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Why do I never learn...
« on: June 01, 2011, 04:50:18 AM »
I've done it again.  Too many activities over the holiday weekend, and I am stiff, sore and pooped!!

I thought I was getting "ahead of the game" last Thurs. and Fri.  I felt pretty good, so did some extra cleaning, etc. around the house knowing we had family stuff to go to over the weekend.  Sounded like a good idea at the time.  :-\

Friday night there was a cousin's son who had a graduation party.  Again, thought it was good that we didn't go to the graduation the same night, knowing I couldn't handle both.  I met some new people and had fun.
Saturday, I chilled out at home and hubby went golfing.

Sunday, my MIL had a cookout.  Usually that means me and my husband do all the cooking and cleanup! This time, we let the neice and nephew do the cooking and we came later.  Again, sounded "like a plan".  ;)  We only stayed 2-3 hours instead of all day!

Monday, a big annual cookout and swimming party at my husband's aunt and uncle's home.  I made one dish, a pasta salad, and enjoyed the afternoon.  Even swam a bit with everyone and all the neices and nephews' kids (about 8 or 10 of them!)  The entire side of my husband's family attends, so we are talking about 30 people.  It's a nice time.

By yesterday, I could hardly move.  :P  Here I was just advising people last week on how to pace themselves.   I thought I was taking my own advice, but guess not. Apparently, I am full of bull... ;D

At this moment, last night's dishes are in the sink, I need things from the grocery, and my husband needs work clothes washed. (he's at work now, probably working his tail off)
At least, I am to the point none of this will worry me too much; if it gets done later, fine.  If not, fine. I will feel better in a couple days, and I had fun being social over the weekend.  I guess it still just amazes me that this amount of activity can whip my butt.  ;)  But so it goes... at least I can still get out like this and for that I am blessed.


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Re: Why do I never learn...
« Reply #1 on: June 01, 2011, 05:17:04 AM »
Awww - sorry to hear you are feeling stiff and sore. It will pass!

Sometimes I think the 'stiff and sore' is actually worth the cost of socialising which is good for the mind, if not the body.

I hope you're feeling better soon.

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Re: Why do I never learn...
« Reply #2 on: June 01, 2011, 05:31:49 AM »
I hope you feel better soon too.  Can you just throw the stuff in the washer that is absolutely necessary and rest yourself for the rest of the day?  I'm glad you had such a fun weekend but sorry you're having to pay for it today.  Im in the same boat.  I did a little too much this weekend and now I'm a mess.  I'm doing one load of laundry today and am going to do something creative with leftovers for dinner. 
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Re: Why do I never learn...
« Reply #3 on: June 01, 2011, 05:55:44 AM »
well Meld,
I fondly refer to that experience with my own phrase, and I call it "locking up".

My husband knows now exactly what i'm describing when i say it, and he knows what to expect
poor guy.

yeah, we sometimes push ourselves, and truth be told, sometimes dont we do it to see if we can??


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« Reply #4 on: June 01, 2011, 07:56:45 AM »
The socializing WAS good for the mind and spirit!  The extra activity was probably worth the crud I feel now.

Yes, I think I can wash a load and get to the most important couple of things. I'm not in awful pain, and for that I am grateful. I know it could be soooo much worse; been there, done that. 
I understand, tomsmom!  We'll both recover...and "creative" with leftovers...I've become the Queen of doing that. I'm lucky my husband is easy-going.  As long as it's food, he's ok with it.

sunnybunny, "locking up" is a good phrase. I sometimes use "crashed and burned". People close to me know what that means...

I just have to laugh at myself.  Here when I think I have this "pacing" thing pretty well down, and I plan ahead, my body reminds me that IT's in control, not me.  Sort of like, oh, you think you'll do 3 events in 4 days?  I don't think so!  >:(

 I laugh because I've advised others here on how not to "overdo".  I guess I don't know squat.  Either that or it just shows that no matter what, we are going to have days we are fatigued and stiff and hurt.  It's just the way it is, and the sooner we learn that, the sooner we know it will pass.  Life is good and I am blessed.  :D


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Re: Why do I never learn...
« Reply #5 on: June 01, 2011, 10:21:34 PM »
LOL Meld256 - I could have written your post myself. I am my own worst enemy!

