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Post by: LenV on March 23, 2008, 07:59:57 PM
I need prayers desperately for my family.  My youngest cousin (we are a closeknit family) Missy is dying from Cancer.  She is my favorite uncle's only daughter.  First child and much loved.  She is only 36 years old and her only daughter is pregnant with Missy's first grandchild.  Missy has cancer that started from breast cancer and has spread to her brain and spine.  She can no longer speak but understands all of us and smiles when we talk to her.  She has not complained even one time during all of this.  She developed pneumonia this week and is in the hospital.  Unless there is a miracle, we will lose her.

Please all, prayers are needed.  I can't even go see her.  She is two states away from me.  I have cried a river of tears.  The last two years have been so hard.  My Mom, my favorite uncle and now my little cousin.  I've help for this, but with my own health so fragile, I can't sleep inspite of medication.

I just needed to tell someone.  Sometimes life is so unfair.  I don't know why it couldn't have been me instead of this young woman.

Billye
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Post by: Scottietottie on March 23, 2008, 08:12:26 PM
Oh Billye - my heart aches for you! Life isn't fair and it's giving you a really raw deal right now. There is a link to a site below where one can go and light a candle for a loved one and concentrate ones thoughts or prayers.


http://www.gratefulness.org (http://www.gratefulness.org)



(http://i62.photobucket.com/albums/h81/Scottietottie/Candles/candle-1.gif)

(((((((( Billye ))))))) Scottie




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Post by: Pooh on March 23, 2008, 08:25:44 PM
Billye,
I am so sorry you and your family continue to have all this illness and grief.  My thoughts and prayers will be there for you. 

((((((((Hugs Billye)))))))),

Pooh
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Post by: Shari on March 23, 2008, 08:57:16 PM
Billye~~~Prayers for all of those in your family for what you are going through.  God will take her carefully and gently.

Special prayers  to sooth you and to help you rest...  Love  Shari
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Post by: irish on March 23, 2008, 09:05:07 PM
Oh Billye, I am so sorry that your heart is breaking. To have to go through so much is hard on you. I can't imagine the strength your cousin has to not complain when she is so young and with a grandchild on the way. I will lift her and her family up in prayer. Also, I will continue to pray for improved health for you my friend. Know that you are loved and thought of much. I miss you so much on the boards. You have such a great sense of humor and so much good advice. Love and hugs. Irish ;D
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Post by: lynnmarie219 on March 23, 2008, 09:13:39 PM
(((((((((((((Billye))))))))))))))

I'm sending prayers out for your young cousin, her family and daughter, and for you. You have been dealing with so much lately....I feel so sad for you....please try to get some rest Billye.

Lots of hugs to you and angels to watch over you and your special cousin....
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Post by: Care on March 23, 2008, 09:14:42 PM
Billye,

My heart is with you.  I lost my dad to cancer 21 years ago.  I know the hurt.  He left this world much to early. Still miss him.  I could not be with him as much as I wanted to.  I had 4 children to care for, one was just a baby, and we lived too far away to go often.  My heart ached every single day I could not be with him.  So I know the hurt you feel, I shed the tears you shed. I understand.

You will be in my heart....
Hugs
Care
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Post by: susanep on March 23, 2008, 09:16:59 PM
I prayed.

susanep
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Post by: ree031 on March 23, 2008, 09:51:28 PM
Billye,

Many hugs and prayers to you and your family.

Ree
xx
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Post by: Nettie on March 23, 2008, 09:57:04 PM
Billye, I'm so sorry for the news regarding Missy. I will keep her, her family, you and your family in my prayer regularly. I wish I could reach out and hug you, but please know that hugs are being sent.

Nettie
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Post by: LenV on March 23, 2008, 10:15:18 PM
I went to bed but can't sleep.  Scottie I lit a candle and will spend many hours there.  I lit a candle to light Lissie's way to our Lord.  She is so young she may need help.  But she is so good that he will be looking for her.  What a precious young lady.  What a loss to the world and her family.

Thanks all of you for your support.  I am so weary of this pain and sadness.

Billye
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Post by: lesleyjoy on March 24, 2008, 03:00:41 AM
Hi Billye, it's OK if your can't sleep, many of us are awake crying and praying with you and sending you comforting thoughts. Things will get better, strength from your family and friends will help you through.

Love to you and your extended family,
Lesley (NZ)xx

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Post by: Mark54 on March 24, 2008, 03:04:37 AM
Billye,
      I will keep your family in my daily prayers. I will also pray that your cousins time on this earth is peaceful and pain free.

God's blessings,

Mark....
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Post by: kim31072 on March 24, 2008, 03:36:10 AM
Billye...Prayers and blessings to you,your cousin and her family.I lost my grandmother recently so I empathize with you.I will keep you all in my thoughts.


