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Lesleybird

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Re: Ugh...dating?
« Reply #15 on: May 06, 2010, 01:22:01 AM »
  Go get on a machine near him and ask him the proper way to do it.  If there is a TV in the room start talking about what is on TV. If you are really shy have a drink before you go to loose some of the shyness.  Join an on-line dating site.  One must go after what one wants in life or next year you will just be another year older and in the same boat.  Know what you want and then search and work to make it a reality.  Lesley

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« Reply #16 on: May 08, 2010, 12:02:12 AM »
Yeah Erin,

Where are you at with this man? Have you made any moves yet? Or have you waited and let somebody else grab him, you know it's far less good men around compared to women so good ones get snatched real quick!

Katybarstool

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« Reply #17 on: May 08, 2010, 12:54:03 PM »
Erin

I've got a very shy 29 year old, looking for a new home ;) No reasonable offer refused!

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« Reply #18 on: May 08, 2010, 01:17:06 PM »
Funny Kathyx . . . . . match maker, match maker, make me a match . . . find me a find . . catch me a catch . . . .

There is nothing wrong with a match maker!!  I speak from experience!!   ;D  A friend of mine that lived in Illinois, (I lived in Ohio), was so excited to tell me about this guy that she thought would be just perfect for me.  After writing back and forth for eight weeks, I finally met Mark in person.  I hadn't even see a picture of him, except for a baby picture when he was 1 yr. old (cute little dickens . . LOL) - so, I was going on "blind" faith up to the point he knocked on my door to meet for the first time.  We did talk on the phone too, but I wanted him to write me first.  I knew by talking with him, that if nothing else developed between us, I'd at least have a new friend.   :D  We've been married 18 years this past March.   ;D  I will forever be grateful to my friend Vicki. 

P.S. I have a computer box FULL of letters, cards, cassette tapes, little gifts Mark sent to me while we were courting long distance.   I didn't get married until I was 34 yrs. old . . . so, it's never too late!!

Go for it Erin . . . .

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« Reply #19 on: May 08, 2010, 02:23:54 PM »
That's a lovely story, Bucky.

I have hope that he will find himself someone to love soon. He's just put all his energy into his work and education - self taught computer programmer, micro-electronics engineer, and just retrained as an electrician. He is self-employed, and business is doing well. Just hope he takes some time out for himself now.

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« Reply #20 on: May 12, 2010, 08:21:29 AM »
Bernice,

Nope, no developments yet.  I've been a chicken, and I've been really busy and I either haven't been making it to the gym at all, or I've gone at times when he's not there.  I am finishing up my semester next week and I pushed my next class until July, so hopefully over the next month or so I will have more opportunities to run into him, grow a pair, and finally say hi!

- Erin

Bernice

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« Reply #21 on: May 14, 2010, 07:00:26 PM »
I don't blame you for putting school first! Let's hope he's still there, better yet, let's hope he's still there and worth the trouble!!! ::) ::) ;D

iluvmycat

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« Reply #22 on: May 15, 2010, 11:55:27 AM »
I have a problem with dating too. I feel as though that life is over. I'm really too young for that. It's just that it is hard to find someone when you're sick most of the time and tired all the time. Who would want me?

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« Reply #23 on: May 16, 2010, 11:20:01 PM »
iluvmycat,

I see you got alot going on health wise, BUT I still help but repeat that I have seen on talk shows people with only HALF of their bodies presenting to the world their lovers and spouses that happily profess love!

Now I dare to say even with all that you have going on it's nothing compared to what I've seen these people have to deal with. I say this not to undermind your issues, BUT to encourage you and to remind you that it's all in attitude. Think yourself worthy and beauitful.

Trust me I have seen in living color some that I have honestly had to stare at and wonder "how on earth did they get that man or woman? BUT I almost always see in them this confidence about themselves that seem to do the trick.

I think the trick is to feel like you are ALL THAT and a bag of chips that person will ever need, EVEN if you ain't got what what somebody else has to offer because what you don't have you more than make up for in what you do have. And you know this! Just don't try too hard and come off as desperate! Cos you ain't got to be desperate. Assume confidence, know you got it going on!

Get out there and let the world know you got something to offer! AND it's worth havin'!!!!!!! Then watch you will have more than your share of admirers and out of them at least one will be a match.

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« Reply #24 on: May 17, 2010, 07:00:55 AM »
Thank you so much for your encouragement

ErinG

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« Reply #25 on: May 26, 2010, 12:40:14 PM »
I just re-joined eHarmony.  I guess we'll see what happens!

Bernice

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« Reply #26 on: May 26, 2010, 07:42:29 PM »
Well alright then! You GO Girl!

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« Reply #27 on: May 28, 2010, 11:27:17 AM »
Good luck Erin,

I hope you have some good luck and find someone special.  I can't imagine life without my husband of 38 years.  We are true soulmates and it makes it so much easier to face all the ups and downs of health issues when you have someone who understands you.

Mind you - have some fun while you're looking - you are only young once!

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« Reply #28 on: May 28, 2010, 12:03:15 PM »
Hi Erin,

I met my wonderful husband of 6 years through the online service, Matchmaker.com.  I think since then it has merged with Match.com.  I was married for 25 years prior to that, so I'm here to tell ya that getting out there and dating took some real pushing from within myself.  I felt like I didn't know how to talk to any single people and had pretty low self esteem.  I'd been a wife and mom 'homebody' for all those years and felt extremely shy and awkward.  That made the online dating sites perfect for me.  You get to email, chat, call, and screen them, and meet all at your own pace.  I met some real losers too, so be careful!  One guy stole my credit card and ran up a bunch of online porn charges!! 

I don't know about you, but I tend to be much more outgoing if I am with a girlfriend.  It takes that one-on-one pressure off.  Is it possible to talk one of your married girlfriends into going to the gym with you a few times?  Together, I would think it would be easier to approach this guy and drum up conversation.  I did that a few times at a dance club and it worked out well for meeting guys.  One girlfriend actually asked to see the I.D. of this one guy that I met and was dancing with.  Now there's a true friend!  lol   It was actually quite embarrassing for me...but..the guy had no problems with proving he was who he said he was.

You are young and pretty with a long life ahead of you.  Get out there and meet that hunk.  And..while you are there...see if he has a brother for my 27 yr old daughter, will ya? :-)   

Take care..and good luck!
Julie

   

     

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« Reply #29 on: May 28, 2010, 01:14:03 PM »
Ah Julie

Can I do you a deal with my 29 year old son. New, unused, with his own business...

Kathyx