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Title: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: jordozmom on November 09, 2009, 12:47:29 PM
I have mentioned in some of my past posts that I am not sure that I can continue to work full time because of SJS and related complications, and my spouse and I are currently seriously discussing my quitting work after the holidays to focus on my health, our household and our family committments.  I am just curious what everyone on this board thinks of that decision.  I am really having serious difficulties making this decision, even though I (and my spouse) believe that this is the right thing to do.  Just when I had gotten used to my disease and its limitations and had adapted my life around it and accepted it, I had a "flare" about a year or so ago that has just hung on and it has me believing that this isn't just a flare but the new norm.  Well, I was able to handle my disease and working full time and taking care of my son before, but now that it has gotten worse I just can't seem to manage it and work full time, too.  The fatigue and joint pain just seem to make it impossible to get things done - I miss lots of work and I get nothing done around the house and my poor 12 year old has to pretty much take care of himself.  Not to mention that my doc says to get more rest and to exercise - well when the heck do you supposed I could do that?!  I can't even make it through each day doing what I'm doing now!!!  I guess it is just difficult for me because I have always worked and I'm afraid of making that decision.  I'm having a problem letting it go.  I keep trying to tell myself that it is temporary, but I'm afraid that once I quit I'll never make it back again.  And it means that our dreams of a newer/bigger house will be on hold, maybe permanently.  But, if I could eliminate the stress of trying to get to work everyday and the related anxiety about getting to work and being able to focus on it (which is becoming increasingly difficult), and could spend that time getting the rest and exercise and keeping my household functional that it would make me feel better.  Any advice, suggestions, comments?
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: Redetha1 on November 09, 2009, 12:54:01 PM
I quit work because I could no longer keep up.  While I now have limited funds, I have found that a lot of the money I was spending was purchasing things so I could continue work.  I feel much better now that I  am not working.  I am happy that I have quit.  However, every person is different.  Family is number one in my book.  Good luck with your decision.  Hugs
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: cindyh on November 09, 2009, 01:11:27 PM
I am still working full time and find it very difficult as well.  It is so hard to stay focused on work when you feel so tired.  I have thought about it and wondered if I would qualify for disability.  Have you looked into that?
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: Bucky on November 09, 2009, 01:35:38 PM
Jordozmom,

Unfortunately, this is a decision that only you and your husband can make.  For myself, I left my job last December as the stress of the job, the aches and pains, etc. wasn't worth the money I was bringing home.  My husband saw an instant change in me.  He would comment "you seem so much happier" . . which I am!!   ;D  Yes, you will have to make financial sacrifices - for me, it was (and still is) well worth it.  The job I had I worked 25 hrs. a week - which was enough, I don't know how those of you who work 40 hrs. (plus) do it.

So, for myself, I am very glad I made the decision to quit.  Are the finances a little tight?  Yes.  Do I get all the aches and pains I had when working?  No.  Has my stress level been reduced?  YES, YES, YES

Good luck with your decision.

Bucky
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: DragonflyC on November 09, 2009, 02:30:58 PM
I agree that you need to do what's right for you and your family.

I wonder what your doctor has done for you, though.  Has he/she prescribed a course of prednisone?  For me, that's the only thing that ends a flare.  Rest and exercise and diet might help me avoid flares, but once one hits there's nothing that I can do about it on my own.
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: SueAnn on November 09, 2009, 02:35:56 PM
As already said, this is a decision that you have to make and you are very lucky to have the choice.   Maybe if you could get your health and family back the way you want, it may be worth not having the bigger house (it would just be more work anyway ::)).

Sue Ann

 
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: Scottietottie on November 09, 2009, 04:33:21 PM
Hi   :)

I can't advise you one way or the other. We are all different. I work part time. I'd find full time quite hard although if push came to shove I could probably still do it. Part time suits me better though. I don't want to focus on my health more than I do. I want to forget about it and work helps me to do that. Work keeps me sane. I would really miss the people I work with if I had to quit.

Take care - Scottie  :)
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: Wynter on November 09, 2009, 04:34:59 PM
I am  like you. In 2008 I had a flare that has never gone away. We had just moved and my husband quit his job to go to nursing school, so I was the only provider in our house. It seems everytime I have a lot of stress my disease progresses. I work on a computer and my eyes really bother me. After 8 hours of working, I eyes kill me. I have decided to work until I can't, and I am worried my eyes might be my downfall. Good luck.
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: marilyn143 on November 09, 2009, 08:42:49 PM
it is a very hard choice to make.I had no choice but to work as I was a divorced mom.I had not been diagnosed yet and had no medical insurance.I ended up being in a house fire 5 years ago.I am now on dissability have barely any money ,which I wouldn't care so much about if I didn't have a teenage son.Really though I know in my heart it is the best thing for my body and long term health.having a good support system is a must.do what is best for you in the long run.
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: irish on November 09, 2009, 09:05:08 PM
I miss working and the socialization but I do not miss feeling so stressed out and sick all the time. At least now I can sit down and be sick without feeling guilty about missing work.

Also, as was mentioned earlier, I swear we do spend a whole lot more money when we work. Of course there is the wardrobe, gas, take out food cause we are too sick to cook when we get home, etc. I think most of us who have had to quit work have found that it is much easier to follow a budget and keep the spending down when we are home.

I find that I have the time to shop the sales and thrift shops. If you have kids at home who are being impacted by your lack of energy and patience when you work I guess I would feel better quitting. I did not have to make that decision as my kids were out on their own. Do what you have to do and if you start to feel better down the road you may want to do a little part time for some extra money. Good luck to all of you contemplating this question. It is something that everyone has to decide on their own. Irish ;D
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: eyeamdry on November 09, 2009, 10:06:47 PM
Irish, you're absolutely right.  There is no EASY answer and each of us is so different.  There is one thing that I like to bring up because many people don't think about it.  They know they're sick and they can hardly go to work and quitting is the obvious step when you feel like this.  If you are working a part-time low paying job, it doesn't take the thought to quit than it does a full-time job with benefits.