Kim
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Post by: Epson on March 24, 2008, 09:09:30 AM
Billye,

I always hate to hear about young people getting any terminal illness, but it should make the rest of use put our own lives into perspective.  Maybe Sjogren's isn't that bad when I look at the big picture and what's one more week of winter!
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Post by: Treece on March 24, 2008, 12:58:11 PM
Billye

You will be in my prayers I have had many losses in my life to cancer and I empathize with you.
God Bless you with strength
Treece
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Post by: itssue on March 24, 2008, 01:02:58 PM
Billye,

I'm so sorry to hear that you must face yet another tragedy like this. My prayers and thoughts will be with Missy and her daughter and family.  I will also pray that you have the strength  to handle what is before you.   I know how hard it is to be away from family and wish you could be there to do something to help, our help will come from pray.  I will pray asking that Missy has a painless endurance and is allowed to just go to sleep and peacefully pass when her time comes.

My thoughts and prayers will be with you each day.

Sue



Sue
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Post by: wordnerd on March 24, 2008, 05:20:26 PM
Billye,

I'm so sorry!  I will keep you and your family in my thoughts!

*hugs*

-Lauren
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Post by: Rania on March 25, 2008, 02:21:36 AM
Billye, (((( hugs ))))
my heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry you all have to go through this. I know how a closeknit family works, I come from one myself. It is extremely sad that a woman have to die at such young age. I really really feel for you all.  :(

God's Blessings.

Rania
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Post by: mim on March 25, 2008, 09:37:50 AM
Goes without saying Billye....

Mim  xxx
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Post by: Cricket on March 25, 2008, 11:02:08 AM
Billye

I am so sorry to hear this and my prayers are gong up now.  I hope you can feel the love from your SJ family.  You are also in my prayers. 

God' s  Blessings
Cricket
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Post by: loulou on March 26, 2008, 01:33:39 PM

 Hi billye

 I pray with all my heart for Missy, and your family. What a heartbreaking time for everyone, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 Take care

 Loulou
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Post by: LenV on April 09, 2008, 07:56:46 PM
We lost Missy today....just two days short of her 37th birthday and two months short of her first grandchild's due date.

God works in mysterious ways sometimes.  But sometimes ...I don't understand him.

Thank you all for your prayers and concern.  I asked my Mom, Grandpa and my favorite Uncle to watch out for Missy now.  It will take awhile to get over this one. 

Billye
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Post by: eyeamdry on April 09, 2008, 08:02:32 PM
Billye, I'm sorry you and your family are going through this tragedy.  We're all here for you.   Cancer/death is not choosy at times and takes our young.   I lost my 42 year old nephew 6 months ago to a heart attack.  It was the hardest funer I've ever had.  Praying you and your family have peace.  Lucy
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Post by: joi603 on April 09, 2008, 08:04:04 PM
Billye, Im sooo very sorry to hear about your loss.
 Let the good times and memories keep a smile on you face.

Missy's new grandchild will definately have an angle watching over her.

((hugs)) my thought are with you and your family.
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Post by: genko_b on April 09, 2008, 08:23:58 PM
How very sad for your whole family. You are all in our thoughts and prayers. It is hard to find words that express this kind of sorrow.

Genko
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Post by: Scottietottie on April 09, 2008, 09:04:22 PM
Aw Billye - I'm so sorry. Seeing something coming doesn't make it any easier. Thoughts with you and your family at this sad time.

Take care - Scottie
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Post by: irish on April 09, 2008, 09:06:26 PM
billye, I am so sorry for you loss. I doubt if you will ever really get over this loss but you probably will get "used" to it. The loss of someone so young is always so hard on the older folks. Thankfully, you have family that can help out where needed. Hugs Irish
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Post by: Treece on April 10, 2008, 03:33:54 AM
Billye

So sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers.
Treece
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Post by: Katybarstool on April 10, 2008, 04:37:04 AM
Billye

My thoughts an prayers are with you and your family.

God bless.
Kathyx
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Post by: ree031 on April 10, 2008, 02:25:06 PM
Billye,

I feel so terribly sad for you with your loss.

Sending many Hugs and prayers your way.

Ree.  :)
xx
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Post by: Shari on April 10, 2008, 08:54:37 PM
Billye~~May the love of friends and family help you through your sorrow~~Love Shari~~
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Post by: salsen on April 11, 2008, 01:24:57 AM
Billye I am praying for your cousin and all of your family.  I know how truly helpless this can make you feel.  Please keep in your prayers a women close to your cousins age who is beginning her fight with breast cancer.  She is the sister to my son's girlfriend.  What makes everything even more difficult is that she is in the service stationed in Germany and very far away from family.  M  has been diagnosed with cancer in both breast and will be undergoing surgery to remove one and a partial removal of the other.  Test will be done during surgery to help in deciding her course of treatment.

Prayers are powerful healers for both those who are ill and the love ones that surround them.  Your greatest gift you are giving your cousin is your love and compassion  -- she knows this even though you can't be there. 
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Post by: salsen on April 11, 2008, 01:33:43 AM
Billye,  my sympathies to you and your family.  Your cousin was a very special person to be so loved.  My son was five weeks old when my grandfather passed away but he knows him by pictures and memories we have shared.  Your cousin's grandchild will know her through the love that comes through whenever ya'll speak of her.

