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Title: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: irish on April 16, 2014, 07:25:30 PM
Just a quick note to tell you that my beloved hubby of nearly 50 years passed away at 3:45AM this morning. He had been in hospice for 3 months and as many of you know had autoimmune disease plus a primary immune deficiency. He also had right and Left sided heart failure, pulmonary hypertension, COPD and many other issues.

The past 3 months in hospice have been a blessing and we spent much of our time together talking, watching TV, and napping, etc. The past 3 weeks the downward decline started in earnest. I managed to get my infusion done on MOnday and had 2 hours sleep each night for several nights plus a nice benedryl nap at the infusion. Monday night when I got home his health declined and it was a long night. Tuesday night started out with the usual "terminal restlessness" as the hospice people call it--plus we had that full moon effect.

It was a hard, hard night of physical care and emotional suffering for both me and my dear daughter in law (the nurse next door) as we worked with hubby and medicated, held him, cried and sweat blood and tears. We could not get him comfortable and the amount of meds didn't seem to help. The hospice nurse came at 1 AM and stayed with us and helped get him more comfortable. He had finally fallen into a coma about 12 MN for which DIL and I were thankful. He did not pass away until early morning and it was not a pleasant passing. It was terribly upsetting to watch my dear hubby suffer when my goal was to keep him safe and comfortable. He had a rapid onset heart failure, pulmonary edema (fluid lungs) situation that did not kill him fast enough basically.

It is over, the load is off the shoulders of me and our 3 boys and families and our hearts are heavy. We know that hubby is safe and secure as our Christian faith has promised and that the suffering is over. I don't know when I will recover. I feel like I need to go to a place on the beach and watch the sun set for a month. Hubby thanked me over and over for my care and love. Our humor never left though. I told him one day while doing his toenails that I did't want to rub it in, but that I was saving him 98,000$ a year by taking care of him. (This is the latest estimate for yearly nursing home costs.) Hubby told me "And don't think that I don't appreciate it.".

We are going to give money donations in his honor to the Primary Immune Deficiency Foundation. Thank you for listening to me pour my heart out. I knew this day would come and have cried buckets of tears for months. It will always hurt to know that he isn't with me. He was my best friend. TAke care all and take care of spouses as they are indeed precious. Irish
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: rnathans on April 16, 2014, 07:31:40 PM
So sorry for your loss. His suffering has ended but your loss is so great. Be kind to yourself, rest your weary body and know that you are cared for and prayed for on this board.
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: gemini052377 on April 16, 2014, 07:36:55 PM
Irish, I am so truly very sorry for the loss of your husband and best friend. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Hugs and love,
Mary
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Post by: litliwlowa on April 16, 2014, 07:39:40 PM
Irish

I too am sorry for the loss if your husband and best friend. I also will keep you and your family in my Prayers

Hugs and Love

Amanda
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Post by: Joe S. on April 16, 2014, 07:47:58 PM
I am sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: lolo1979 on April 16, 2014, 07:56:58 PM
I am so sorry to hear this Irish. I hope you are surrounded in full by your loved ones right now, and that they are helping carry your heavy heart.

When all settles eventually, you should absolutely take yourself to the beach if you can, and watch those sunsets. You deserve it.
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Post by: Suslew on April 16, 2014, 08:19:03 PM
May his memory always be a blessing.  I am sorry Irish.  My thoughts and love are with you. 
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Post by: Jasper on April 16, 2014, 09:30:24 PM
I am very sorry for your loss, Irish. You are in my thoughts.

Hugs,
Jasper
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Post by: susanep on April 17, 2014, 02:28:11 AM
I read this and thought oh no. I am so sorry for the loss of your best friend, and precious husband. There are no words at a time like this. Come here, and unload all and anytime you need to. You and your family are in my prayers, and comfort given as only God can give.

