Hi Daisy, You asked about the impact on my life. To begin with the impact was significant, mainly because of the fatigue, and it's only in the past few weeks that this has lifted somewhat - it was worst during the first year. It doesn't sound as if fatigue is particularly a problem for you, which is great. The dry eyes caused me a lot of trouble as they got worse around 5 in the afternoon, so I never felt like going out in the evening because of the embarrassment of having red eyes. However I managed (following a suggestion from this forum) to get rid of my blepharitis using tea tree oil, and I think the Hylo Forte plus warm compresses and lid cleaning have helped with this problem. The dry mouth is manageable now, and I use saline nasal spray for the dry nose.
I think you will feel a lot better if you start to address some of the dryness issues. I suspect your worry about people noticing your dry mouth might be contributing to it, anxiety too can cause a dry mouth (this happens to my husband every time he has to speak in public, and he certainly doesn't have Sjogrens!). Try to relax and enjoy your life as much as possible, try not to focus inordinately on your symptoms. Frequent sips of water help, and I usually have some chewing gum in my mouth even when I'm not actually chewing it.
I hope you get help with the finger pain (which may have absolutely nothing to so with Sjogrens by the way).