If a person has the full time job and possibly can take time to get their ducks in a row, it could be the difference between getting a slap on the back and some financial help for the rest of your life.  If you have FMLA where you work, first get in that and use days or a day at a time when you need it.  This might give you the stamina you need to keep on working.  Maybe not.  At the end of FMLA, file for short-term disability if your company has it.  I did and I got it.  After collecting short-term disability, I think it's easier to be successful getting Soc Sec Disability.  Of course, you have to be really sick to get disability.  You'll need to have good dr records for several years going back.  If I did not have all my doctor records and had not been to see my docs so much, I probably wouldn't have had a chance.  I had a solid 5 years of trying to find a doctor who could fix my eyes.  Then I had a medically necessary eye surgery and that's the last time I worked.

I didn't know that was going to happen, but if I'd just quit any time earlier, I'd have missed out on the health insurance too.  So take a few weeks to find out what you have on the line.  Lucy

Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: Katybarstool on November 10, 2009, 12:32:15 AM
This is an interesting thread, and touches a nerve with me.

I work full time, in the UK, in the voluntary sector. I'm very lucky in that we get 10 weeks full pay in a year, if we are off sick. However, as most of you will agree I'm sure, no-one wants to have to take that much time, and it's certainly not looked upon in a positive light by ones employers. I had my sickness review yesterday. With various surgeries, swine flu and diagnostic tests, I have taken 41 days this year. My manager is very good - she's also one of my closest friends, but I know she is having to tread a fine line now, as far as my sickness level goes. I may need more time off in the near future for more tests, and possibly another prolapse repair, so I'm feeling a bit twitchy about the work absences.

For a while, I've been wondering whether I should try to reduce my hours, but my husband is older than me, due to retire in 5 years, and on minimum wage. For a variety of reasons, our mortgage has 15 years to go. So, although on a good day, I can see myself working for many years to come, on a realistic day, I know I will have to seriously consider reducing my hours in the not too distant future.

For now, I'm just keeping my head down, trying not to reveal too much health information, and getting as much rest at home as I can.

Kathyx
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: ~elizabeth~ on November 10, 2009, 03:34:25 AM
I gave up my job when I was about 33. It was a peculiarly stressful situation, made worse by having to take lots of sick leave ( never more than 10 days, though the company found more than one day a year unacceptable, as this was supposedly the company average), and my boss using this to bully me into doing lots of overtime for him. To top it all, my studio colleagues all ganged up and complained to the personnel department that they couldn't work with me as I was too 'ambitious', which was absolutely horrible (though the company found in my favour, and actually disciplined them instead, it was a bit of a pyrrhic victory as I just decided to leave at that point). I think the company would have been quite good about my illness if I'd actually been diagnosed with a condition at the time, but I hadn't even managed to get a result for my thyroid problems at that point, let alone the SjS, so it was hard to bargain with them.

I left to set up a company with my husband. Although theoretically ideal, it's been very difficult as I haven't been well enough to work that much, or keep up with huge advances in new technology that are constant in this industry. I don't have the stamina to work long hours finishing off rushed projects to limited deadlines, or go along to film shoots.

By leaving my 'proper' job, I no longer have any one to act as a referree if I want to take a less challenging part time job (as I foolishly tried to a few months back, before the current flare, only to get an immediate rejection letter). On balance, I wish I'd kept 'one foot' in my old job, maybe gone part time if it had been possible. Once you're out of the loop, it's really hard to get back in, particularly when you're feeling really low with this horrible condition.
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: Babs659 on November 10, 2009, 04:36:22 AM
I'm thankful that I have a desk job as a veteran's counselor.  I would not be able to do physical work all day.  The mental stress of my job sometimes makes me feel ill, but I just leave early or put my head down for a couple minutes.  I am fortunate that I work for the State and only have 5 years to go before retiring at age 55.  After that I plan to work part time.  Needless to say, I'm going to hang in there no matter what.
I wish you well! :)
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: jordozmom on November 10, 2009, 10:54:04 AM
I quit work because I could no longer keep up.  While I now have limited funds, I have found that a lot of the money I was spending was purchasing things so I could continue work.  I feel much better now that I  am not working.  I am happy that I have quit.  However, every person is different.  Family is number one in my book.  Good luck with your decision.  Hugs

You know, I am finding that same thing.  We spend A TON of money on lunches and dinners eating out every day because I am just too tired to shop for groceries and cook.  At night I am just too tired to fix a lunch, and there generally isn't much in the house because I rarely get to the store.  Yes, I feel the same way about family, and right now it is ranked #2 below work because work takes every bit of energy I have.  Thanks so much for your response!
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: jordozmom on November 10, 2009, 10:55:25 AM
I am still working full time and find it very difficult as well.  It is so hard to stay focused on work when you feel so tired.  I have thought about it and wondered if I would qualify for disability.  Have you looked into that?

I haven't looked into disability yet - I keep thinking I am going to hold out on that until I am to the point to where I absolutely cannot work.  Have you looked into it?  It seems sort of intimidating to me right now.  And it seems so permanent....
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: jordozmom on November 10, 2009, 11:00:29 AM
Jordozmom,

Unfortunately, this is a decision that only you and your husband can make.  For myself, I left my job last December as the stress of the job, the aches and pains, etc. wasn't worth the money I was bringing home.  My husband saw an instant change in me.  He would comment "you seem so much happier" . . which I am!!   ;D  Yes, you will have to make financial sacrifices - for me, it was (and still is) well worth it.  The job I had I worked 25 hrs. a week - which was enough, I don't know how those of you who work 40 hrs. (plus) do it.

So, for myself, I am very glad I made the decision to quit.  Are the finances a little tight?  Yes.  Do I get all the aches and pains I had when working?  No.  Has my stress level been reduced?  YES, YES, YES

Good luck with your decision.

And that is where we are. If I were a CEO and making hundreds of thousands a year, it might be a different story.  But for what I am making it is not worth not only the stress of the job, but also the stress of getting in to work every day, looking professional, etc.  Before I needed the insurance, but that is no longer the case.  I am very lucky that we do not have a lot of debt and we can manage everything with my spouse's earnings, but it does mean majorly cutting back in every area.  What is funny is what I was most worried about was my son - I told him that it would mean that there would be no last minute trips to the mall or to the book store or to the toy store to blow $30 or $40 bucks and he said it would be worth it because I would feel better, and besides, he has enjoyed having me home before and after school - can you believe it?!  What a star my son is!!!
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: jordozmom on November 10, 2009, 11:03:09 AM
As already said, this is a decision that you have to make and you are very lucky to have the choice.   Maybe if you could get your health and family back the way you want, it may be worth not having the bigger house (it would just be more work anyway ::)).