You are loved irish,
God Bless my friend
susanep :'(
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Post by: sarahjane on April 17, 2014, 02:55:55 AM
I am very sad for all of your loss. May you carry his love with you
Sarah xx
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Linda196 on April 17, 2014, 03:00:07 AM
Dear Irish, and your loving family, I'm so sorry for your loss. I picture you watching the sunset, with your Beloved by your side in spirit. You've painted us such a beautiful picture of devotion and joy in life, and I thank you for sharing your journey.
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: eija on April 17, 2014, 03:03:10 AM
So sorry for your loss. It's a two-way street. On the other hand it's a blessing that he doesn't have to suffer anymore, but then there's no way of not missing your loved one. I'm so sorry the end was difficult. But he is at Home now. Try to get some rest for yourself. My prayers are with you, too.


-e-
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Post by: gurs on April 17, 2014, 03:51:00 AM
So sorry for you and your family Irish..not sure how did you did it all with being so ill yourself. Your husband was so lucky to have you.
Wish you some peace..

Gursie
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Post by: engy on April 17, 2014, 03:56:10 AM
Oh Irish, I'm so sorry.  :'(
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: machenza on April 17, 2014, 04:07:19 AM
Dear Irish,

I am so sorry you lost the love of your life and your best friend.

He is in a better place now, and the pain is over,

Nellie

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Post by: aussie mum on April 17, 2014, 04:16:25 AM
Dear Irish,
My heart goes out to you and your family.
x

Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Kendo on April 17, 2014, 04:46:49 AM
My prayers are with you and your family during this time of loss and celebration of his wonderful life, Irish.
Kendo
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Post by: Ark mom on April 17, 2014, 04:50:58 AM
Oh, Irish, my heart aches for you and your family.  I am so very sorry for your loss.  You are in my thoughts and prayers. 

Love,
Hannah
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Carolina on April 17, 2014, 05:19:19 AM
Dearest Irish,

This is what came to me as I read your beautiful post.  Tears and hugs,  Elaine

" FREE AT LAST"
from " American Negro Songs " by J. W. Work

Free at last, free at last
I thank God I'm free at last
Free at last, free at last
I thank God I'm free at last

Way down yonder in the graveyard walk
I thank God I'm free at last
Me and my Jesus going to meet and talk
I thank God I'm free at last

On my knees when the light pass'd by
I thank God I'm free at last
Tho't my soul would rise and fly
I thank God I'm free at last

Some of these mornings, bright and fair
I thank God I'm free at last
Goin' meet King Jesus in the air
I thank God I'm free at last
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: anita on April 17, 2014, 05:19:39 AM
Sorry for your loss, Irish.  It's been a long hard road for you both.  Please give yourself time to find peace in all this.  We are all here for you.

Anita
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: cccourt1942 on April 17, 2014, 05:40:23 AM
After discussing our views of living and dying on another thread......reading your message saddened me so.  Not because you have lost this precious individual but I realized this is what we are all wanting when we do pass.  Knowing he has relief and  your family is no longer suffering...and  that your love and kindness helped him finish his life loved, cared for, laughed with, and surrounded with compassion and comforting leaves me with the assuredness each of you can mourn AND remember his life with joy and happiness.  You can go forward knowing his final hours and community were your last acts of  love for him.   What more can anyone give?  What more can any individual desire?    Mr Irish is/was blessed.  God bless you and your family in the next few trying days.

You are respected and loved here.
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Bobbie on April 17, 2014, 05:55:25 AM
So sorry for your loss Irish.  Bless you and your family.

Take care,  Bobbie
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Scottietottie on April 17, 2014, 06:04:40 AM
I've come late to this thread.

Very sorry for your loss. I know how close you were and how much you supported each other. Thoughts with you and your family at this sad time.

((((( Irish ))))))

Scottie
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: ohiolady on April 17, 2014, 06:16:04 AM
Dear Irish, I am so very sorry for your loss.  I pray your faith will sustain you and your memories will comfort you!

Anna
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: sassygal on April 17, 2014, 06:17:17 AM
Irish,

I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband. Praying the lord will comfort you and your family in your time of grief. Cherish the memories the two of you made together.

Gail
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: finallyadx on April 17, 2014, 06:18:46 AM
Irish - so very sorry for your loss.  Although your heart is heavy right now, I hope and pray for great memories, laughter, love and peace at some point for you and your family as you remember your dear husband.

Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way.
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: LucyD on April 17, 2014, 06:20:47 AM
Irish, I am so sorry for your loss. Keeping you my thoughts and prayers.
Love,
LucyD
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: quietdynamics on April 17, 2014, 06:43:21 AM

Irish and family..

".. for everything there is a season"

Rest, sigh, and be..

Wrap yourself in the gift of the time you spent together..
It is in your heart always and forever.

..and you Dear Irish, touching us here, are in our hearts.

Hoping and wishing peace finds you and your family.
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Carebear on April 17, 2014, 07:01:13 AM
Dear Irish,

I am so very sorry for the loss of Mr. Irish,  your best friend and a truly wonderful guy.  I hope you can feel all the love and strength we are sending to you and your family.
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: kimberly64 on April 17, 2014, 07:07:02 AM
Irish,

I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.
Kimberly
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Post by: Thea on April 17, 2014, 07:23:08 AM
So very sorry for your loss. And wishing you the comfort of your faith as you piece your life back together. Hugs.
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Post by: P.Trish on April 17, 2014, 07:31:09 AM
Dearest Irish,

I am sad for you and your family.  I almost feel like I personally knew Mr. Irish - through your

wonderful posts, which were at times humorous, at times poignant and always uplifting.

May blessings, peace & warm memories rain down on you and your family.  Love, P.Trish
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Post by: rosa on April 17, 2014, 08:04:53 AM
So sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

Take care,
Rosa
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Post by: Sleepy In Seattle on April 17, 2014, 08:36:14 AM
Oh, Irish - I am so sorry for your loss.
Sending much love to you and your family.....
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Post by: Jorja on April 17, 2014, 09:05:19 AM
I haven't been on here in quite some time. Today when I signed in I saw your post regarding your sweet husband.  I am so very sorry for your loss.  From your words, I can see that you loved him and were devoted to him till the very end.  There is nothing I can say that will make lessen your pain but I wanted you to know that I will be praying for you in the days ahead.  God bless you.

Jorja
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Post by: Gingersnap on April 17, 2014, 09:07:23 AM
I'm so very sorry for your loss! :( Prayers for you and your family.
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Post by: Ripvanann on April 17, 2014, 09:07:41 AM
Irish,

Thank you for sharing this with us. There aren't any words. My heart aches for you. May the Lord's peace that passes all understanding comfort you and your family now and in the days to come.

Grace and peace Irish.

~Andrea
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Post by: Velcro on April 17, 2014, 09:48:40 AM
So sorry Irish.  Words can not offer comfort but know you are and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by: mistyrain on April 17, 2014, 09:58:29 AM
Irish: I am very sorry to hear Mr Irish has passed on - it has been a very long struggle and I hope you will have much rest and help.  Please stay with us - you are a very big inspiration.

Edith
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Post by: SjoDry on April 17, 2014, 10:08:17 AM
Oh Irish,

This hurts my heart to hear this news. Death is such an intruder into our lives and there is no way to fast forward through the pain.

I am happy that you were blessed to have Mr. Irish in your life and build such a wonderful life together. Your image is what I think of, when I
think about the " in sickness & in health " vow. You were & are the consumate example of devotion to your spouse.

I hope that your Christian Faith will bring you comfort in knowing that you will one day, be reunited with your husband. Until then, I hope
you will find solace in your family, faith & your many loving memories of such a dear man.

You are in my thoughts & prayers sweet lady.

Sincerely,
SjoDry
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: slccom on April 17, 2014, 10:53:39 AM
{{{{{Hugs}}}}} I know there is a huge hole in your heart, and that you will always love and miss him. My Grandma June taught me to say, "Happy birthday," knowing that he has been born into the next life.

He is with God, and God is with you.
Sharon
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Post by: ellieas on April 17, 2014, 10:57:27 AM
Irish-so sorry about your sweetheart. Please take care of yourself and know that " his memory will live in your heart forever"
My prayers to you and your family
Lesley
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Post by: Tivia on April 17, 2014, 11:01:29 AM
Oh Irish im so sorry, I wish I could do something for you.  But know that he is free of pain and sickness. Its the ones that are left behind that feel the loss. Take heart he is watching over you all, and someday you will be together again.
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Liz D. on April 17, 2014, 11:14:59 AM
Irish, my deepest sympathies to you and your family.  You can rest assured that Mr. Irish knew to the end that he was loved so much by you and his appreciation was immense!!