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Re: Why do I never learn...
« Reply #6 on: June 02, 2011, 04:56:46 AM »
Meld, Return to go, do not collect $200 and reread "Spoon Theory".
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Re: Why do I never learn...
« Reply #7 on: June 02, 2011, 06:53:51 AM »
I could have written your post myself!! You planned your involvement in the weekend's activities so carefully & your body still didn't like it!
It really is so hard to judge what will be ok. I still feel it is worth it to have a great time (as much as is possible) & pay the painful price.
Hope you are feeling better.

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Re: Why do I never learn...
« Reply #8 on: June 02, 2011, 08:08:04 AM »
I;m getting to the point that I do only what is nexessary to get through the day,, if laundry gets done,, so be it,, went with my son yesterday to get tires for his car as he is going on a week long golf vacation in Myrtle Beach with his old Navy buddies,, and just doing that has left me wore out, I;m sure I have some more autoimmune stuff going on,, no fevers,, just really sore muscles, some jaw pain,, even my lips look wrinkled and blue, but just do what you need to do,,


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Re: Why do I never learn...
« Reply #9 on: June 02, 2011, 04:21:23 PM »
Jozee, thanks. lol  :D

Susan, yes, I still enjoyed myself. It is worth it to do what we can. Years from now I'll remember little kids playing and the joy of a big family, not the few days now that I feel crappy.  :D

Joe, you make me laugh.  ;D Thank you! I will read the spoon theory again...

One and only, so many of us understand; just gotta do what gets us through the day. At least you got out with your son a bit. I know, just the smallest stuff can wipe us out. If all my family knew everything that hurts, aches and is stiff 24/7 they may be given to pity me, and I definately don't want that.  Just take me as I am, and I'll do the best I can.  :D

Take care,'s to a summer we can get out and enjoy anything, even if it's watching the birds, watching kids play, having a laugh with a all of you.


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Re: Why do I never learn...
« Reply #10 on: June 02, 2011, 09:48:22 PM »
Meld, That was really great that you got to do that much on the weekend. But, yes, you knew you were going to "crash and burn" and you made a decision to do it anyway. You go girl. If the opportunity arises and you aren't flat on your back go for it. Life is too short. The social aspect or lack of social aspects is what is really discouraging about this disease. I am a good sitter at times if I have crossword puzzles or a good book, but it is good to be out in the world.

So girl, put your feet up and rest cause July 4th is coming!! Irish ;D


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« Reply #11 on: June 02, 2011, 10:25:27 PM »
Thanks, Irish 

Yes, I guess I knew I'd "crash and burn"; I'm still putting out the flames.  ;D I WILL keep going unless I'm flat on my back.

Absolutely, life is too short to worry about what I'll deal with everytime I try to have fun.
I also have a big birthday party I'm planning in 2 weeks for my husband, and his 2 cousins. They all turn 50 this year!  But, it's at the family member's house with the pool, everyone is bringing food, and all I have to do is send invitations and get help decorating. I'm delegating for all I'm worth!

This evening my MIL shows up at our house unannounced and wanted us to go to dinner. (this happens more than I would like) Neither me or my husband felt like it; she asks what are we going to eat? Do we need to go to the grocery? (this usually means we end up cooking dinner for her and us) 
My dear husband tells her he's tired from work, I haven't felt good all week and neither of us have the energy or inclination to make dinner OR go out to dinner. The decision was made that she and hubby went to get sandwiches and salad, which we ate outside on paper plates.  I told my husband, Thank YOU!