Sue Ann

 

LOL!  That's right - a bigger house just means more to clean.  Great point!!!!  And thanks for the advice!!!
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: jordozmom on November 10, 2009, 11:04:17 AM
Hi   :)

I can't advise you one way or the other. We are all different. I work part time. I'd find full time quite hard although if push came to shove I could probably still do it. Part time suits me better though. I don't want to focus on my health more than I do. I want to forget about it and work helps me to do that. Work keeps me sane. I would really miss the people I work with if I had to quit.

Take care - Scottie  :)

I am liking what I am hearing about part time - can I ask, though, about how many hours a week you work?  I'm finding that part time means different things to different people...and thanks for the post!
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: jordozmom on November 10, 2009, 11:07:28 AM
I am  like you. In 2008 I had a flare that has never gone away. We had just moved and my husband quit his job to go to nursing school, so I was the only provider in our house. It seems everytime I have a lot of stress my disease progresses. I work on a computer and my eyes really bother me. After 8 hours of working, I eyes kill me. I have decided to work until I can't, and I am worried my eyes might be my downfall. Good luck.

I am so sorry to hear that about your eyes - is that from the dryness?  We sound very similar - we have had a series of stressors (his parents both fell at different times and broke their hips, my mother almost died and my father did die unexpectedly - all within a couple of years of each other) over the last couple of years and they seem to keep my flare going.  I keep thinking that when things settle down maybe it will go back into remission, but that doesn't seem to be happening.  Well thanks for the post and you take care!  Hope your eyes get to feeling better!!!
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: Scottietottie on November 10, 2009, 11:21:04 AM
Hi Jordozmom  :)

I work for 22 and a half hours a week, 10a.m. - 3 p.m. Mon, Tues, Wed, and Thurs and 9.30a.m. - 12 noon on a Friday. I used to work for 3 hours, two evenings a week but I dropped those hours. The doc didn't actually tell me to, but she said it was a good idea.

I work with pretty challenging teenagers and I find those hours are sufficient!!  Still very tired from having done a Monday - Friday residential with them last week. That was a push!

Take care - Scottie  :)
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: Bucky on November 10, 2009, 01:17:47 PM

 What is funny is what I was most worried about was my son - I told him that it would mean that there would be no last minute trips to the mall or to the book store or to the toy store to blow $30 or $40 bucks and he said it would be worth it because I would feel better, and besides, he has enjoyed having me home before and after school - can you believe it?!  What a star my son is!!!

We have an only son who will turn 14 in 5-1/2 wks.  I had to return to the work force when he started kindergarten and he is now in the eighth grade.  I have always loved being a SAHM, so I was thrilled that I got the opportunity to stay home again.  We don't have all the money my sons cousins have.  They get the latest and greatest gadgets.  Yes, I'm sure my son longs for the "stuff" everyone else has.  BUT, he is content with what he has.  From a very young age we taught him about money.  He's had a savings account since he was four that he regularly puts money into.  He's worked to earn money and knows first hand how quickly it can get spent on "wants".  IF he had a choice between all the "stuff" and having Mom home when he gets home from school or having Mom volunteer at his school . . . he would pick Mom home.   ;D  Just my own two cents here . . . . with him being our "only", I already see the time slipping by too quickly and I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE spending time with him.  (In fact, every Monday night we have "date night" . . . we watch Castle together!  If I get busy and forget, he comes, puts his arm around me and says "Mom, Castle's on".  ;D)  I will drop everything I'm doing to spend time with him.  You can't put a price tag on your "BEING THERE".   To me, STUFF vs. TIME . . . time wins hands down!!  Ok, I'll get off my soap box now.   ;D

Bucky
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: BeckyG on November 10, 2009, 03:08:57 PM
This is something I have been contemplating the last year.  Though I am feeling better right now (besides the abcessed tooth but that is gone next week yeah!) I have already missed 10 days since July! I can not even believe that as all my prior jobs combined I never missed that much.  I am lucky to work in a faboulous company that understands and gives us tons of sick days a year (i currently have 20 and get another ten next year)  But even with that I feel so very guilty when I am not at work.  I am only 28 and have not even started the family route with my husband and even though we would like to I can't see being able to do that and work full time like I am currently!  I barely have energy right now some days to clean house or make dinner.  Right now the option isn't on the table as my husband is going to school to get a better job- when he is done in June I know I am going to face the decision on what I can do and what I can't do.   Part time sounds lovely and maybe I can look into that.

Good luck on your decision! Whatever you decide will hopefully make you happy!
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: Gail on November 10, 2009, 05:44:25 PM
To work or not to work is your and your spouse  decision to make. I can tell by your message that you got a good husband that is by your side regardless of your decision and health issues. That is very good. You have a great support there!

I do not work right now. I have been out of work a little less than 6 months due to the health issues. First it was mono, than Vaccine side effects. Variety of symptoms that everybody else on this forum has. I pray, believe, and hope that I can go back to work. Maybe part time soon.

I was a hairdresser before my illness and was a very social person. After I got sick and quit my job, my social life is not there anymore. I miss working and been around people, talking and listening to others. I was very happy than.

I am more depressed now due to the illness and social isolation. My job did have high level of stress but I enjoyed it. I still have plenty of stress even staying at home from feeling sick and not been able a lot of activities. I also do not have official diagnosis yet. So, it is still stressful for me to be at home.

Financially it is a disaster for me, but I cannot do anything about it right now. I want to get a part time job, but right now I cannot do it.

I do not want to advise you anything wrong, but I would go part time for a while just to see if it makes things better before quitting. 

Best wishes,
Gail.
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: BonusMom on November 10, 2009, 05:48:50 PM
We've become a take-out society. Whether it's due to low energy, poor health or just being so busy trying to take care of our responsibilities, society is spending far too much on prepared food and at a horrific cost to our pocketbooks and our waistlines. 