You will be in my prayers!

Liz D.
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Post by: shevonne on April 17, 2014, 11:22:56 AM
So sorry Irish!  My prayers are with you.
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Post by: cupcake on April 17, 2014, 11:32:32 AM
So sorry for your loss.  The Lord and the beach will  renew your body, mind and spirit.  Take care.
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Post by: Cassi307 on April 17, 2014, 11:44:12 AM
I am also so sorry for your loss. He was so lucky to have you and your daughter-in-law provide such wonderful care. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by: karleesgranny on April 17, 2014, 12:28:36 PM
I am so very sorry for your loss...my hubby and have been together just 21 years and I would feel so lost without him... I can't even begin to imagine how you must feel... I pray you have peace and comfort...so sorry...
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Post by: Calli66 on April 17, 2014, 01:04:29 PM
Thank you for sharing your experience during this period. I nursed my mother at home during her last 3 months. It has to be the hardest job of all.

Wishing you the best.

Calli
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Post by: grammad97 on April 17, 2014, 01:20:39 PM
Praying for you and your family to be filled with peace and love.
I think you are a marvelous example of unconditional love and compassion.
Gentle hugs.
Deb
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Post by: daisymae on April 17, 2014, 01:45:04 PM
Oh my goodness, I am sorry for your loss. Be patient and gentle with yourself.

Big hugs
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Post by: littleone on April 17, 2014, 01:47:41 PM
Irish, I am sorry.  You and Mr Irish are testament to love and preserveverance. May you find peace in the good memories.  I'm praying for you.

Littleone
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Post by: nite owl on April 17, 2014, 03:07:24 PM
Irish,

I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you during this difficult time. May God give you the comfort you need.
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Post by: warmwaters on April 17, 2014, 03:35:48 PM
Sorry, Irish. I hope that time will help. You have given so much to him, and you give so much here, too.

Thank you for the love you bring to the world.
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Post by: Cindy on April 17, 2014, 04:23:39 PM
I'm so very sorry for your loss, Prayers for you and your family.
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Post by: Crystal31 on April 17, 2014, 05:11:31 PM
So sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts and prayer.
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Post by: lori on April 17, 2014, 05:50:34 PM
Irish,
I am so sorry for your loss. Lifting you and your family in prayer
Lori
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Post by: wendyoh on April 17, 2014, 05:57:15 PM
oh Irish so sorry to hear, godspeed to you and yours xo
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Post by: brooklyntina on April 17, 2014, 06:22:18 PM
I'm so sorry Irish. Sending light your way.
Tina
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Post by: parched on April 17, 2014, 06:38:38 PM
Irish, when I first came to this forum four years ago the first person to reach out to me with advice and guidance was you.  You have been such a help and inspiration to me. Thank You for sharing your journey with Mr.Irish with us.  You have truly shown what sickness and In health mean.

I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers and (((hugs))) sent your way.
Parched
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Bucky on April 17, 2014, 07:13:18 PM
((Our dear friend, Irish)) - I am so sorry that your "Mr. Irish" has passed on. 

Thank you for sharing Mr. Irish with us through the years and your journey together as husband and wife, both dealing with life challenging illnesses and yet keeping the humor and love lights burning year after year, anniversary after anniversary.

I know your heart is heavy right now - but, I hope you know how much help you were to your husband.  Your nursing skills were shared with the one you loved most - what a beautiful gift.

May you be comforted in the days ahead as you make funeral arrangements and say your final goodbyes.  If there was any way possible, each one of us here on this forum would be there to hold your hand and share a hug with you if we could. 

Many times, in the wee morning hours, I "see" you online here (since I am usually up too).  I hope in those "quiet" times that you will take one of your husbands shirts and wrap it around you and feel his love.  Maybe, down the road, you can have some of Mr. Irish's clothes made into memory quilts.   I did that with my mom's clothes and I feel close to her when I see the quilts and remember her wearing those clothes.

In all the flurry of activity yet to come in the days ahead, please take some time for Irish - time to rest, make sure to take your meds, and get some food to nourish your body.

