedroom in my old house in the country and hubby went fishing in Canada in late 90's and it took me 3 days of painting to get that room done. DIL living next door was due with 1st baby and cleaning like she waited till my hubby came home to have the first grandchild.

Then hubby fishing Canada again about 2011 and it took me 3 days to paint the living room and hall. Then 8 months after he passed away it almost did me into paint 3 bedrooms and scrape the carpet off one floor.

This is the slow decrease in energy and strength of an old Sjoggie as the years go by. We do what we can and then some until we have to watch others work, My gosh, if I could go back I would never complain again about too much work. That is a word of foolishness folks!!!!!!Take care all and pardon my reliving the past. Irish
Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Carebear on April 25, 2018, 11:22:29 PM
A new hobby we have taken up is to volunteer at our local animal shelter.  It was very difficult for me at first, and I was so conflicted.  Our dear sweet little guy passed away a year ago, and I was still pretty raw when we began.  But now we can't wait to drive there after supper, or on the weekend.  Sometimes we stay for four hours!

Now with the beautiful weather we can take the dogs out for long walks too.  This is good for the pups and for our us as well.  Especially after our rough year.  And my granddaughters love to talk about the dogs and visit the shelter with us from time to time.  It's the one thing we all happen to have it common - our love of dogs.

So my basement project is moving very slowly, but it is moving.  The planters will be ready for planting in four weeks or so.  I can't wait!

Everyone continues to heal from their spine surgery and concussion and Sjogren's!  Life is good.
Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Bucky on May 30, 2018, 12:14:42 PM
"Juggling Life" . . . what a roller coaster ride that can be!! 

I'm still at a standstill with projects I'm working on.  Sigh! 

Today, I'm juggling being a parent with a son that is 900+ miles away in another state transitioning from college life to starting a full-time job and his career.  He's our only child and it's hard for us as his parents not being there to help him move into his new apartment today and tomorrow.  He ran into a snafu this morning with the move and now it's throwing off his plans for the day by several hours.  He's going to have to come up with a Plan B in order to finish everything up by noon tomorrow when he needs to vacate his current college apartment.  We're hoping the apartment complex will work with him to allow a few more hours before he is totally vacated from the current apt. tomorrow as he has a 2-1/2 hr. drive one-way to his new apartment in another town.  He's making several trips back-and-forth to make the move.

I sit here in another state, keeping up with the progress by text wishing I could be there in person to help, and I can't.  Oh, I could have very easily been there to help - but . . . our son wanted to do it on his own . . . and so he does.  A part of me so wants to say, "if you had listened to my advice a month ago, you wouldn't be in this position right now" . . . but, he didn't.  So, now he learns first hand that maybe mom & dad DO know what they are talking about.   ;)  Live and learn!

I'm still adjusting to this "empty nest" chapter of parenthood.  It's hard to sit on the sidelines and just "watch" instead of jumping in and being in the middle of this journey for a young adult.  It will all work out - we'll go out to visit him in late September once he's gotten all settled in.

In the meantime . . . I'm just practicing breathing today!   ;)  Breathe in . . . breathe out.

Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Carebear on May 30, 2018, 07:06:20 PM
Oh, Bucky.  I feel your heart aching.  It is the hardest thing to be a good parent, and let the wee ones make their own way.  That was what all your hard work was for, all those many years, but the adjustment for everyone can be hard.

It's okay to not be okay right now, Bucky.  As you said, it will all work out.

Hey!  I have some great Life Juggling stuff happening!

Two years ago my little dog Andy suddenly became very ill, we made that terrible decision that pet lovers dread.  Our hearts were broken for a long, long time.  I think mine was in itty bitty slivers.  When we held him for the last time, I told myself "Never again."

Fast forward to this Janaury when we began volunteering at the local animal shelter.  We walked the dogs, loved them up, brushed them, and gave them treats.  There were some who we grew very close to, and when they were adopted out we had mixed feelings.  But we knew they would each thrive in their new homes.

Then six weeks ago we met Josephine.  Everyone loved her - volunteers and staff alike.  She was the sweetest, dearest little girl.  We would again walk her like we did all the other dogs, when one day we gave her what she really needed.  We held her for hours while she slept in our arms.  The poor thing was exhausted.  She was a sentitive soul and with all the noise and confussion in the shelter, I doubt that she was sleeping. 

So what began as a casual vist, here and there, turned into a daily event.  We would race to see her if only for 45 minutes.  When she had her major surgery, we were there first thing in the morning and at her dinner time to make sure she told her medication.  And we held her so she could get some sleep.