I still work full-time (32 hrs a wk) and do my best to prepare dinner 5/7 nights. It's not always easy, especially since the only thing in the kitchen my DH is familiar with is the right end of the fork:). I grocery shop on the weekend, exhaustion permitting. I stock up on canned soups for my and DH's lunches. My guilt for not doing a homemade meal every single night (or letting the dishes stack up, or not keeping the house as tidy as I'd like, etc) is my problem and I've got to learn to let it go because DH has made it clear that it doesn't matter to him.

Mind you, I have worked since I was 16, through the birth/childhood/graduation from college of my three kids. I wanted to be a stay at home mommy, but my ex wanted to be certain that I was able to pay my "share" of the household expenses. Just one of the many reasons he's an ex :).
Anywho, with kids, mom's are the primary caretakers, getting them to school, soccer practice ('cause sports are cheaper than juvie), Johnny's house to just hang out and doctor's appts.  With the higher tax bracket your earnings surely put you in, the meals out, the guilt gifts because you're just too darned tired to do what your son would like you to do with/for him and your needing forgiveness, the career clothes and commute costs, one really does have to wonder if it's worth it PHYSICALLY or MONETARILY to continue the nonsense.  I can honestly say that if I were still raising my children with the health problems that I currently have (and I had a husband who was gainfully employed), I, too, would have seriously considered resigning by now because there's no way I could have done what I used to do on a daily basis.  And, although my husband is a good man, he's absolutely clueless as to what's really involved in raising three active kids and running a household.   

I am conflicted at times now because even if I seriously considered leaving my job due to health reasons, that's going to take my independence and identity away since the kids are grown. What, I wonder, would I do all day?  I know it may be a reality at some point, but it scares me-the thought of being a blob. I'm afraid I'd not have anything to focus on besides my illnesses.  As it is, I'm trying to fill that empty nest with some sort of hobby to fill my time, but I don't even have the energy to figure out what I enjoy or am capable of doing so you can well imagine the despair I'd feel if I didn't have my job any longer.

I apologize for the rambling vent and hope you don't feel like I've hijacked your thread.  I understand the considerations having to be taken in to account when making your decision, however,     I'm confident that you'll make the decision that's best for you and your family.

BTW, I'm using my Black Berry to type this so please forgive any nonsensical stuff-the BB makes is hard to re-read and edit
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: jordozmom on November 12, 2009, 11:56:50 AM

 What is funny is what I was most worried about was my son - I told him that it would mean that there would be no last minute trips to the mall or to the book store or to the toy store to blow $30 or $40 bucks and he said it would be worth it because I would feel better, and besides, he has enjoyed having me home before and after school - can you believe it?!  What a star my son is!!!

We have an only son who will turn 14 in 5-1/2 wks.  I had to return to the work force when he started kindergarten and he is now in the eighth grade.  I have always loved being a SAHM, so I was thrilled that I got the opportunity to stay home again.  We don't have all the money my sons cousins have.  They get the latest and greatest gadgets.  Yes, I'm sure my son longs for the "stuff" everyone else has.  BUT, he is content with what he has.  From a very young age we taught him about money.  He's had a savings account since he was four that he regularly puts money into.  He's worked to earn money and knows first hand how quickly it can get spent on "wants".  IF he had a choice between all the "stuff" and having Mom home when he gets home from school or having Mom volunteer at his school . . . he would pick Mom home.   ;D  Just my own two cents here . . . . with him being our "only", I already see the time slipping by too quickly and I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE spending time with him.  (In fact, every Monday night we have "date night" . . . we watch Castle together!  If I get busy and forget, he comes, puts his arm around me and says "Mom, Castle's on".  ;D)  I will drop everything I'm doing to spend time with him.  You can't put a price tag on your "BEING THERE".   To me, STUFF vs. TIME . . . time wins hands down!!  Ok, I'll get off my soap box now.   ;D

Bucky

Bucky, this is exactly what I wanted (needed) to hear.  I believe my son feels the same way.  I think he would enjoy having Old Mom around more to spend time with.  He's already said he loved having me home before and after school.  And I'm really hoping that I can get him off to school in the morning and then rest and be ready for him (and the hubby, of course!) when he gets home.  Right now I walk in the door from work and I immediately crash on the couch. He's eating nothing but garbage these days because he makes his own dinner.  And he spends a lot of time in front of the TV and on the computer because I'm just too tired to do anything or take him anywhere.  I'm hoping with not working I'll be more rested to make him go get some exercise and join some teams.  Time is EXACTLY what I need. 
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: jordozmom on November 12, 2009, 12:00:38 PM
This is something I have been contemplating the last year.  Though I am feeling better right now (besides the abcessed tooth but that is gone next week yeah!) I have already missed 10 days since July! I can not even believe that as all my prior jobs combined I never missed that much.  I am lucky to work in a faboulous company that understands and gives us tons of sick days a year (i currently have 20 and get another ten next year)  But even with that I feel so very guilty when I am not at work.  I am only 28 and have not even started the family route with my husband and even though we would like to I can't see being able to do that and work full time like I am currently!  I barely have energy right now some days to clean house or make dinner.  Right now the option isn't on the table as my husband is going to school to get a better job- when he is done in June I know I am going to face the decision on what I can do and what I can't do.   Part time sounds lovely and maybe I can look into that.

Good luck on your decision! Whatever you decide will hopefully make you happy!

Becky - I am so sorry about your tooth!  On top of everything else with this disease we have teeth issues!  Is it from your tooth falling apart?  I know mine do - they just crunch apart if I eat anything to hard.  Ugggh!  I am the same way about missing work.  My boss is VERY understanding and I'm very lucky to be here.  But even then I miss too much work and I feel terrible about it.  I don't like myself much as an employee, that's for sure!   I know how you feel, making dinner and cleaning house are the last on the list anymore.  I used to be total neat freak, too.  One of those people who defrosted the freezer at 10 p.m. at night just because it was driving me nuts!!!  Well, thanks for the reply and good luck with your tooth!!!
Title: Re: To Work, or Not To Work...
Post by: jordozmom on November 12, 2009, 12:06:18 PM
We've become a take-out society. Whether it's due to low energy, poor health or just being so busy trying to take care of our responsibilities, society is spending far too much on prepared food and at a horrific cost to our pocketbooks and our waistlines. 

