I agree with Janna, the folks who are in remission are probably too busy to post.
My personal experience has been of flares and then good spells, but gradually I'm realizing that I will never be the person I was 4 or 5 years ago. I was 47 then, and though I had had symptoms that were probably sjogren's related for years, eveything suddenly seemed to happen at once.Within a couple of years I had developed asthma, bronchiectasis, arthritis, Sjopgren's and this year, Raynauds. I also had two minor gyny ops, followed by a full hysterectomy and subsequent surgical menopause, so I have kept the medics pretty busy.
My current problems are bowel ones, with a rectal prolapse, which I'm hoping to have repaired within the next couple of months. Hopefully, I will then be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Try not to dwell too much on the sad posts on here. There are lots of lovely people who will advise you, and listen when you need them to. Many of us who are regular posters need support, but can also offer you friendship and empathy, and will celebrate with you when you have a remission and are able to do the things you would like to.