 Ok, feet are up now! Getting rested for the next party!  :D ;D


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Re: Why do I never learn...update
« Reply #12 on: June 10, 2011, 03:13:37 AM »
Here we are, June 10th and I am still recovering...with a new twist.  ;)  

In my week after Memorial Day while I felt wiped out and in pain, I started sneezing and coughing.  That's never good.  By last weekend, pounding head, sore throat, repeat with sneezing, coughing, swollen lymph nodes and a big old body flare, stuck on the couch with my o.j. and economy-size Kleenex.  By Monday I felt like I'd been run over by a truck. (a big one)

By yesterday, I had begun to feel more like just a minivan ran over me. (maybe one of those little SUVs) :-\ I'd done the Mucinex, extra Vit. C not wanting to go the antibiotic route since I get thrush every time now. Yep, should've gotten to the doc by Tues. but I called and got in today. Got the big, fat antibiotics going now; it had to be done. *sigh*

Sunday is my husband's and 2 cousins' 50th birthday party I am in charge of. Ha! Thank goodness it's at a family member's house. I've asked people to bring a potluck dish.  Not sure what we'll end up with since my menu-planning went out the door. Think we have corn on the cob and make-your-own-tacos so far!  This is for like 45 people.  Good grief... :D  I never said I was Martha Stewart.

Funny, because one of "the aunts" mentioned doing this shindig months ago. One of the cousins, who is a birthday girl, told me it'll never happen because no one would follow through. I thought that was sad, so I foolishly said, "I will!" She told me, if YOU do it I know it will get done.  The poor woman has confidence in me; how sweet.

The three of them deserve a party. These are people who are always doing for others, helping their aging parents, helping their kids, caring for grand-kids, working their butts off to give to their loved ones, their jobs, their churches, their friends.  They are getting just a bit older, and still go mow Mom's yard every week, babysit, fix the teenage son's wrecked car, take Dad to the doctor, and work on a party for everyone else. Now it's THEIR TURN!

We might have an unusual combination of food and decor, just like all of us in the family.  We'll eat, swim in the pool, and laugh anyway and have a good time, I'm sure!  ;D
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Re: Why do I never learn...
« Reply #13 on: June 10, 2011, 08:50:42 AM »
((Melinda)) - when it rains, it pours . . huh?   ::)

Since today is Friday - hopefully, the meds will kick in soon and by Sunday you will feel semi-human again.   :D

Do you have a Kroger's or anything nearby that you can order some fried chicken from for Sunday?  Or buy the fixings for a party tray and make it up yourself?  I know you didn't want to have to do all the food for this party, but it would at least feed some of them.  LOL 

A big watermelon wouldn't be bad either to pick up.

I always dread trying to decide what to bring to a potluck that won't require a lot of prep time.  Do they have a grill at the house where the party is?  Maybe just throw some hot dogs on the grill and have one of the guys supervise the grilling.

IF everyone who is invited brings "something" to eat . . it could be an interesting spread of food . . that makes it fun.  Above all . . . make sure there is CAKE!!   ;D

Too bad I live too far away from you, I have some decorations you could borrow. 

Enjoy the celebration . . . hope you feel better.

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Re: Why do I never learn...
« Reply #14 on: June 10, 2011, 02:29:51 PM »

 Yes, we have a Kroger a block away and they do have good chicken. There's a grill at the aunt's/uncle's we were going to fix hot dogs for the kids but more adults may get one, too.  ;)

We have these big family things fairly often, and with all the variety brought, it's pretty darn good.

We laugh about my husband's great uncle who is a "little thrifty" we'll say.  He loves a party (i.e. free meal).  He's 82 and gets around like he's 42; sometimes he may bring his homecooked creamed corn.  It's delicious, but he grabs up his pot as soon as we've had one pass and takes the rest home with him!  Along with 2 "to-go" plates and dessert. :D  O, well, he's 82...

I'm beginning to feel semi-human. Even the dog has antibiotics now; he had an ingrown toenail that got infected, poor baby. The vet trimmed and cleaned it up today and put a big bandage on his foot and a bright green ace. I asked my husband since I was on meds and the dog was on meds, wasn't there anything he needed for infection? 

Thanks for the ideas and the encouragement.  :D