I still work full-time (32 hrs a wk) and do my best to prepare dinner 5/7 nights. It's not always easy, especially since the only thing in the kitchen my DH is familiar with is the right end of the fork:). I grocery shop on the weekend, exhaustion permitting. I stock up on canned soups for my and DH's lunches. My guilt for not doing a homemade meal every single night (or letting the dishes stack up, or not keeping the house as tidy as I'd like, etc) is my problem and I've got to learn to let it go because DH has made it clear that it doesn't matter to him.

Mind you, I have worked since I was 16, through the birth/childhood/graduation from college of my three kids. I wanted to be a stay at home mommy, but my ex wanted to be certain that I was able to pay my "share" of the household expenses. Just one of the many reasons he's an ex :).
Anywho, with kids, mom's are the primary caretakers, getting them to school, soccer practice ('cause sports are cheaper than juvie), Johnny's house to just hang out and doctor's appts.  With the higher tax bracket your earnings surely put you in, the meals out, the guilt gifts because you're just too darned tired to do what your son would like you to do with/for him and your needing forgiveness, the career clothes and commute costs, one really does have to wonder if it's worth it PHYSICALLY or MONETARILY to continue the nonsense.  I can honestly say that if I were still raising my children with the health problems that I currently have (and I had a husband who was gainfully employed), I, too, would have seriously considered resigning by now because there's no way I could have done what I used to do on a daily basis.  And, although my husband is a good man, he's absolutely clueless as to what's really involved in raising three active kids and running a household.   

I am conflicted at times now because even if I seriously considered leaving my job due to health reasons, that's going to take my independence and identity away since the kids are grown. What, I wonder, would I do all day?  I know it may be a reality at some point, but it scares me-the thought of being a blob. I'm afraid I'd not have anything to focus on besides my illnesses.  As it is, I'm trying to fill that empty nest with some sort of hobby to fill my time, but I don't even have the energy to figure out what I enjoy or am capable of doing so you can well imagine the despair I'd feel if I didn't have my job any longer.

I apologize for the rambling vent and hope you don't feel like I've hijacked your thread.  I understand the considerations having to be taken in to account when making your decision, however,     I'm confident that you'll make the decision that's best for you and your family.

BTW, I'm using my Black Berry to type this so please forgive any nonsensical stuff-the BB makes is hard to re-read and edit

Our ex's sound the same!!!  Mine was that way, too, and I am very fortunate to have a very understanding and supportive spouse now.  And I tried for a while to do the dinner thing - even crock pot stuff - and it is just too exhausting.  Even the trips to the store exhaust me.  Is that awful or what!  And I LOVE your comment about "guilt gifts" - that is exactly it.  I buy my son stuff because I feel guilty that I am too exhausted to do anything with him. I figure it is the least I can do since I'm a screw up mom!!!  And my mom is in the same boat - we are all grown and gone and my dad passed away last year and even though she has sclerdoerma and pulmonary fibrosis and is 76 she still works full time because she is afraid that if she stops she'll turn into a "blob" (funny, she used the same word!).  That's partly why I think now would be a good time to quit as I still have my son's acitivities to get in on.  Thanks so much for your post and advice - I really appreciate it!  Take care Bonus Mom!!!
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Post by: dkpowell on November 12, 2009, 02:00:58 PM
I work full time. I've had Sjs for at least 5 years, and it is very difficult to say the least. I've been in a horrible flare for about a year. I will get a little bit better, only to flare again. Definitely the stress of working makes things worse. My kids are grown, and my husband is very supportive - otherwise i'd never make it.
Some days I'm glad to have a place to go to and make myself get up and moving. Other days I just want to crawl under the bed and hide.
No easy answers.
We can't afford for me to quit work - even if I had disability.
I'm working until they push me out the back door in a wheelchair!!! whether I want to or not!!!
Debora
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Post by: roetta on November 12, 2009, 02:42:44 PM
This is an issue we have discussed over and over again at our house. My husband was laid off for awhile a couple of years ago and we dug ourselves quite a hole during that time. Had to empty our savings, retirement and max out the credit cards just to survive. He's working again, but not making quite what he was before. And now we have zero retirement and the bills from the credit cards. So I went back to work full-time. And it's wearing me out!!

He says that he will support me whatever decision I make about work, but if I quit we would have to sell the house and my daughter would probably have to quit dance. And we seem to have lost any ground we made with me working, as far as paying off the bills and saving is concerned, because now we spend so much on eating out and quick food that there's nothing left for extra on the bills.

It feels like lose, lose.
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Post by: jordozmom on November 14, 2009, 08:35:46 PM
This is an issue we have discussed over and over again at our house. My husband was laid off for awhile a couple of years ago and we dug ourselves quite a hole during that time. Had to empty our savings, retirement and max out the credit cards just to survive. He's working again, but not making quite what he was before. And now we have zero retirement and the bills from the credit cards. So I went back to work full-time. And it's wearing me out!!

He says that he will support me whatever decision I make about work, but if I quit we would have to sell the house and my daughter would probably have to quit dance. And we seem to have lost any ground we made with me working, as far as paying off the bills and saving is concerned, because now we spend so much on eating out and quick food that there's nothing left for extra on the bills.

It feels like lose, lose.

Oh Roetta, I'm so sorry.  It sounds like in addition to your health issue you've had to deal with a layoff and going back FT, too.  Makes me feel badly for even complaining!!!  You take care!!!
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Post by: BeckyG on November 14, 2009, 09:10:16 PM
This is something I have been contemplating the last year.  Though I am feeling better right now (besides the abcessed tooth but that is gone next week yeah!) I have already missed 10 days since July! I can not even believe that as all my prior jobs combined I never missed that much.  I am lucky to work in a faboulous company that understands and gives us tons of sick days a year (i currently have 20 and get another ten next year)  But even with that I feel so very guilty when I am not at work.  I am only 28 and have not even started the family route with my husband and even though we would like to I can't see being able to do that and work full time like I am currently!  I barely have energy right now some days to clean house or make dinner.  Right now the option isn't on the table as my husband is going to school to get a better job- when he is done in June I know I am going to face the decision on what I can do and what I can't do.   Part time sounds lovely and maybe I can look into that.