Josephine, the little 12 pound, 8 year old sweetie...put my heart back together again.

We brought her home three weeks ago.  She wakes me up each morning by wrapping herself around my neck and giving me kisses.  She grunts and squeaks as if she is talking to us.  And she is teaching me to really live in the moment.
Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Bucky on June 30, 2018, 01:44:53 PM
Awe, Carebear - I loved reading your story about volunteering at the local animal shelter and falling in love with Josephine.  I'm happy that your new fur baby is a part of your family and fits in so well.  A win/win situation for all of you!   :D

Since my last post, our son is all settled into his new town/new apartment/new job.  Thankfully, his college apartment complex extended the noon deadline to accommodate his trips back & forth between the apartments.  He even got the okay if it lasted later than the office hours that the apartment management office was open to just drop the key off in the box (which is exactly what he ended up doing). Yay, it all worked out!

From the phone calls and texts, it sounds like our son is doing well.  That helps this mama's heart - although, I still miss him and wished he had moved closer to "home".

As far as my projects I'm working on - I finished up one of the flowerbeds and still have mulch to put down in the front flowerbed, but just haven't done it yet.  We've bought the mulch, we haven't spread it yet.  There are a bunch of day lilies there and they need to be thinned out.  They are blooming right now and I don't think you're suppose to dig them when they are blooming.  Does anybody know anything about that?  I wish I could ask my dad - he was a landscaper - he passed away in 2013, so I can't ask him.   :'(

Today, I finished up washing and ironing the remaining curtains in the house that I didn't get to in my spring cleaning.  Yay, that's done!

I continue to sort through papers and keep my shredder busy.

Since our son is living out-of-state, I have claimed his closet!   ;D  Last weekend my husband put up some shelves in there so I can stack folded jeans, capri's, etc. on them.  Just curious, what items in your closet do you fold and which do you hang up?

For some reason, and I don't remember why, my husband never did put closet doors up on our sons closet.  We have them in a box out in the garage, but they were never put up.  Now, my husband wouldn't be able to do the project and we'd have to hire someone to do it.  Soooooo, I was thinking of just using a tension rod in there and hanging curtains there to cover the closet.  What do you think?  Any input? 

Have a good day in whatever it is you are "juggling in life".

"Never regret a day in your life:  good days give happiness, bad days give experience, worst days give lessons, and best days give memories."      (Lessons Learned In Life Inc.)

Title: Re: 2018 - Juggling Life Club
Post by: Bucky on November 28, 2018, 12:38:25 PM
Hi - my, my, the months just roll by, don't they?    "Juggling Life" just keeps on changing as the hours, days, weeks and months roll by.

I'm happy that I finally DID complete several of my projects for the year.  It always seems to take me much longer to finish them than I think they will take.

In the last few days of October I finally got to spread the mulch in the flower beds - the idea was to do that this summer, well . . . it didn't happen!!  Better late than never.   ;)

We went out to visit our son in CO in September.  It was nice to see the area where he lived and do some sightseeing in the area.

Here we are in the last few days of November . . wow, where did the year go to??  For me, it went by super fast!!  I just hope our winter months go by just as fast!

Along the "juggling life" lines . . . there has been a change in plans since the last time I wrote in June.  As of three weeks ago, our son moved back home.  His new job was stressing him out and literally making him sick, the cost of living in CO is expensive, etc., and it wasn't worth it.  HE decided to come back home closer to family and find a job here in the area.  We never told him "why don't you come home" . . . but have always let him know that he COULD always come home. 

As in all the different "seasons of life" a parent goes through with their child/children, it's a struggle for the child too as their lives change as they get older.  Now, in this new season of having our son back home, it's "different" than when he left.  We have to give him his space and not lecture him about every little thing, to give him privacy, etc.  We have reminded him through the years that as parents, we DO have life experience that he doesn't have yet - that it's okay to listen to our advice/suggestions.

Since he moved back into his old bedroom, I have lost my extra room to put my stuff in.   :'(  Shoot . . . we had just put in extra shelving in the closet in that room and it was working out so well for my needs.  I had to push and shove stuff back into my closet in my room.  I have downsized and donated items, so I did make some progress in that area this past year. 

Anyhow, as is the case, "juggling life" is something that is constant, and ever evolving.  Every time you think you have it all figured out, something comes along and changes everything.

I am planning on continuing this "Juggling Life Club" in 2019 and hope that more members will join in.  The journey is a little sweeter with others joining in and supporting each other along the way.

Enjoy the month of December as 2018 is quickly coming to an end.  Share what you can with others if you are able and pass along kindness to those you come in contact with.