May your family be given much strength and grace as you grieve. 

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Post by: Pooh on April 11, 2008, 06:05:38 AM
Billye,
I'm so sorry to hear that Missy lost her gallant fight for life.  She will surely be there in spirit when her grandchild is born and no doubt watch over him/her for all times. 

My deepest sympathies to you and your family.  My prayers will also be with you.

Hugs, Pooh
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Post by: Waldop on April 11, 2008, 08:00:18 AM
Billye,

So sorry it took so long to respond to this poignant thread.  Our prayers and thoughts are for you and your cousin. You're so right about life not being fair. You can't help but wonder why things happen as they do. To this day I still wonder why young people have to die. We except the inevitable as far as life and death, but to die so young is not only painful for the person, but especially for the family. I know you feel so torn you don't know what to say or feel, but please don't ever say that you wished it would be you. You're very special to us and we wouldn't know what we would do without you. I guess one day we'll find out why things happen as they do. Until then, please don't hesitate to ask for a thing. That's why we're all here.

Love always
Barrie
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Post by: mim on April 11, 2008, 01:35:28 PM
There is nothing to say except Stinkin Purty will watch her now for you

Mim  xxxxxxxx

Salsen

My best friend in th US is going through this also at the moment, I will remember your friend in my prayers.

Mim  xx
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Post by: LenV on April 11, 2008, 09:06:47 PM
Oh Mim........
You made me sob and at the same time you gave me such joy to know that you remembered.  It was his youngest grandaughter.    For any of you who don't know...my grand dad was "stinkin purty" and if you use the search function you will see how he helped Mim quit smoking even tho he's been dead for 37 years.  Just do a search on stink purty.

I appreciate all of your prayers and thoughts.  It gives me a lot of pride and honor to know that so many of you cared.  Missy will be laid to rest tomorrow and I want to be there so badly.  But it's too far away for me to travel with the broken sit bones.

Billye
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Post by: wordnerd on April 11, 2008, 09:27:50 PM
Aww Billye... I don't know what to say or do but send *hugs*.  I know you want to be there tomorrow, but I hope you can still find a way to remember her and mourn her loss even though you aren't able to be there in person.

Take good care of yourself!

Love,
Lauren
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Post by: salsen on April 11, 2008, 10:32:33 PM
Billye   tomorrow sit still and  try to quiet your mind.  In those moments when we are the most silent is when we hear the most wonderful things.  You will be there for your cousin - in your thoughts and in your love.   I know you will hear her laughter. 
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Post by: lynnmarie219 on April 15, 2008, 08:19:58 PM
((((((((Billye))))))))) I'm so sorry for you loss....you and your family continue to be in my prayers.
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Post by: Pooh on April 15, 2008, 11:17:10 PM
Salsen,
I hope the surgery for this young lady will be successful and her future bright.  My prayers will be with her. 

Hugs, Pooh
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Post by: LenV on April 16, 2008, 08:56:43 PM
I'm sorry I missed the other request on this thread.  My mind has not been my own lately.  I've really been grieving.  But thank you all so much for your prayers and thoughts, they were wonderful and so needed.  Missy had a lovely funeral.  She and her husband planned it out .  Her entire Sunday School class wore pink and carried pink roses to place on Missy's grave.  Missy was always a little childlike and she celebrated her death like Christmas.  It was really a sweet thing I was told.  So she's sharing a seat with "Stinking Purty" in the biggest golden cathedral in the skies and in total awe I'm sure.  We miss that sweet face.

Salsen, I'm praying for your friend.  I hope she comes thru this with flying colors.  If prayer can make it better for her then it should be ok.  I just wish she wasn't alone.
Billye
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Post by: irish on April 16, 2008, 09:16:18 PM
billye, It is too bad that you were not able to attend the funeral. Too bad that someone wasn't able to video it for you--unless that is not allowed at that church.

Sounds like she had a beautiful funeral. She was a brave soul to help plan her funeral. Many people can't do that as it is so final. Makes me really sad just thinking about her struggle and all she had to go through. I am sure that your grieving is hard on you both phycially and mentally. I really think it is almost harder when we can't be at a funeral as we don't get the chance to talk to others and reminisce about the person that passed away. It doesn't seem real and makes it really hard to accept from a distance. I have grieved like that about a friend of mine that died from a really fast breast cancer back in 1999. I saved her last letters and read them from time to time. Hugs Irish ;D
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Post by: lynnmarie219 on April 17, 2008, 07:05:25 PM
Salsen,


My thoughts and prayers go out to the sister of your sons girlfriend......she is young and far away from family, but prayers can make a world of difference. I know that is true! She is in my thoughts as she gets ready for surgery and treatment afterward.
Hugs........