Good luck on your decision! Whatever you decide will hopefully make you happy!

Becky - I am so sorry about your tooth!  On top of everything else with this disease we have teeth issues!  Is it from your tooth falling apart?  I know mine do - they just crunch apart if I eat anything to hard.  Ugggh!  I am the same way about missing work.  My boss is VERY understanding and I'm very lucky to be here.  But even then I miss too much work and I feel terrible about it.  I don't like myself much as an employee, that's for sure!   I know how you feel, making dinner and cleaning house are the last on the list anymore.  I used to be total neat freak, too.  One of those people who defrosted the freezer at 10 p.m. at night just because it was driving me nuts!!!  Well, thanks for the reply and good luck with your tooth!!!

Ah yes the teeth falling apart.. this is my third though I never knew why my teeth fell apart till the sjs diagnosis! But after bugging all my coworkers I was given a wonderful dentist that has several patients with sjs already (Though I am the youngest by quite a bit!) In all I am to have removed three teeth on top of the two already removed before... one abscessed, ones close to abscessing and one is erupted? (falling out basically cause there is no tooth below it)  But the abscessed one has a giant hole in the middle of it right now. Thankfully it doesn't hurt much- better than when my salivary glands swell up!  Anyways all will be good next week and from the sounds of it I even get some drugs to make me goofy for the day.  Should keep my husband and cat entertained  :D
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Post by: eyeamdry on November 14, 2009, 09:11:01 PM
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And my mom is in the same boat - we are all grown and gone and my dad passed away last year and even though she has sclerdoerma and pulmonary fibrosis and is 76 she still works full time because she is afraid that if she stops she'll turn into a "blob" (funny, she used the same word!).

Hats off to jordozmom's mom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  This lady is an inspiration.  My sister's mother-in-law worked into her 80's as a medical secretary because she couldn't just "stay home."  She was deaf and couldn't drive any more because of her eyes, so she took a cab back and forth to work.  She is now 97 and hasn't worked in some time.  Lucy
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Post by: roetta on November 16, 2009, 11:32:24 AM
Jordozmom - Never feel sorry for complaining on here! That's what we're here for!!  ;D
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Post by: katyjo on November 18, 2009, 12:40:35 PM
If it is possible, cutting back would be great.  I have a couple young of kids.  I don't know the future, so I try to be available to my family phyisically and emotionally as much as I can be.  Giving more love every day can do great things!!  Take care of yourself.     
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Post by: Rostradamus on December 31, 2009, 03:35:23 AM
Perhaps a change to a home operated business; work when you can. A Ma & Pa thing. It would make you independent where ever you move as well. I wish I had been able to do this befor it got bad. Now it is Too late and I'm at a loss to know how to save our home.  So go ahead and maybe work for yourself;a craft an art, write a book. A new page to your life.  I know there may be many days you can't do what you hope to do, or think you can do.  So, maybe consider it a hobbie to start. And the very best luck to you.
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Post by: jpd54 on December 31, 2009, 08:34:48 AM
I saw a neuropsych dr for my brain fog in February.  His tests reflected that my attention and short term memory were extremely affected.  Saw him two weeks ago and it had gotten worse.  I haven't been able to work for two years.  The stress was just too much.  I am hoping that my naps and "stressfree" life will allow me to do some of the simple things I haven't been able to do - take walks, water aerobics, cook.  My husband said maybe I will get back to being my old self soon.  Miss working sometimes but enjoy having "my time".  55 and tired.   

Happy New Year to all.

   jpd
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Post by: inga on December 31, 2009, 12:20:51 PM
If you do not contribute to social sec. for more than 10 quarters, you can not file for disability.  It is a personal decision to quit or stay working, so consider your financial status, how difficult it is to get a job in your field, your age, all that.

I don't work any more and don't get SSDI either.  I am fortunate in that we can make it, but it has affected our bottom line.

I wish I had tried to hang on to employment and now at 57, and sick, it is a lost cause to get hired....even in nursing.  I am an RN.  I can't meet the requirements for many nursing jobs, such as lifting 50 lbs.  I can't do shift work nor work odd shifts.  This limits my options.  I have PN as well, so I can't use my hands very well.

As other posters have said, it is lonely at home, then again my kids are grown.  I find I have to do volunteer work and join organizations not to go insane.

 I may have a grandson to watch for a year while a daughter is deployed, and that will be a huge challenge as he will be very young.  But you do what you have to do.

If you can get light duty or part time, perhaps that will allow you to keep working.  I do understand how difficult work can be with a disease and young children at  home.  I didn't know when my kids were young, that I had a 'disease'.  I was just sick and tired.  When my kids were young, I would have stayed home in a heartbeat.
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Post by: SassieCat on December 31, 2009, 08:35:55 PM
Been there, felt that and it's a very personal choice only you can make.  I have been off work for almost a year now.  Things have settled and I feel much better.  Now I am thinking of returning to work again but at less hours.  I keep tossing it back and forth in my mind.  Don't know if I will bring me back down if I do.   :-\

If I do return to work, I will post something for others to see and follow along if they want to. 

Best of luck to you and may your body find peace and comfort. 
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Post by: Rhonda on January 02, 2010, 06:52:02 PM
I can sure understand where you all are coming from.  I too am considering quitting work due to the extreme fatigue and stress.  I work 8  hours a day and commute nearly 1 1/2 hours each way. I also take online classes at night.  My rheumy says I need to slow down and take it easy, but how do I do that and continue to work? My husband is all for my retirement, but I feel so guilty about it I can hardly go make myself go through with it.  However, I know in my heart, I am not going to make it much longer. My SJS and RA are getting so bad I can hardly walk sometimes due to the pain and stiffness.  The fatigue is phenominal - absolutely indescribable. So, yes, I understand your dilemma.  God bless.
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Post by: SassieCat on January 02, 2010, 07:21:41 PM
Rhonda,

You poor girl, I know how you feel.  I used to feel so much pressure trying to recooperate from work so I could go back for another day.  Weekends were all about rest and trying to make my body quit hurting and feel better. 
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Post by: jordozmom on January 05, 2010, 01:31:25 PM
Been there, felt that and it's a very personal choice only you can make.  I have been off work for almost a year now.  Things have settled and I feel much better.  Now I am thinking of returning to work again but at less hours.  I keep tossing it back and forth in my mind.  Don't know if I will bring me back down if I do.   :-\

If I do return to work, I will post something for others to see and follow along if they want to. 