My deepest sympathy to you and your family - God bless you all.

Hugs,
Bucky
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Post by: eye2dry on April 17, 2014, 07:27:04 PM


Very sorry to hear of Mr. Irish passing away.

You"ve been a great wife to Mr. Irish, as time goes on you'll enjoy the memories

you had with him........but right now you are mentally and physically

exhausted........please rest yourself.

eye2dry
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Post by: nannysbaby on April 17, 2014, 08:22:41 PM
So sorry for your loss.  I am thinking of you and you are in my prayers.

Nancy
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Post by: DesignerS on April 17, 2014, 10:08:45 PM
I am so sorry that you have lost your best friend:( I am thankful you have peace knowing you will be with him again, and that he is no longer in pain. (((Hugs)))

Designer
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: susanep on April 18, 2014, 12:21:23 AM
irish you are daily in my thoughts and prayers. I know it will be one day at a time, and many days one moment at a time.

May God give his comfort to you now that only he can fully give.
susanep
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Post by: mshistory on April 18, 2014, 06:02:41 AM
I am so sorry for your loss.
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Post by: Nancy60 on April 18, 2014, 06:29:12 AM
Irish

So sorry for your loss.  You and your family are in my prayers.

Nancy
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Post by: CMNK12 on April 18, 2014, 06:54:00 AM
   I just saw the post and I am so sorry for your loss. I will be thinking about you and praying for you. CK
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Post by: kimbo on April 18, 2014, 07:28:33 AM
Irish,

I am Praying for you and your family - comforting peace and loving memories as you journey through your mourning of Great Loss. Blessings in the days ahead I pray this for you, as you have so blessed many with your sweet wisdom and genuine caring heart.
Mr. Irish was very blessed to have you and you were blessed in that sweet love life together, thank you for sharing your life with your sjoggie family.
That Love will be eternally yours.

Love, Hugs and continued Prayers,  Kimbo
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: gold55 on April 18, 2014, 10:07:28 AM
Dear Irish... I am so sorry about the passing of your best friend and love.  I cannot fathom going through this with my guy but your advice is taken seriously and from this day on I am going to work harder at attending to his needs and giving him the happiest life.  May God bless Mr Irish as he rests in peace with the angels above.

in my prayers,
Jill     
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Post by: jpd54 on April 18, 2014, 12:50:58 PM
Irish, I am so sorry to be so late with my condolences.  I have not been online for several days.  It is never easy when a loved one passes, even if you know it is coming.  My heart and prayers are with you.  I wish I could wrap my arms around you and give you comfort. 

                     Jennifer
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Post by: twilite on April 18, 2014, 01:19:34 PM
Irish, i am so sorry that you lost your husband and i know that this is a sad time for you...

take care yourself.

~twilite
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Post by: Katybarstool on April 18, 2014, 01:37:24 PM
Irish, I'm happy to hear that Mr Irish is now at peace, but sad that you are suffering from his loss. Almost 50 years together is a wonderful achievement. And still loving and caring for one another after all those years is an even bigger achievement.

If you can tell us when the funeral will be, I'm sure we will all be there in spirit with you.

God bless
Kathyx 
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Post by: harrigan on April 18, 2014, 01:51:20 PM
Oh Irish, you are all in my thoughts in these raw and painful days. You love and devotion to each other were a blessing to us to read about. There was many a time when you showed us the way. May your sons and families hold you close and may you find comfort knowing you made his life more lovely for nearly 50 years.  Xx Ailsa
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Post by: Dolly Dimples on April 18, 2014, 01:55:52 PM
   Awww Irish,    His long and weary battle is over, and without you by his side,
        I doubt if he would have lasted so long.  You did your duty above and beyond call Irish,
        now you must look after yourself.  Take care,  and know that we are with you and your family at this sad time.
                      Bless you,             Hugs Dolly x
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: irish on April 18, 2014, 09:56:36 PM
Thank you all for your condolences and kind thoughts and prayers. The wake was tonight and there was a good turnout of people who shared there love and appreciation of my hubby and the impact he had on their life. It was wonderful and surely made me more aware of the kind, loving man that I had married.