Best of luck to you and may your body find peace and comfort. 

SassieCat - That would be great if you kept us posted.  You will have gone through the whole cycle/experience by then and can share it with us.  Good luck to you and your decision - take care of yourself!!
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Post by: jordozmom on January 05, 2010, 01:36:16 PM
Thank you to all of you for the fantastic advice and words of support.  You are all stars!!!!
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Post by: irish on January 05, 2010, 09:12:47 PM
I see that some of you are talking about the financial problems that occur and the impact on lives when you have to quit work. There are several people out there who have written books and have ways to become debt free. These are not quack or crazy programs. They are developed by people who have frequently been through bankruptcy and know the problems that occur with debt.

Actually, they also have budget planning included in their programs. If you want to find some of these plans you could just google debt free and I think there would be many sites that you be listed. Most of these are just plain old common sense plus some good ideas that help a person out. We have a couple sons who are following these ideas from 2 different people. Both of them heard about the plan from others and just bought a book by the person who started the program. No gimmicks. These sons are having good luck with their budgeting. It is tough but helps make life more certain from the financial side. Irish ;D
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Post by: SassieCat on January 05, 2010, 10:09:07 PM
Jordozmom

I still have been procrastinating on submitting the papers to go back to work.  Apparently it is not as simple as getting a note from my doctor and going back.  Because I left on disabilty (or else I would have lost my job due to too much absence), I went through all the steps to be able to collect my disabiltiy/pension from where I work.  I am not under social security.  So for me to go back, I need to submit a letter requesting that I would like to return, along with my doctors note that it is okay with them.   Then this will go before a review board and they will have me see one of their state doctors who will determine if I can return and under what limitations.

Needless to say, the whole thing makes me anxious and nervous.  I am somewhat afraid of becoming the crippled person I was a year ago and enduring the #10 scale pain.  I don't want to be defeated by my body again.  But on the other hand, money is tight and I feel the 'need' to be able to survive.  So..... here I sit and here I keep thinking about it and weighing the options out.   :'(
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Post by: jordozmom on January 06, 2010, 06:46:16 AM
Jordozmom

I still have been procrastinating on submitting the papers to go back to work.  Apparently it is not as simple as getting a note from my doctor and going back.  Because I left on disabilty (or else I would have lost my job due to too much absence), I went through all the steps to be able to collect my disabiltiy/pension from where I work.  I am not under social security.  So for me to go back, I need to submit a letter requesting that I would like to return, along with my doctors note that it is okay with them.   Then this will go before a review board and they will have me see one of their state doctors who will determine if I can return and under what limitations.

Needless to say, the whole thing makes me anxious and nervous.  I am somewhat afraid of becoming the crippled person I was a year ago and enduring the #10 scale pain.  I don't want to be defeated by my body again.  But on the other hand, money is tight and I feel the 'need' to be able to survive.  So..... here I sit and here I keep thinking about it and weighing the options out.   :'(

SassieCat - I can totally see where it would make you anxious and nervous.  I noticed you said you are afraid of becomming the crippled person you were a year ago - does that mean that you are feeling better now that you are not working? And I don't know if you are like this, but I can see myself just like you are right now - not working but still worrying about it, tossing it back and forth (money is tight and I should go back to work, but if I go back to work I will feel crippled again, but if I don't then the money is so tight) - and I would end up not actually getting any rest anyway because I'm so stressed out and anxious about the decision.  But a #10 scale pain - I sure hate to think that you would have to endure such pain again; it sounds pretty miserable.  Well, you take care of yourself, Dear!
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Post by: roetta on January 06, 2010, 09:52:59 AM
Irish, what program are your sons using?
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Post by: Rhonda on January 06, 2010, 05:42:06 PM
Jordozmom I certainly understand where you are.  I am still working and try to determine if I should go out on disability.  It is a huge decsion and not one to take lightly.  I have been on vacation for a week and am surprised at how much better I feel after just a few days off.  I have at least some energy instead of none now.  It's a shame we have to decide between being financially strapped and feeling good.  Some choice, huh?  If you were suffering pain on a scale of 10 while working, and it is less now, I can see where you would have a great deal to consider.  I know you will make the right decision. 
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Post by: SassieCat on January 06, 2010, 07:36:07 PM
Along with the SjS, I have fibro, 6 herniated disks in my back, arthritus in my back and have had back surgery a few years ago.  When one thing acts up, it seems to have a domino effect on the others and the pain just blossoms.  Add to that, a job that required a lot of bending, stooping, walking, standing, for 8 hours and a doctor who had me on too many meds.

I was at the point of losing my job, my fmla ran out.  But, as all this was going on, the rheumy discovered that I have SjS.  So at the beginning of last year, I started the Plaquinil and was at home.  Things have mellowed out ALOT.  The symptoms are consistently about 70% better than I was.  So, yes I am still debating on returning to work with restriction of no lifting, bending and stooping as these can hurt my back and the pain flare up's just start up.
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Post by: irish on January 06, 2010, 09:24:30 PM
Roetta, One son is following Dave Ramsey's plan. Unfortunately I can't remember the name of it. Dave is on the radio on the AM dial--in MN he is on from 6-9PM answering questions that people call in. It is extremely interesting and also good advice on how to get out of debt. Lots of self control and denying yourself much of anything except the basics until you are out of debt. Many people are paying their homes off also plus credit cards in order to become "debt free". Oh, I guess Dave is also on Fox Networks business station. We don't get that so I don't know what kind of show he has there.