The funeral is 11 hours from now and will also be something that I hope will give others hope.  I can feel the support and prayers of people as I have felt quit peaceful. I had cried so much the past 5 years and then worked so hard the past years, especially the past several months so I have few tears now. Just feel like I am being carried on a cloud of protection. I know that I need sleep and have been sleeping better. So relieved to have it over and hubby safe and not suffering anymore. The time for tears will soon return when all this rush is over.

Just a cute remark from my 4 yr old grandson. He asked " When is grandma going to die?"and I replied "when God wants me but I hope it won't be tip I get my house cleaned". To which he replied,"what if he calls you before you clean the house" and I told him that I would have some really upset DILs. I suppose he will be watching me to see if I would soon be dropping in my tracks. What kids think of. Thank you all again. Irish
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Post by: slccom on April 18, 2014, 11:16:35 PM
Your grandson is adorable. And you are undoubtedly right!
Hugs, Sharon
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: susanep on April 19, 2014, 12:09:08 AM
irish when mom passed away the littlest (twins) great grand daughters said little things like that too. It would have made mom smile.

I am glad you found a  special kind of peace at the wake in the many people who loved  your husband.

I am glad to hear you will get more sleep too.

You are still in my thoughts and prayers every day.

God Bless My Friend,
susanep :)
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Post by: Styx on April 19, 2014, 03:31:11 AM
I rarely check the forums anymore, but I'm very glad I checked tonight.

Irish, my thoughts are with you at this difficult time. I imagine your husband led a great life, despite the health problems that arose, and he was fortunate to have you by his side throughout the journey.

May he rest in peace.

Styx
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Post by: harrigan on April 19, 2014, 06:26:08 AM
Thinking of you now Irish and hoping the funeral will be a comfort to you now and in the days ahead. Here for you xx Ailsa
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Post by: loulou on April 19, 2014, 11:34:14 AM
Dear Irish

 I haven't been on for a while, but I am saddened to read your post.

 I pray that you will find comfort in your time of grief - god bless you and your family.

x loulou
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Post by: jazzlover on April 19, 2014, 04:25:12 PM
Irish, my condolences! I haven't been here in awhile and decided to see what was going on here.

I'm very sorry. I know he has suffered a long time and you have suffered too. I know what a toll chronic illness can take on families.

God Bless and take good care of YOU!
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Scottietottie on April 19, 2014, 04:33:25 PM
Hi Irish - I just wanted to say that some friends - who used to use the forum but don't any more - are aware of your hubby's passing. Their thoughts are with you - and their prayers.
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: irish on April 19, 2014, 05:44:59 PM
Just to thank all of you again for your thoughts and prayers as this has been a such more relaxed and peaceful time than I would have ever imagined. Our three boys and their families have been such a blessing at this time and pitched in and washed cars, picked up the house, got food gathered up to eat for quick meals, etc. Just a good time with family and hubby would have been very touched and proud.

The funeral was very nice and peaceful and I have felt surrounded by the love of those in attendance. The kids and grandkids are gone now and I am picking up the house a little---tired but going to go through all the cards tonight. Easter is tomorrow but I may sleep for hours and need the sleep so family will not see or hear much from me. MOnday will be hospice chaplain and the grief counselor and Tuesday errands to run. Wednesday I have neuro appt and then will drive to sons house 2 hours away as he is having double surgery this day. I will stay a couple days and help a little and enjoy the trip. It was Oct 30th when we made the last trip up there for an overnight. It was hard on hubby and me and he was so sad that he was not able to go again.

I will enjoy the ride, but it will not be the same as having him with me. I have to add that people should never be afraid of using hospice if it is needed. It gave my hubby a little extra time, I think, because of less running to the docs and the ability to stay home and settle in and bond more tightly as a family. We were able to visit and spend a lot of time talking and just being together---and especially taking naps in our recliners when needed. I think it helps to make the journey more personal and less traumatic. Thank you all again for your support---I truly felt the caring come through. Irish
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: wildforwater on April 19, 2014, 06:05:09 PM
Irish,

I'm new here and don't know much history, but you touched my heart.  May God bless you and your family and may you find comfort and happiness in the loving memories of your dear husband.