I am afraid I can't remember the name of the program that my other son follows. I would know the guys name if I heard it but have a bad memory. I know that if you would google you would find some good sites to visit. Dave Ramsey.com or maybe org is a good site. Good luck! Irish ;D
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Post by: eyeamdry on January 06, 2010, 10:39:24 PM
Irish, my sister is a follower of Dave Ramsey.  My sister and BIL  have a beautiful house on a lake in Michigan and just bought a second BRAND NEW 4 bedroom house in Fla.  They are now snowbirds.  I'm sure the house in Fla was a good deal as my sister is a skinflint.  But, I get go to Fla and have a free place to stay, thanks to Dave Ramsey.  Lucy
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Post by: harlin on January 07, 2010, 09:27:42 AM
hi all, I have finally made a decission. I am turning in my resignation this evening. I have an eye apt at 3:30 and then I am suppost to meet with my boss after that. I am so nervous about quiting I hope I am making the right decission. I will be a nervous wreck about telling her.  ???  But i hope some of the stress is going to be over!!!
wish me luck!!
harlin
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Post by: jordozmom on January 07, 2010, 11:01:24 AM
hi all, I have finally made a decission. I am turning in my resignation this evening. I have an eye apt at 3:30 and then I am suppost to meet with my boss after that. I am so nervous about quiting I hope I am making the right decission. I will be a nervous wreck about telling her.  ???  But i hope some of the stress is going to be over!!!
wish me luck!!
harlin

Harlin - I think that is fantastic!  You take care of yourself and be sure to keep us posted on how you are doing. 
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Post by: Rhonda on January 07, 2010, 12:01:44 PM
Harlin,  Keep us posted.  Good Luck!
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Post by: SassieCat on January 07, 2010, 12:43:11 PM
Good Luck Harlin!  It may take a little getting used to, but you'll be fine!
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Post by: roetta on January 07, 2010, 04:49:28 PM
Good luck, Harlin! I know you are nervous, but it will all work out. And just because you quit work doesn't mean you can't fill time with other things you love.
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Post by: harlin on January 07, 2010, 06:56:59 PM
Well I did it. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. Lots of tears [but I am a cryer anyway] My boss said she was expecting it but still wouldn't make any concessions. I told her everyone on heres boss let them work part time. she wouldn't budge!
At least that is behind me. I was a nervous wreck. I came home and slept like a baby. I guess the pressure of that is over.
I went to eye dr before I told my boss.
They put me on Restatious and a steroid for my eyes. Said I have a blurry spot upper right corner of right eye. He is going to do a mapping in 1 month to see if it is the plaquinel related.
I probably will be on here alot bugging the heck out of everyone for something to do now since I have time on my hands. I'll try not to be a bother. :o
love to all thanks for listening
harlin
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Post by: Bernice on January 07, 2010, 08:12:11 PM
Thata Girl Harlin!!

Look I probaly will be joining you soon, shoot I am tired of the stress, it's starting to wear me out! My work is not hard at all, but some of the people bring too much drama, mainly my boss!! Too much negativity!!!!
.
I have been in a constant flare of some kind since he has been there, lil over a year. For me mine involve my church and faith so It's twice as stressful, harder to seperate, too many there that I lOVE and to leave them AGAIN ain't easy! But they done brought a luantic in there, now we all are paying the piper? If that one person would just go away my world would be a better place. It has come down to either him or me and since he's the boss I guess it'll  be me leaving. We don't augue or anything I don't disrespect him as boss, I just can't stand to watch how he is misusing everything and everybody for his own use as pastor.


Anyway Harlin, Girl you can give a shout out anytime you need to holla! 8) ;)
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Post by: harlin on January 08, 2010, 06:27:55 AM
Thanks Bernice
I still have reservations but I think I will be ok, Looking forward to watching the gkids 2 days a week. something I have wanted to do since they were born. I need to get my house in order again [hasn't been done for years] I think I just might like being home.I hope ???
Thanks to all who REALLY listen. Not many people listen or understand.
Good luck with your decission. I to have friends that I will miss and love. I guess it is just one of the things that goes along with quitting. We all need to get rid of the stress in our lives and live for today as long as we can.
Blessings and hugs to all
harlin
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Post by: Bucky on January 08, 2010, 12:17:37 PM
Harlin - you did it!!   ;D  I'm sure you were very nervous waiting for "the talk" - I'm sorry your boss wouldn't even consider part-time work - I say, her loss.  It has been just over a year since I left my job and EVERY day I do the "Hallelujah, yay dance" that I don't have to deal with the added stress of working.  There was a time where I really enjoyed going to work - I liked the people I worked with.  Then two things happened:   1) we got a new boss who changed everything and made life difficult for everyone  2) SjS made itself known.  Going to work wasn't fun any more and I dreaded it.  The money I brought home wasn't worth it.  The day I gave my notice the weight of the world was lifted from my shoulders.

Enjoy the time you will get to spend with your grandchildren - that's time you can't "do over". 

Take care - hope there are happier days ahead for you.

Bucky

P.S.  I am so, so sorry for those of you who quitting your work isn't an option.   It's tough and my hats off to you.  Hang in there.
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Post by: jordozmom on January 08, 2010, 12:28:31 PM
Oh Harlin - I am SOOOO happy for you!  Now, will you come talk to my boss for me because I'm too chicken!  Nah, really I think I'll be joining you folks soon.  Be sure to take care of yourself and get yourself some good rest.  Exercise when you can and focus on your doctor appointments, diet, etc.  YIPPEE!!  I'm just so thrilled for you!!!
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Post by: tedebear710 on January 08, 2010, 01:03:42 PM
Harlin, even though it was difficult, giving up working will help your health in the long run.  Enjoy the time to recuperate, rest, and catch up on things at home.  It's wonderful that you'll get to spend time with the grands.

I would give anything to be able to quit my full-time job.  My husband is barely hanging on to his right now, so I'm stuck.  In today's economy we count our blessings that we have income at all.

Hugs,
Mary
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Post by: SassieCat on January 09, 2010, 11:48:52 PM
Harlin,

I know it was a difficult choice to make but I think you'll be happy you did.  It may take a few months to get used to, but then you'll figure it out and be JUST FINE!!!

I am happy for you and hope you start feeling better right away!   :D