Hugs,

Maria
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: harrigan on April 20, 2014, 07:33:12 AM
Hoping you get to sleep lots today Irish. I was glad to hear that the funeral was as good as it could be. You have a busy week ahead of you but family is the best place to be. Hoping you continue to feel loved and cared for.  You are very precious to us xx Ailsa
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Chris on April 20, 2014, 03:41:31 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family.
Hugs
Chris
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: stillinshockwithsjogrens on April 21, 2014, 12:46:31 AM
Oh, Irish, I can't tell you how sorry I am for your loss.  You have been battling your own health issues and his for a long time.  Life is different now.  Things never remain constant.  Except that you are loved by those around you and people here are thankful for the support you've offered consistently, over a long period of time.

May peace be with you.
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Jenny on April 21, 2014, 04:20:16 AM
So sorry for your loss. I can tell how much you loved him. My husband is my best friend too.
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: A66eyroad on April 21, 2014, 05:44:08 AM
Oh, Irish, I am so sorry to log on this morning and read about your sweet man. My thoughts and prayers are with you, and I'm holding you in the light.

With love,
A66ey
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Wendom on April 21, 2014, 05:48:03 AM
Oh Irish just saw this today I'm so sorry to hear you lost your wonderful husband deepest sympathy to you and your family may he rest in peace
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: susan on April 21, 2014, 08:06:15 AM

So sorry for your loss, Irish.

Sincerely,
Susan
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: RettaV on April 21, 2014, 08:33:18 AM
Oh, Irish.
I haven't been on here much for weeks now, so missed hearing about your heartache until just now. I'm so sorry you and your husband had to go through all of that, but how blessed he was to have you.
Sending you prayers for your healing now,
Retta
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: bjnc on April 21, 2014, 04:27:49 PM
Irish,

I haven't been on the boards too much lately so I just saw your post today.  So sorry to hear about your hubby and your loss. Know that you're in my prayers.  May the Lord comfort you, heal you, and give you His peace that passes understanding.

Becky
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Nymph on April 22, 2014, 06:51:03 PM
Dear Irish,

My heart goes out to you in losing your husband and best friend, and in all the suffering you went through with him while he was failing. It sounds like you two shared a truly special love. I'm so glad that he's with the Lord now. Give yourself time and space to sort through all the emotions.

hugs,

Nicole
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Hopeful on April 22, 2014, 08:53:16 PM
I am deeply sorry for your loss.

Hopeful
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Cricket on April 22, 2014, 09:56:12 PM
Irish

I am so sorry for your loss.  It is sad that we can not go at the same time as our spouses, that one of us needs to be left behind.  You can take pride in the fact that you took very good care of him (as he did for you) and he was able to thank you for it. 

As I read all this back to myself it does not make a lot of sense but I hope you get the feelings I am trying to send your way.

Sending my love and prayers
Cricket~
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Iris on April 23, 2014, 05:08:08 PM
I haven't been around much lately so I just saw this and had to log in and say how sorry I am for your loss.. I know you are very sad now but I hope you can take comfort in knowing that Mr Irish is with our Lord and is no longer suffering.. I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers..
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: angeldancer on April 23, 2014, 09:09:54 PM
Irish, I am so so sorry for your loss.  I know the pain well and I pray that God keeps you and holds you up as you endure this sad time.  You did your best and were an outstanding wife.  He appreciated all you did to the very end.  That love will be unending and I promise you that God will get you through this.  Do what you need to do for you to stay strong and never give up.  Never stop holding on to Gods unchanging hand.  God understands your pain and is there to hold you.  If I were there I would hold you tight and then we will go watch the eagles soar to the heavens where your hubby is.  May God keep a strong peace in your heart.
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: genko_b on June 02, 2014, 10:12:19 PM
Dear Irish:

I've been out of the country and the forum since mid-April and am just getting caught up. I am so sorry to hear of your loss and hope you and your family are able to support one another through this most difficult time. You and Mr. Irish have been such an example to us all. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Take care,

Genko
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: tomsmom on June 03, 2014, 12:18:18 PM
I haven't been on in a long while and am just reading this.  My condolences and prayers go out to you and your family.  I am so very sorry for your loss.
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: ARJ on June 03, 2014, 01:54:26 PM
I'm so sorry Irish. :( He couldn't have prayed for a better wife.
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: brooks1teacher on June 03, 2014, 02:50:06 PM
Please accept my most sincere condolences for your deep loss. 

Gentle hugs and prayers being sent your way.
Brooksie
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Tracyrose on June 03, 2014, 11:45:59 PM
I am so sorry to hear this, we have only just met but know that I was saddened and hope you are ok .
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: trejonina on June 04, 2014, 01:22:11 PM
Irish,may God and His angels keep him,you and yours company and give you all his blessings. So sorry for your loss, Nina
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: irish on June 04, 2014, 05:13:28 PM
Thank you so much for all the continual support. It has been 6 weeks ago today since my hubby went to heaven. The time has gone so fast and the business end of this event keeps one busy. It is much more work with brain fog, believe me!!!

I miss him everyday but would not wish him back in ill health. If he could come back and we could be 30 years old and healthy it would be much better---but then we would have to go through all those hard times again. I guess life is planned the way it is for a reason. I am dealing with health issues and am glad I wasn't feeling this bad in the months prior to his death.

Fighting infections in sinuses and lymph tissues in throat. Several appts made over the next 2 weeks.

I don't even feel good enough to go outside and sit on the ground and pull a few weeds---what a wimp I am being but that is the way it is. Want to plant some flowers but just can't do it now. Dizziness is bad also.

Being a widow is really a strange experience that cannot be planned for in advance. Another lesson in life. Thanks again. Irish
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Daisy1234 on June 07, 2014, 05:10:43 PM
Dear Irish:

I don't come to this site as often as I used to, but I just saw this thread a few moments ago and wanted to say how deeply sorry I am to learn of your dear husband's passing.  Over the years you have often spoken of the ups and downs of dealing with his and your health struggles all the while you were still helping so many of us here with your wonderful and caring insights.

All I can say is that after all that he went thru, if anyone is deserving of getting a good welcome at the pearly gates in my opinion, your dear hubby would come highly qualified.  Thank you always for being such an inspiration, a wonderful source of information and a comfort to me as well as so many others, and I hope and pray that your strength is renewed in knowing that you are treasured and so greatly appreciated.

Daisy
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: deeindiana on June 17, 2014, 07:01:54 PM
It's been awhile since I've been here and just saw your post. I'm so sorry!! Please accept my deepest condolences!
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: warmwaters on June 17, 2014, 09:44:07 PM
If you can't do weeding, that's ok.  Just get outside and enjoy the summer weather.

Best !

Warmwaters
Thank you so much for all the continual support. It has been 6 weeks ago today since my hubby went to heaven. The time has gone so fast and the business end of this event keeps one busy. It is much more work with brain fog, believe me!!!

I miss him everyday but would not wish him back in ill health. If he could come back and we could be 30 years old and healthy it would be much better---but then we would have to go through all those hard times again. I guess life is planned the way it is for a reason. I am dealing with health issues and am glad I wasn't feeling this bad in the months prior to his death.

Fighting infections in sinuses and lymph tissues in throat. Several appts made over the next 2 weeks.

I don't even feel good enough to go outside and sit on the ground and pull a few weeds---what a wimp I am being but that is the way it is. Want to plant some flowers but just can't do it now. Dizziness is bad also.

Being a widow is really a strange experience that cannot be planned for in advance. Another lesson in life. Thanks again. Irish
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: Net on June 17, 2014, 10:20:40 PM
So sorry for the late reply.....many hugs and may your loved one always be in your heart....Net
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: harrigan on June 17, 2014, 11:27:13 PM
Think of you often Irish.  Hope you get some relief from infections soon.  Grief is exhausting, no matter how much we know it is coming and it comes with so much extra work to do. Take care  xx Ailsa
Title: Re: Mr. Irish has passed on
Post by: sjenny on June 19, 2014, 04:06:05 PM
Dear Irish:

I'm so deeply sorry to hear of your husband's passing.  Please accept my condolences.  May God hold you and comfort you in this time.

Love, Sjenny